This guy lied to me about his penis size?

[Anonymous]

I'm in shock right now. This guy I've been getting to know and I decided to take it to the next step and have sex. He was previously telling me about how he has an 8 inch penis, and I was like, okay. Cool. So we're in his bed now, things are getting heated and we start making out. Next thing we're stripping down to our underwear and I reach for his groin. He seems really hesitant at this point and tries to stop me so I ask him what's wrong. He tells me that he hasn't been completely honest with me and he pulls down his boxers. His penis was literally 2 inches (erect), no joke. I was frozen in complete shock. He kept apologizing and trying to explain himself, but I told him how bad it was that he outright lied to me to the extent of adding a whole 6 inches to his penis length. Penis size doesn't bother me at all but what he did is bothering me and I haven't spoken to him since. Am I right to react in this way, or is it not a big deal?

[Xelebrum]

Yeah he shouldn't have lied, espeially that badly, but at least try to see things from his perspective before you make any decisions.

Society doesn't just judge and pressure women to look, think, and act a certain way. Men have it rough too. We're expected to be as manly as possible, or else we're worthless. If we don't have high paying jobs, muscular bodies, and big dicks, then we are not considered to be "real men".

He obviously has his harsh insecurities and already feels less of a man. He felt that were you to know just how big (or in his case, small) his problem was, you would've judged him just like how society would.

You do have a right to be upset because he lied to you. But cut him some slack, and talk to him. He most likely already hated himself before the incident, this would only make it worse. Some men have even gone suicidal because of these situations.

[Xelebrum]

*especially

[Outofthegrey]

lol I don't know what the hell he thought was going to happen. Maybe he figured he'd lie his ass off to get you in bed, and then use the size doesn't matter defense to try and call you shallow?

This was a big deal, it's like claiming you've got a 6 figure income when you work part time at mcdonalds.

[Asker]

I know, well he didn't really bring up the size doesn't matter thing because I had originally told him that penis size doesn't even matter to me. Yet he still lied.

[Outofthegrey]

I don't know, some people just don't think things through.

[Jakesusername]

What if your a part time ceo of McDonald's?

[Outofthegrey]

@Jakesusername McDonalds has 22 CEOs, they all work full time (60 hours a week) and make ~9200 per hour.

[Jakesusername]

See they make bank

[Outofthegrey]

@Jakesusername And they don't work part time.

[Jakesusername]

They could if they wanted

[Outofthegrey]

@Jakesusername No they couldn't.

[Hannah591]

Do you honestly think every guy will be honest about it? If they have a small one, they're going to lie and I swear many add an extra inch on to their true size. I don't know why his penis size was so important to you, that's generally not what you talk about when you're seeing someone.
The fact he lied is an issue but you have to realise why he lied and not persecute him about it. He's obviously insecure. If you're not happy with him or his penis size, stop contacting him.

[Asker]

Like I said, I don't care that it's small. The fact is that he told such a huge lie. HE was the one who even brought up penis size in the first place and told me he was 8 inches, not me. I even told him penis size doesn't matter to me. I'm not persecuting him for having a small penis whatsoever, the fact of the matter is if he can lie about something like that I can no longer trust him.

[Hannah591]

If you can't trust him, tell him that and don't pursue him any further or you can forget the whole thing and try again with him.

[HeatherJoanGaG]

You can be mad but if possie let him know why you are/were made.

Look, it's a confidence things he might feel rejected because of his penis size and you just said that it was because he was not honest.

If you can let him now and if you want move on.

[Asker]

Yeah, I let him know I was angry that he lied, not that he has a small penis.

[flyjumpfree]

the pride of the man is in his penis very known but sorry your story is so hilarous I am dead laughing

[Asker]

I don't really blame you

[AustinMan]

It's not about right or wrong. If you were offended, and you clearly were, then getting up set is your right.

[Bvroon]

I know that size is largely not a factor for most women (no pun intended), however he really did lie pretty bad. Were I him I wouldn't have said anything about size, until the actual moment and then I might explain that I'm not huge, in this way I suspect it wouldn't have been as much of an issue. I'm not really sure how to guide you to get over that lie.

[krissgib]

Yes he shouldn't of lied cause who cares about the size as long as he knows how to use it. But if you like him. Give him another chance. I know a lot of guy's lie about there size. Stupid yes but they do.

[mr90skid]

lol wtf? He would of been better off saying he's below average.

[anaspie]

you are totally in the right! Bye boy!

[Klaatu51]

every guy with 2" penis would lie obviously... anyway he should b honest from da start anyway :)

[BertMacklinFBI]

im wondering how the fuck he thought he could have gotten away with that lie when he first told it.. LOL!

[Asker]

Exactly! That's why I'm so shocked

[BertMacklinFBI]

glad it didn't go any further than that right? lol

[anon-y-mous]

I'm with you. How the hell do you expect a girl not to know you have 6 inches less than you do.

[Asker]

Lol well I wouldn't have minded if he was honest from the start, but as he lied I can't trust him anymore. Once a liar always a liar.

[BertMacklinFBI]

he really fumbled on this one hahaa.

[zorro8888]

That's one big lie to put up. He shouldn't have done it but I'm sure you can also understand that is one of his biggest insecurities.

[Asker]

Yeah of course, I didn't put him down for it or anything.

[zorro8888]

That's good. I'm still trying to wrap my mind around the fact he added 6 whole inches :o

[Asker]

I know, crazy :/

[Margillard]

Wow, it would still be a lie if he said it was 8cm.
You can't have a relationship based on lies and no trust.

[Tthorpe16]

And you posting this isn't disrespectful.. I am sorry to say but you posting this is worst than what he did.

[Asker]

How is it disrespectful? I haven't named and shamed him so what's the issue? The guy told me a barefaced lie. I'm asking if I'm overreacting or not.

[Tthorpe16]

I am just saying, you say you don't care about the size then why post about it? Oh well he lied about his penis size, oh well he lied about adding 6 more inches but that isn't what matters. He can't help how big it is and yeah by what you said you did by your body language is probably the reason why he said it in the first place. you say you don't care about the size but your up on here complaining about his size.. makes no sense to me. If my boyfriend had a 2 in penis and he lied I would get over it. Not that big of a deal, whether your dating that person or not you should accept them for who they are. I mean if it really doesn't matter to you.

[Asker]

I said I'm not annoyed about his size, the size doesn't matter to me. He completely lied to me and expected me to be okay with that. You've completely ignored where I've said I wouldn't have cared about his size if he was honest from the start, I told him this myself and he continued to be dishonest. I know he can't help it and I'm not judging him for it. The issue is that he's a LIAR. Don't know why that's so difficult to wrap your head around. Stop trying to twist what I said.

[Tthorpe16]

First off. I know what you said.. I am not stupid. Second off what do you not get through your head that I am trying to say it is a pointless post.. 3rd off.. IT isn't A BIG DEAL!! You are over reacting over the tiniest thing!! oh well he was INSECURE, sorry not everyone wants people to know about their dick size.. So if you weren't smart enough when I said IT isn't A BIG DEAL in the 2nd post then I don't know what to tell you. And you saying I am twisting your words? That is where you are wrong, I am posting my opinion just like everyone else. If you don't like my opinion and can't handle it then maybe you should learn how to cope better.

[Tthorpe16]

And him "lying" to you? Maybe because of the embarrassment.. that is an obvious thing. And don't sit here and pretend you didn't make little lies, that lie wasn't even that big now if he didn't have a penis at all or he was secretly married, that is a big deal. but really over 6 added inches on a penis?

[Asker]

I posted this to get other people's opinions on the issue, I don't see why that's such a problem to you? I can post what I like, thanks. How is lying a tiny thing? Like Outofthegrey said, it's like lying about having a six figure salary when you really work at McDonald's. I can't let that just fly over my head and ignore it. If he lied about that then what else could he lie about in the future? He's insecure, okay, but that doesn't give him the right to be dishonest. I knew I would get idiots like you making ME seem like the bad person when HE lied.

[BelleGirl21]

I'd be upset too. All he could've said would be "I'm on the smaller side" or even nothing at all about it. :/

[JatRot]

Yeah, I am going ask? Would guys lie about guy's penis that? So they can have a shit with those girls?

[JatRot]

As for your situation. Men carry the sense of no shame. They see a girl as a taly. He lied about his penis? He will cheat on you. Great things you can oust him?

[JatRot]

Men even lie about other men penises to get a reward of sex. Don't give in with sympathy? He does not deserve it.

[JatRot]

Some men not all are stuck in high school to find that suitably okay?

[JatRot]

I didn't know guys were stupid enough to do that until I read this?

[TJM27]

You're not overreacting. It's pretty common for guys to exaggerate a little bit but straight up lying to you like that is ridiculous

[whatever256]

you're right, Although he has been proven to be insecure

[Tokana]

A lie is a lie. But some men need to in order to hide their insecurities.

[I_am_repulsive]

A lie is a lie no matter what content was; in this case, the size of his penis. He thought that by lying about it, you'll eventually accept him for everything else and have sex with him no matter the size of his penis. The question is, would you really gone through with the sex if he was upfront the whole time about it? I guess we'll never really know huh. In any case, people shouldn't lie about their penis sizes. Just accept what you have been given; small or big.

[Asker]

I still would've had sex with him, I don't know if actual penetration would work but there's always oral.

[I_am_repulsive]

He should have been upfront with you the whole time. Lying doesn't do anyone good and your example proves that.

[Asker]

Exactly

[1977Rob]

The fact that he lied to you is way out of order. But maybe just talk to him and find out why he lied.

Maybe the last girl he was with made him feel like shit about it and he didn't want to lose you because he thought you would not even give him a chance if you found out his size.

If you really liked him, and he was doing it out of fear of rejection (rather than just trying to get you into bed), then maybe its worth giving him another chance.

Is there anything else he lied to you about?

[Krillanr]

I guess the biggest part is that he lied to ya about something guys are often insecure about, up to you how to proceed, but keep in mind he was embarrassed about it.

[douride2]

Like you said he outright lied to you. I would be upset too.

[RainbowFanGirl]

I guess he just liked you and thought you wouldn't be with his size, and he didn't want you to leave because of that. That still doesn't make it justifiable for him to lie, and he should've asked and saw if you would be ok with it.