How to react when being twerked on?

Question

Last night was one of the most awkward moments of my life. I have always tried to avoid twerking because it made me uncomfortable the first time it happened to me when I was in middle school. I was like terrified of getting a boner and having a girl know that I got a boner. I also felt like it was violating to the girl, and it went against everything I believed in. Anyways, last night I was pressured into going to a twerking party with two of my female friends (this made the overall experience even more awkward) and well at first I was trying my hardest to avoid getting twerked on. Girls would start twerking in front of me, and I would just back away and let another guy take it. My friends were trying get me to get twerked on, but I didn't want it to happen. So you can imagine I was awkward af sitting there avoiding every twerk. My friends kept encouraging me and telling me it wasn't as bad as I thought, but like the whole time I'm with them, other guys are getting on them and that made it awkward af too. So, one time I was just standing near my friends and I was behind this girl, all of a sudden this popular song came on and instead of like the other girls she backed it all up on me, it was too much ass and I almost fell 😭 so, when that happened I still wasn't comfortable, so the next girl to twerk on me was my friend and it wasn't as awkward as I imagined and it made me more comfortable. I got twerked on a 3rd time, and by then I was completely comfortable with it. I hadn't gotten a boner once so I had nothing to worry about. I got over being uncomfortable, but now I need to know things for next time. Next time, I'm for sure bringing a guy with me tho. One important question is Where should I put my hands or should I just stand there?

DivaMonae · Accepted Answer

I doesn't matter if you get a boner it's actually more disappointingly if you don't because that's the whole purpose of it she's trying to pleasure you.

When she's doing it either you just stand against the wall and let her do her thing act like you're enjoying it, lean up against her butt, and if you're bold enough even touch her butt.

If that's too much for you wait until it's a slow song grab a girl and take a seat and have her give you a lap dance.

If it's afaster song and you know how to dance don't be afraid to dance on her.

danceforlife · Accepted Answer

the only place to really but ur hands is on her waist its normal. the next time u want to be twerked on and u see a girl u seem interested in u start facing her and dance with her a little bit then when ur ready grab her hand and turn her around. or she may just turn around her self. the goal is to have fun with it ur at a party there is ass every where (no homo) its like i guys dream so have fun with it

_annamitch · Accepted Answer

you could put your hands on her hips or on her waist... or you could just stand there :) personal preference I think :) x Anna x

Consultant · Accepted Answer

Live and learn young brother! So, the whole point of grinding on you is to get turned on, so who cares if you get a boner. Although, definitely don't really condone that behavior at your age.

Fast forward to college and after and grinding at the club or house parties. Lol. Get ready brother, get ready!

Klaatu51 · Accepted Answer

personally i'd just ignore her... twerkin doesn't mean much... and it might b stupid ;)

Rkbleezy · Answer

The only proper response. Is the reciprocation of affection. If you find her attractive. Put your hands on her waists and follow her movement. And move your hips and legs to the flow of her body. Dont make a stupid face. Either smile, or look happy.
The reason she is grinding on you is for three reasons.

Clout - she wants other to see her. So she's trying to stand out

Attraction - its different then affection. She wants you to know she thinks your cute and wants to make you horny. This is a hard one to be sure of so dont assume she likes you. She mostly does not. You dont know each other!

For fun - a lot of girls are just trying to have fun and make experiences to share with thier girl or guy friends. Dont ruin the experience by being a jerk. Or a stiff board. Be part of it and give her something to talk about. You may even end up getting more than what you bargained for ;).

Just remember. Safety first. Learn body language because you can't communicate easily in a loud area like a club or party. And leave your anxiety and depression at the door. Your at a party/club to make memories and have fun. Not to get a degree.

And lastly if its not your thing or your not attracted. Be respectful. Either let her do her thing and slowly dance away. Or try to manuever to the front of her. Or hey. I've even grabbed one of my friends as a swap out haha. Whatever helps you both have a good time. Nobody likes a stick in the mud.

And remember. Parties and clubs aren't for everyone. If you are having a bad time just leave. Don't let others opinions of you dictate how you should feel or act. What is fun to some may be disgusting to others and thats normal!

Hopefully this helps, and good luck!

CHARismatic110 · Answer

I don't know why this is so funny to me lol. Probably because I didn't know that there were actual twerk parties. But uhhh your best bet would be to just stand there lol.