When having sex with a virgin, how good it is will depend on the non-virgin, since that person is the one with the experience and knowledge. the virgin can read and watch porn and even do street polls, but only with at least some experience will the person be able to "perform better".
But also, what is "good sex"? If two people really care about each other, then almost any sex is good sex.
Like you said, you really had no clue. Any fault then falls on your guy and he should not have said anything bad aobut your performance.
I wish everyone thought like this.^
Sex with a virgin can be awkward but it is up to the expierenced man to take the lead and make it comfortable for the girl. Your boyfriend was a bit disrespectful. Porn is totally unrealistic. You only find out what you enjoy about sex as you have different expierences.
I'd like this 20 times if I could.
oh come on can he be more serious, it was ur first time having sex, do he know how much effort u make to give up ur virginity to him, he should be grateful that he was your first, and virgin girl dont enjoy sex for the first time neither because it can be painful, he just ain't know how to handle a virgin girl he just dont know how to take it slow n light with a virgin he need to be more mature to understand you. He jus didn't know how to have sex with a virgin if he did he would hv known how to please you and himself at the sametime
Of course not! Sex is rarely even good the first time with someone new. Its one of those things that you both need to know what's good and what's not. Take the time to explore each others sexual interests! It'll get better for both of you!
As you get older and have more sex you'll become more confident and will learn what gets you off and what gets him off. Then that's all house have to be to both be awesome in bed!
Well it is obviously that if she is a virgin she definitly do not have had sex before, and why does that make her to be good at sex without earlier experiences?
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Of course its not gonna be good the first time... whats going on in his mind? Girl don't stress about it. All girls have it hard the first time
he's a god damn idiot
No. You expect it to be very slow and mostly focused on making sure she's comfortable, not in enjoying it.
The first time you drive a car, are you more focused on getting where you need to go, or not dying?
I was more concerned about not killing anyone.
I guess I'm more self centered. I was concerned about not crashing into something and getting hurt than I was in hurting other people.
It should feel natural and intimate. It is not a performance. But first times are rarely perfect.
if she was a virgin... obviously no... :(
Omg, what a dick. It was your first time and he expected some miracle, mind-blowing, sex goddess-y sex from you? Wtf? I have no words for this.
I think that the guy is a first class dick for giving you a negative critique on your first time and he owes you an apology. Being given a girl's virginity is an honor. There can be no bad sex in this.
You're SO right. You sound like a gentleman. Thanks
Sounds like you were better than my last lay, and she wasn't a virgin...
This made me laugh. Thanks
I don't think anyone would expect that.
I wouldn't because they're new.
That guy is an idiot. Of course it wouldn't be good the first time! What else did he expect? You to be absolutely amazing? Don't listen to him sweetheart.
Na, Id just expect her to be stiff and grasp the bedsheets.
That's realistic. Thanks.
If the guy has experience in this, he ought to take the lead. He should make the girl feel comfortable instead of implying "it wasn't good", well duh, we didn't exactly know either what to do, besides when I first had sex the 20 second window between start and finish didn't leave much time to think it through.
Expect it to be awkward, but then again, practice makes perfect.
This made me feel better. Thanks
nope always terrible lol
How were your experiences with them?
crappy lol
Sex with virgins in real life isn't good. Virgins don't know what they are doing, don't know what they want, and are often not willing to learn. Virgins don't have the muscle memory and sexually creative mind. I've been with few virgins and kept running into the same problems. Sex with virgins is only good in the movies.
Why the down vote? It's true. Sex with virgins is frustrating. I want a girl that knows what she wants to do to me.
So what you're saying is virgins aren't open minded about sex?
Most virgins just lay there and choose to lay there. You have to tell them what you are going to do to them and tell them what to do to you. Then when you tell them want they want done to you, they won't do some things.
change your boyfriend. make me.
At least if one has an experience... It maybe hood for the other one too... the vigin girl maybe in pain but gets enough pleasure wid her experienced man...
No. It was awkward because we both were, but at least we kept trying and got a bit better. I know what I'm doing now for the most part, but I'm not with him any more so... each person is different.
Most women don't know what they're doing to begin with, so it's not that big of a deal. There's more starfish than cowgirls, if you catch my drift.
Your boyfriend is a jerk. Sorry
I think you replied to the wrong person, love.
Lol and I catch your drift. there's more girls who lay there than do the action, right?
How was it for you, I bet it wasn't mind blowing.
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