So confused as to why he does this, is he being a gentleman or just not liking it?

[Anonymous]

So my new guy and I started fooling around and he immediately has been all about me getting off and not caring if he gets off himself. Everytime we fool around he kisses a lot then he goes to my boobs then he goes down on me and stays there until I cum multiple times. Then he'll start rubbing up against me not having sex but just from my hole to my clit with his dick kind of like dry humping but without any clothes, I'm not ready for sex and he knows it. Anyways the other night he picked my friends and I up from a girls night out so I wanted to surprise him with a night all about him getting off to show I love and appreciate all he is. Anyways once we made it to the bed he was ontop of me kissing and then went down on me before I could say I wanted to go down on him he wouldn't come back up even when I pulled on his shoulders but I wasn't complaining I just felt bad cause I felt selfish and I love sucking dick so finally he comes up after an hour and I roll him onto his back now I'm exhausted from the multiple orgasms he gave me and alittle tired from my booze. I start kissing down him and he gets excited and happy and then I'm at it for a little bit telling him I want him to cum for me and he asked why I wanted him to cum and I told him I wanted to be the one to make him cum then he said it'd take more than that to make him cum but I'm a virgin so I'm not ready so I told him that and he caressed my head and said I know I'm not forcing you. Then I went back to giving him head and he pulled me up to kiss me and said that I waso really good at giving head but I looked sleepy so let's just cuddle and kiss. Then he had me straddle him and we kissed while he did the thing where he moves his dick against me while we kissed. Why did he pull me up and ask to just go to bed and kiss? He was still hard and hadn't came yet? Did it mean he didn't like it? I just want to make him cum and focus on his pleasure too, guys have ever done this? What does he want? Was he just trying to be a gentlemen and focus on my needs

[godfatherfan]

your letting him do everything except put his penis inside of you? Why?
there are not good valid reasons for waiting other then your scared.
sack up and get it over with. Sex is very important to an adult relationship. only negatives come from waiting. women put unrealistic values on it. I can never understand that.

[Asker]

I really like him but I'm afraid if I give him sex he'll leave and I don't want my first time to be with someone who leaves

[godfatherfan]

Well I have news for you. You could wait for marriage and that will most likely end in divorce. It is better to find someone that you really like and have a nice memory of the first time. Why women think like you I really can't understand. So what are you going to do? wait for marriage? so that means your honeymoon has to be ruined? you going to be in pain and bleeding. he can't have fun because he has to worry about you and all the emotions. that is a nightmare. You can't keep someone from leaving. but you can have a lot of fun. and it will bring you emotionally and physically closer to the one your with. So not having sex will definitely make someone leave that might have been 'the one". there are only negatives to waiting. no positives

[Asker]

Sex doesn't make a guy feel closer to a girl they just get happy that they are getting off and I know for a fact unless he wants something serious he'll be gone and I'll be attached, I don't get why you have such a big hate on for girls who want to wait but whatever that's your issue not mine, I just want to make sure he wants me the way I want him before I lose my virginity because I don't want to regret it

[godfatherfan]

That is a generalization on men. For most men, certainly any I have ever known, it most certainly does make someone feel closer. only sleezy assholes can have unemotional sex. And if that is the vibe you get from him why are you still with him? if you think so little of this guy that you think your pussy is the only thing keeping him with you, then why would you want someone that shallow around? women think their first time is going to be such an incredible 'never forget" moment. when usually it will not be anything special other then it is the first time. and men will always remember their firsts. Mine was tracy minnis, Aug 29, 1987. and I knew it was going to be a one time hook up because that is the woman she was. I wanted more. but I wanted to loose my virginity as quickly as possible and it still took til 19. get rid of it, it will be a relief

[Asker]

I don't know if he's like that I just know from my experience all guys leave especially once they have what they want. I know it's not going to be life changing or like the movies I know it's just going to be same old same old except I'm having sex. I'm just afraid of getting attached and hurt, I already fall really fast and I like him a lot I'm just afraid of him being like every other guy I like and leaving once they got it but I'm also afraid of him leaving cause he won't get it because a lot of guys have done that to me and rightfully so they didn't want to date they just wanted to have sex and go so I'm glad they left even though it hurt me I just know after holding on and waiting so long I'm going to regret it if it turns out to be a one night stand. I've waited 20 years I just want to make sure we love each other first I'm not looking for marriage just someone who won't hurt me

[sexyphil]

He's probably embarrassed about the mess it makes. What you could do to get you both off is to put his cock against your clit and dry hump him it will tend to get you both off if you do it right... let us all know how you get on XXX

[Asker]

I like cum and I like swallowing it, he seems to really like rubbing his dick against my clit and I like it too, I just want to give him a blow job too

[Klaatu51]

"Then he had me straddle him and we kissed while he did the thing where he moves his dick against me while we kissed. "<--- not so gentlemanish act

[Asker]

I know but then he just had me lay down and we spooned while he kissed my forehead and cheeks until we fell asleep

[jacquesvol]

It really feels good to give a girl a big O.

[jacquesvol]

Many guys come too fast, many others don't come easily.

[Asker]

It feels good for a girl to know she can please her man too :$ and fair I think he's one who takes awhile to cum

[jacquesvol]

Just like some girls have a problem to get an orgasm, guys can have that too: having a boner but not getting the big O.

[Asker]

I think it's because his last ex wouldn't let him go down on her and wouldn't go down on him so all they did was have sex so maybe he's just used to having sex?

[jacquesvol]

Many prossible origins: masturbation, over controlling his orgasm to give the girl priority or the habit of pulling out to avoid a pregnancy.

[Asker]

Do you think he would have told me I was good at it if he secretly hated it?

[jacquesvol]

If he secreetly hated it he wouldn't have done what you describe: he'd just have made you come and stopped at that.

[Asker]

Thank you! I just want to take care of him too and look after his needs

[jacquesvol]

'need' is overstating it. Pleasure is a better word.

[Asker]

Yeah I just want to focus pn him but he's always all about me

[Anonymous]

he was being a gentleman.

[Asker]

Thank you! I've never been with a guy who isn't all about them so it's new to me to have a guy this laid back and so focussed on my comfort and stuff