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Do you consider looking at a woman's breasts as sexual harassment?

Question was inspired by a recent article by the huffington post. From the article:

Do you consider looking at a woman's breasts as sexual harassment?

Feminists have reacted negatively to the advice given in the column, so now I'd like to hear other peoples views. Do you consider the advice given to be good or bad?

The advice given was solid
Vote A
The advice given was wrong
Vote B
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  • I think it's bad advice, not because I think there's something wrong with not being terribly discreet about looking at a woman's boobs, but because the doctor was addressing the wrong matter. The woman's main issure is clearly that the guy was looking at her boobs despite having a wife, and she wants to know what she should do about it. That's what she was asking. She never says she felt uncomfortable/objectived by the guy's perving. On the contrary, she even says "not that it matters". I find it puzzling how an esteemed scientist could so easily focus on the wrong matter entirely. I also find it strange that the women is asking for advice from a scientist when her issue itself has nothing to with science and more to do with workplace ettiquete. Lol go figure.
    To answer your main question, no I don't think looking at someone should be considered harassment. It's not morally acceptable to tell people what they can or can't do with their eyes. Besides, if it was against the law to look at someone's body then no one would look at you, not even people you think are hot. Would you want that?

  • Most of the opinions are about men staring at a woman's boobs, which is not what the article was about. It was about attempting to look down her shirt.

    Guys are guys. They will look at what is presented to them. If a woman wears something very tight and/or clingy, they will look. If she wears something that reveals a large amount of her breasts, they will look. If she wears something that falls away so they can look down it, they will. And all women know this. So they are controlling how much looking a normal male will do by how much they are exposing to him.

    Yes, women are free to wear whatever they want. But a large part of that decision includes how it looks to others, and if you know it will gather attention to your boobs, then remember that that was included in making your choice of what to wear.

    That said, I will look at what is "presented to me", but I try not to stare.

Most Helpful Girls

  • I can't believe this is an issue. I mean really you expect men to look when YOU want them to look at you, but if they look when YOU don't want you want to call it sexual harassment.

    That's unrealistic, men are men and most straight men are going to look at women that are attractive to them, including their breast. Men are just more visual, generally, deal with it. I mean would you want to never have the attention of a man?

    I am not saying he should just stare or strip you with his eyes, but if you are fortunate enough to be attractive then you should be mature enough to realize others will see you as attractive and take their glances as a complement. I'm also willing to bet you have used those attractive features to your advantage as well, so got to take the good with the not so good.

  • I don't think looking should be considered sexual harassment, we'd all be in jail by now. It would be better if he didn't stare, but what can you do about it? I'd tell something if it bothered me that much, but I understand if she doesn't want to cross that line with her advisor. As long as he's interested in her work and doesn't make any other move, I think it's fine. I voted A, the advice given was pretty solid, tho I would have used different words, "put up with it" doesn't sound completely appropriate.

  • People are allowed to look where they want. Sure, it may be considered rude but it's not harassment (in my opinion anyway). I agree with the advice given by Dr. Huang. You can't really control where people look, all you can do is ignore them and try to redirect their attention to your work and the job. Of course, touching or grabbing would be a different story, that obviously should not be tolerated but simply looking at a woman's chest is not a big deal to me, personally.

    • Thanks for MH :)

    • your answer was solid

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  • I voted A. I think the advice is sound but it's important to know that there's a fine line between being respectful and disrespectful. One or two quick discreet glances is not going to make me feel objectified. But starting at my boobs for extended periods of time making it obvious that you're not paying any attention to what I'm saying will make me feel like a piece of meat that isn't valued for who I am but for my breasts. So it really depends on the context and exactly how discreet this is. Especially in the work place environment.

  • I didn't vote. If you aren't happy, tell him so. If you can take it for some flirtation and are okay with it, then say nothing. If he persists, then you need to tell him forcefully and if that doesn't do it, you need to escalate. You have two ready avenues and I'd suggest you threaten both if you have to say something the second time. You can go to HR or you can go to his wife. I recommend the wife as you probably don't want his career to tank but he'll stop. Trust me.

  • The advice given was solid.. only if he's not staring at her chest in a creepy way, eg all the time. Generally, looking isn't a form of sexual harassment, when it's just a quick glance. When there is someone looking at you intently, it is. Especially when a group of men are staring at you intently in a deserted place in the night. It's intimidating

  • What I think is if a girl does not like a guy looking at her in this way then she should not look at a guy in the same way. If she complains about guys looking at her in this kind of way and next minute looks at a guy the same way she is a hypocrite. End of story.

  • Hi, feminist here :3 Personally, no, I wouldn't consider looking at my breasts to be sexual harassment. Commenting on them, yes, but just looking? No, I don't think so. However, I also wouldn't just 'put up with it', I'd call the person out on it. It's not harassment but it would make me feel uncomfortable to be talking and to have someone's eyes fixed on my chest instead of my face, it would just feel disrespectful. So, if I noticed them doing it a lot, then I'd tell them that I didn't appreciate it. But no, I wouldn't say looking is harassment.

    • Femanists annoy me they dont want equal rights they what what women think is equal rights the shit things for men are not made equal with women :O

    • Like I said, I'm a feminist and I can tell you that I do want equal rights, but if that's what you think, you're entitled to your opinion.

  • It should be pretty simple - a glance=ok. Staring = not ok.

    Men will always look at women's breasts. Always. It is inevitable. But staring is never good.

  • I figure if I'm wearing a shirt that shows off my cleavage a guy probably can't help but look :P sometimes I even catch myself staring at a chicks boobs lol.

  • No it is not if they had worn a low neckline shirt, a free for all peek a boo show. :)

  • It would be, if the guy keeps stopping to stare where ever he sees her.

  • Wow that's bullshit. If a guy keeps looking down your shirt everytime you are in his presence its rude and disgusting. The attention is unwanted and you shouldn't put up with that. :/ Bullshit adivce.

    • This poll is so fucked up lol damn It is sexual harressment. he's not her partner romantically. she's a co-worker. And if he knows, its DEFINITIVELY sexual harressment.

    • @Bards Are you saying if a straight guy looks at a lady below the neck just once it is considered sexual harassment? If you are then most straight guy if not all that work with women could be sued

    • Lol no thats not what I said and thats not what this article is saying @fun-weird-guy This isn't once awhile. This person keeps looking down her shirt. Its horrible.

  • The irony is women run after getting their boobs to perfect shape and size, wear clothes so that they look more attractive. But then they hate it when a weird looking guy looks at them. The situation changes when the guy looking at them is hot.
    #hypocryticworld
    #notantifeminist , I just said what the reality is.

    • lol read the woman's question again. she never said she hates it. she even says she doesn't mind. her problem with it is that the guy is married. she probably feels guilty that a married man is looking down her shirt.

  • I voted A, but there's a fine line between casual glance and staring

  • I think that we have right to look at what is shown. If girls do not want others to look at their breasts, why do they show them? Same with other parts of body. If a girl wears tight leggings, she says: yeah here I show u my ass, take a look. If they don´t want guys to see their parts of body, they should not show them.

  • i dont like it when girls stare at my penis either. thats private. its why i wear pants.

    • of course if i WANTED anyone to look at it, i would put it on display. like most girls do with their cleavage.

  • The advise was so wrong. If you're making someone uncomfortable then you are harassing her/him.

  • lololol... of course it is. if it's done consistently, why not?

  • I think there's two difference stares: "the looking/admiring" and "the I'm undressing you with my eyes". I don't mind people looking, but as soon as he begins to undress me I feel disgusting and want to cover myself with anything in reach and/or run away. I think the difference is quite obvious, but maybe guys don't realize they're doing it?
    Still in that setting she shouldn't have to worry about her advisor, who she's suppose to trust and have an academic relationship with, looking down her shirt, so I can see the advice flawed. Perhaps if the advice given was worded a bit differently the reaction wouldn't have been so negative. Because honestly who going to react positively when anybody says "put up with it."

  • As a female I think we should get over it because THEY ARE GUYS! What do you expect, of course they are going to look. As long as they don't touch. Ladies, that like going shopping for clothes and you see a bag that you like. You didn't go shopping for bags you're going shopping for clothes. Maybe that was a bad example, but don't change the guy. He's just peeping. Hey you should be happy that's he's looking at you, especially if he's cute. I mean there is probably a reason why he looked ! Kill him with a joke or sarcasm if you are feeling discomfort. I say let them look !

    • i am a guy.. and i like big boobs, and do look on occasion.. but there's a difference between a casual glance and overt staring... the latter imho is harassment...

  • Every guy I know that hates feminism supports equality, it is this type of nonsense that men are getting sick of. When a guy can't even look at a woman he is attracted to it should be clear why we don't like feminists. They have simply gone too far and are shaming all male sexuality.

    If I complained about a girl or gay guy staring at my ass, it would be clear to everyone that I was the one with the problem not the person looking. Being a woman does not mean people don't have a right to look at the light bouncing off your body and into our eyes.

    • Agreed, many modern feminists seem to be on a mission to change or extinguish a man's sexualiy. I guess they think be if they're loud about it they can win out over biology. Good luck with that!

    • Not sure where the "be" came from in the above sentence...

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