Why do people hate slow sex?

[Anonymous]

Everyone is always going on and on about rough, fast jackrabbit sex like it's the only good sex. But personally slow sex gives me the deepest more satisfying orgasms, and I have never had as good of an orgasm from rough fast sex It's more like an orgasm and slight discomort but you don't feel like it hurts as much because you can't really feel much pain trhough and orgasm but still not good! Everytime my boyfriend and I try faster rougher sex we arte both just like "nu-uh nope not great". So I really don't understand why people are so obsessed with porn style jack hammer ridiculous sex?
I never get the same "ohhh fuccck this feels so good!" sensation with fast rough sex as I do from slow gentle deep sex. Like even medium speed is nice but just supersonic energizerbunny sex I can do without!
I know people think that you have to be fast and rough for sex to be exciting but that is sooo wrong, we had slow passionate sex standing up, in my car, in the shower, (even on a table in the university library because we snuck in at night) and fast shallow thrusts or fast deep thrusts that are way too damn forceful just make it seem like you don't know what you are doing and you are just trying to replicate some cheap porn or a ferral dog!


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[DaBuzzman]

Very good question! Guys are pretty simple and you may have to wait years. What I mean is guys in their teens, 20s, like fast and quick porn like sex!. As we get older and I'm in my early 40s, I'm completely opposite now. I'm more interested in slow, intimate and passionate sex. I love to touch and love to be touched now. I love everything slower. I love exploring each other's body's with oils, massages, nail scratches light or hard, heavy teasing and petting, incorporate some toys or vibrators, and games sometimes. But most important we focus on each other's orgasms now.. I love sex that involves more sensual handjobs and blowjobs. Not the porn gurgling stuff. I don't want it to be over. I try to focus my mind on something else lol. I focus on getting her close to off and trying to time each other together. I use my hands and mouth all over her and I love to go down on her and actually taste her beautifulness. She loves when I use toys on her. Things like that! But I now especially love cuddling and spooning her and getting inside of her from behind and just holding her and slowly thrusting her. For me and for us it's now about slow sex and not fast sex. I'm not saying we don't ever want quickies. We do that too. But It should get better as you age and you will enjoy the exploring and trying so many new things!

[loverdude]

Yummy slow sex is so sensual
Makes me turn on
I loved it
Wow
Omg
Nice pics
It makes me turn on

[HyperOrphic]

Honestly it's typically about adrenaline and stimulation; for a lot of women (myself included) slow motions and sex isn't enough to make me achieve an orgasm. Quick repetitive movements is what works for my best orgasm. It's all based on preference. If "jack rabbit sex" is what works for them, then it's what they should do. If you wanna bang slow, do that.

[XLlabia]

Slow sex. I can take his hand and have him rub my clit. I'll cum several times if he does that.

[hellionthesage]

I don't hate slow sex, I prefer slow to medium, but near climax it does tend to be more frentetic. I also don't think fast sex is necessarily diffrent from sensual. I'm not into rough sex really, but I do think thats diffrent from frentetic sex. No matter my pacing it usually ended with me kissing my girlfriend at the moment of climax which for me made it all the better.

[FantasticPlanet]

I had a lot of what you call "slow sex" from 15-21. But something primal was stirring, and once I found it, I can never go back.

I liked lovemaking just fine, still do enjoy it as a prequel or foreplay leading into heavier motions.
But to only ever do it, well, it left me empty feeling.

[Asker]

and you wouldn't care if she is in pain and not enjoying herself because it's "primal'?

[FantasticPlanet]

I see what you're saying. You think my roughness stems from selfishness. You couldn't be further from the truth! But I have found that if you communicate with your flings/dates before intercourse, you get a feeling for what they like. I've exclusively dated/slept with women that hate slow, vanilla sex. The girls I'm attracted to (and are attracted to me) find slow sex unexciting & somewhat effeminate. They like their men primal, and I like my sexual partners submissive. It's a match made in heaven! If I did find myself dating someone that didn't enjoy the same sex as me, we would talk it out, and find ways for us to both find pleasure in our activities. But I've learned life is too short to have bad sex. Find someone that likes what you like, and have at it! Oh, and be safe!

[Asker]

most of the guys who did that too me were selfish and didn't give a shit how bad it hurt because they were "real men" blah blah blah I guess I'm bitter about it.

[Asker]

and slow sex doesn't have to be "boring" or "vanilla" you can still be kinky without destroying someone's pelvis and cervix

[FantasticPlanet]

Hahaha! You are soooo right! There are a lot of selfish lovers out there, most of them (if not all of them) men. And I agree, slow sex can still be kinky as hell! I actually prefer slower when I'm performing anal sex on my girlfriend.

[kik94esseker]

both is great but it depends on the mood
for example when i see my girlfriend after a long time we have rough sex sometimes we have sensual sex
but mostly is has to do that we live in the age where porn is easily accessible so as we grow up we have a distorted view of sex

[Pvt_Nutzack]

Slow sex is more for the other person than for yourself, i play a game on my head "how many times can i get her there in one go" their is no slow sex or fast sex, is just making love or fucking

[cth96190]

I like to take my time and make love, not fuck.
Though, after 14 years without touching a woman, I can barely remember what sex was like.

[Tarvold]

Slow sex rocks!

The problem is that the vast majority of men learn about sex from porn. It's not our fault, it's just that society is still far too prudish to be able to discuss these things openly and without judgement. Whatever. This is the world we live in, and we must live with it.

Men need to admit that we suck in bed, so that we can start learning to get better. Women, please help us navigate around our egos. You'll be the ones who benefit in the end.

[jjmarvin]

I don't know either. I'm afraid that if im not manly enough in bed girls won't like me :(

[Iron_Man]

I dont think people hate slow sex at all

[jakeofalltrades]

I prefer slow sex mainly cause if I go to fast I cum to quickly