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Sexual Health Is my boyfriend a 40 year old virgin?
Laura81 Xper 4
Ok. This is going to sound very weird - because ut is very weird. I am a grown woman in my early 30s, with a boyfriend in his early 40s. Well, that's states: we're not kids or teens. But - I kind of feel like I'm reliving my youth. Ok, shirt version. It went a veeeeeery long time before our relationship got sexual. And now that it is, it's really strange. He is very sexual, and wants to finger me or give me oral almost every day. When he does, he kind of also stares at my private parts. Really stares: for a long time, with this extreme facination in his eyes. But- He won't allow me to touch him. He has let me a few times, and trust me - there is nothing wrong with his private parts. He is always aroused when I get a feel of whats underneath his pants... The few times he has let me, I have always "made him finish". But afterwards it's like he gets a small anxiety attack. Saying things like that wasn't a good idea, we shouldn't have dine that - and sort of disconnects. After he touches me - there is no auch problems. But, he seems insecure. Saying that he's not good at what he's doing etc etc. We tried to have intercourse one time. He started panicking when trying to put on the condom. Saying things like: I don't know how to do this etc. Then he slipped inside me, but after 30 sekunds he pulled out and said he couldn't do it. He rambeled to himself a couple og minutes, and left the house... The next day he told me we could touch each other , but no intercourse. So, 100 dollar question: what is his problem? I figured it must be more mental than pysical. He is raised chatolic (I am not). He said earlier on that he has had girlfriends before, but I am starting to wonder if he really is a virgin. What he resembels most, is how I remember it was with a insecure 14 year old boy my first time... Please: help me with some insight. I don't Know how to bring it up with him, cause he is a bit fragile. I try to encourage him though - but I find it hard to ask straight out
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