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I feel a little ridiculous about what I've been doing. Are blowjobs really that inportant in a relationship?

My boyfriend and I have been dating for a year now. We have only been together about 7 months of that year because he has been serving overseas in the Army. He will be coming back next week and I am so excited. Before he left our sex life was really good altho I always felt I was never really good at giving blowjobs reguardless of what he would tell me. It probably seemed more like a handjob with my lips around him and I never let him finish in my mouth or face. A little while after he left we were talking via email and he made a commet that he could not wait to feel my lips around him again. At this point I decided I was going to practice giving head and get really good at it. That night I started researching tips and even watching some videos on how to give great BJ's. I needed something to practice on so based of what I read I ordered a dildo that is probably slightly bigger then my boyfriend. For the lat four months and several nights a week I have been practicing giving head to my dildo. I even got the one that shoots artificial cum so I could practice cum in the mouth. I would say I have come a long way with my BJ skills. In the four months I have gone from only being able to put about 3 maybe 4 inches of it in my mouth to being able to all 7 inches in my mouth and making it cum like that without even so much as a gag. I feel kinda stupid about what I have been doing and even embarrassed about admiting it to y'all. Im just wondering do you think it will be worth it in the end? Are blowjobs even really that important to yall? I would fell kinda stupid if I did all this silly stuff for nothing.
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Most Helpful Guys

  • Blowjobs are often important for some unconscious psychological reasons. The competing forces of dominance and submission are in play. She's often on her knees which is submissive but she has a very important and sensitive part of his anatomy in her sweet mouth with all those potentially killer teeth. He's standing over her but is vulnerable at the same time.

    Here is a link to some killer tips for mind blowing blowjobs.

    www.girlsaskguys.com/.../a7404-blow-jobs-tips-from-a-deep-throat-queen

  • This.
    This is the hottest thing I've heard all week.
    Nay, all year.

    So anyways, keep up the practice, maybe make a video for him of you practicing, then blow his mind a couple times in a row when he gets back.
    Film that too, just for yourselves to watch later!

Most Helpful Girls

  • Heck yes! Good job, girl! BUT... if he's wondering how you got better at what you were doing, be sure to tell him you were practicing on the dildo.

    If I left my girl for awhile and came back to her able to deep throat me when she could, I would think she stepped out on me. :)

  • Blow jobs aren't that important, but youve don't it to please him and relationships are about doing things for each other. Plus I bet he'll love it :)

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  • no, it's not THAT important... it adds to sex life but it's not goin to make or break the relationship... what u did is commendable... he must know how lucky he is!!! don't think too much about BJs they don't need to be perfect... you are ready to give it should be more than enough for him...

  • ultimately, it shouldn't be a leading factor lol.

  • Nope, they are not important.

  • Blowjobs are important, of course. Most important thing is relationship, how you feel with him, when in bed together and how he makes you feel...

  • Don't feel embarrassed by what you did at all... I think it is commendable! You tried to better your skills for you man, nothing wrong with that!

    The fact that you care enough to try... says a lot about your personality.

    If only most women and men for that matter tried to please there SO to that extent everyone would be much happier :)

  • It's worth it and he's going to be very happy!

  • If a woman was willing to do that for me I would marry her, you sound amazing!

    I have to ask what exactly is this fake cum made of?

    • I'm not exactly sure but you can order it online. That's what I do.

    • Does it taste like cum or can you choose a flavour?

  • I think you did a good thing practicing for him. I'd say blowjobs are part of a healthy sexual relationship.

  • No BJ = no rrelationship.

  • What should make him happy is the fact that you're trying so much not if it's really that great or not and I'm sure you will do fine..

  • You haven't been practising giving a blowjob, what you have been practising is one minor aspect of giving a blowjob. If you want to give an amazing blowjob, you only need to do one very simple thing. Communicate with your guy.

  • i think what you did is dumb. a good blowjob is about doing the right things to the right areas. a dildo doesn't teach you that

  • 1) I think it's amazing that you are that dedicated to pleasuring your boyfriend. 2) I for one love a good blowjob so I think they are important. 3) If I were him I would think you practicing is hot

  • No. Sex is important but bjs aren't a deal breaker

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