Girl, who's just a friend asked to sleep over, and then sleep in my bed with me. Did she want to get sexual?

[Anonymous]

After she and a few friends and I hung out at my place, she asked if it was ok if she stayed the night. I said yes and was wondering if she was wanting to become sexual in some indirect way by suggesting this. So she stayed after they left and got ready for bed. In other words, she went into the bathroom for a while, and came out afterwards in just her t-shirt and panties. Didn't seem flirty or anything, in fact just chatted with me some casually and watched TV. Whe she said she was ready for bed, She asked if I was comfortable enough to let her sleep in my bed. I was ok with this and told her I'd take the couch. She howerver insisted that I didn't need too and that I could be in the bed with her! MInd you she was just in her t-shirt and panties, I usually sleep in my underwear and a t-shirt. I asked if she was uncomfortable with this at all and she said "no Im totally fine with it, we're just friends afterall, we're not having sex or anything" I was pretty turned on as she's pretty attractive, but I didn't make a move. She slept right next to me. Did she want anything or was she serious? Any of you girls any do this with a friend?

[Paris13]

I had an Experience, however Not an Actual 'Experience,' where my bestie when we were 16... Used to sleep over and in in the same bed. It was never a big deal and it was the only thing we had to share with at the time, no couch or anything, so it wasn't weird at all.
However, the picture changed when one Kodak night she tried to make a pass at me and I realized... something was wrong. I laughed it off and nothing was ever mentioned... Not until she got married a few years later and she came to my house.
She admitted to being in love with me and not with her husband. I sadly had to refuse her, sent her on her merry way and we never spoke again.
Yes, your friend has a crush on you. Not sure if she is actually Bi by nature but doesn't matter. She has some sort of sexual attraction for you and you seem to as well, so you decide...
Good luck. xx

[Paris13]

Oh, wait... I just realized you are a guy.. my bad sweetie... Yes, she has a crush on you and if she wants to share the same bed, she is sexually turned on to you and you as well, I am guessing.. glad to be able to share my own story if you were a... girl.. my bad, so sorry. xx

[Asker]

Thanks for your story! Probably would have happened to me too if i tried to make a move. Nothing really happened in bed and I didn't try anything. She rolled around a couple times, changed positions, and sometime our bodies touched. Was very horny but tried to control myself. In the morning, she was already up before me and got dressed. Hung out some and chatted but then she said she had to go. That was it. Texted her later to ask how she's doing, and she just replied "good". was a couple days ago. I want to text her again, and possibly ask some questions. Just wonder how to broach the subject. It was all so weird and I feel like she led me on. What do you think?

[Paris13]

Thank you for understanding and was glad to share... With your own situation, it sounds like she may have been a bit Hurt in her own way.. she may have expected You to make a move and when you didn't she is short now with her answers... tell her you would like to talk and ask her, face to face "So... can we talk about the other nite?"xx

[Asker]

I want to definitely, all that forwardness with me and insisting on sleeping in my bed, with only t shirt and panties is just too much. Though she dismissed it, saying she "trusts me" not to make a move. Thats most likely girl code for "go for it!"

[Paris13]

I would 'Definitely' have to agree.:)) xx

[Asker]

I was able to talk to her some about it. Told her it was confusing that she would want to be THAT intimate with me, but insist that there wasn't anything sexual about it, and asked her about her feelings for me. She said that it was not her intention to lead me on and that no she didn't have a crush on me. Also that I read too much into things sexually as well as Im a guy. Still is friendly with me and wants to hang out from time to time. but don't hear from her much.

[Paris13]

Okay, I see... well, one things is for sure, she feels comfy with you all way round. xxoo

[Asker]

Well, I may still see where things can go with her. Be a little more assertive, and maybe it will happen again. What do you think? Seems like a good shot ;)

[Paris13]

I feel she is comfy and cozy with you and perhaps with afirst kiss, it may not miss... Yes, hang in there... I have been fooled a few times in my own life, where at First, I liked someone for a friend till the end, but in the end, it suddenly hit me, there was more in store.. you have as good a shot as anyone and may not be just shot in the dark. xxoo

[Asker]

Ok, so your pretty familiar with this too. I mean I know the nature of girls' indirect way of communicating sexual attraction and subtle ways they use to try to get the guy to make the first move. To say "no" but then want it, and be even more forward by getting into bed with me close to naked is pretty difficult to decipher. I didn't want to make an ass of myself, go in for a kiss, or put my hand on her or anything as I didn't want her to become angry or repulsed, thus losing a friend. However this may be exactly what she may have wanted now in retrospect right? I'm not the greatest with females, flirting and things related unfortunatey. Im sorry. Now the trick is spending time with her alone in a similar fashion to be able to "make a move". Though not sure how to go about it as I haven't heard from her in a while. You feel this way when it comes to guys, and put yourself in a position like this? I'll do my best though im nervous.. :)

[Paris13]

Ifeel she is comfy enough but right now, with not having done anything with you just yet, she may be afraid to get something special started, may also be scared of ruining the good thing you both have going and flowing.. she is showing sure signs of something here, dear, but go slow with her flow for now anyways. xx

[Asker]

I am trying to now, gave her some space, but will contact her if she wants to hang out next week or something, maybe with another friend too? Would want to build up her comfort level around me again if thats how you think I should do it. You said that you felt similar ways towards guy friends, before finally realizing your feelings. So I'm gonna not bring that night up anymore and just see, I don't want to be too forward, nor distant either. This is complicated arrgg! Will try to get her alone eventually, and if its a good time, try to kiss her. These subtle tactics are very tricky for me, but I know you females are like this.. so...

[Paris13]

You both have developed a nice friendship so be careful... she may only subconsciously realize there is something there so go slow with the flow and let the moment be where it is just right for the first kiss... You will know then what to do next. She may reciprocate, she may be shocked and just tell you she likes things the way they are. However, it had me wondering here with the bed deal so thought was there more in store? xx

[Asker]

Yes, part of me really doesn't want to ruin this friendship I have with her. My issue is that there was sexual tension and if she was desiring it that night I blew it. Doesn't mean that it still isn't there. I really wish I could make it move faster sexually but know I can't be too aggressive. Will try to invite her over to watch a movie or something, and then see what I can do.

[Paris13]

Yes, be cool and let Mother Nature take over if it is right for the reaping. xx

[Anonymous]

Hard to tell need more details what happened when y'all got in the bed and I might can tell u more

[I_am_repulsive]

Maybe just want to cuddle

[nate18]

Probably. What happened?