Not an easy task and not all guys require the same solution. When I was younger if I got a good buzz going from alcohol it would help me last longer. Note I said buzz because if he goes much beyond that point he may not function at all. My wife told me one night that she wished me to last longer during a BJ so she could enjoy it longer. The solution we came up with was this. She jacked me off first because it is very difficult for a man to cum a second time in such a short period. It was a success and we both benefited from it! So before the main event you could try that. Something else that worked in my younger days was for me to think about something else that was not sexy during intercourse. Not paying attention to the pleasure at hand would help. They make creams to desensitize a cock as well but those have always scared me, especially before I was done having kids. Another technique he could try is also something I have used in the past. This requires him to be in control and before he reaches "the point of no return " he stops and either just kisses you until his cock settles down, or just do things to pleasure you without causing friction on his member, but obviously not to the point of becoming soft. Then he can start thrusting again. He should be able to repeat this quite a few times before he cannot keep from exploding in you. Hope one of these techniques helps.
you can cum from a blowjob? lucky man...
Do things that don't lead to his coming. Since you're dominant, make him pleasure you the way you like (without his penis). Make him go down on you till he's really good at it. Lots of ways to do that. Tie him down and put your pussy where his mouth is. :)
Lots of things a dom can do to edge a guy. Spank him. Tease him. Penetrate him. Have him penetrate you with dildos, etc.
Over time he should be able to hold out more. Zoning out for a guy (where he totally controls his cumming) would usually involve actually having control over the experience, and that option is absent here.
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What's Your Opinion? Sign Up Now!Well maybe that doesn't have to be a problem. Its only a problem if you stop there. Just as a man gives a woman forplay to get her in the mood, after he orgasms you can do the same, midplay if you will. Hell that could be part of your little sex games if you want. Then when he does get erect again he will be able to last longer. You can also try and figure out if he has any tells (like poker) that will let you know that he is close so you can back off and give him a breather, or have him warn you. Despite what porn shows, the average length of time for sex is usually between 7 to 10 minutes. That of course can increase with experience. You can also try using cockrings and such, that will help trap the blood in the penis allowing it to remain at least mostly erect (never actually used one myself).
It's hard for some guys to control his release especially those that are shall we say new to sex. Factor in your wardrobe choices and the dominance factor and it's even harder to control. Maybe he will need to become a multi round guy
so your doing your job right and your complaining. If he is young, then let him get the first one out of the way, he will be ready to go quick enough. But ladies, that doesn't last forever. By the late 20's that time between is larger and larger. By mid 30's the number of times he wants to have sex per day is way down. 40's? forgetaboutit. I really don't want sex more then 1x a day and, if I can pick, no more then 3x a week.
Well, that is kind of his job. Not much you can do. They make special condoms with a de-sensitizer in them. CVS sells them. Really though, your guy should practice holding back a bit.
Have him jerk off first then come back five minutes later most guys last longer the 2nd time around. Have him slow down take his time
You can try to do sexual things with him and stop when you think he ready to cum. That will cause him to calm down and you can try again to have sex. He might last longer since he is not as excited.
by pausing until he's ready again
He needs to think of something else but the sensation
Or the brutal Ice Cube Technique, I heard not everyone likes that one
Just let him blow and then get him hard again.. guys usually last a long time once they have cum that first time...
I would recommend someone with fortitude. If that's not an option, tell him to think of something boring like baseball scores, if that doesn't work just be honest with him & find someone else that's more sexually compatible with you. Kind of selfish of him in my opinion.
why? you're doing you job right and you are complaining.
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