I have to wonder how healthy this is, to be honest. I'm not saying this in the tone you might think - I'm saying this out of concern because I had a friend whose wife gave him sex only a few times in their relationship, then cut him off entirely due to her damaged libido. The couple was told by a counsellor that she may want to consider sexual therapy if she wanted to remain in the marriage.
I say this because I'm sure you may want a relationship - because of what you said about men not seeing you in a "girlfriend way". So I'm wondering if you do long for a relationship, but once you are in it, will not find the desire to have sex.
If I'm reading this all wrong and you do have a libido but you are just not seeing hope in finding the right guy, then that is totally different. Many women in their teens and twenties are finding relationships harder to find as more people "find themselves" during these years and don't take relationships seriously, or are guarded from getting in to them because they want to focus on education or have heard too much negative about relationships and are avoiding them. The guy you are meant to be with will come along when you least expect it, and is probably out there right now wondering where you are while you sit at home and don't take the opportunities when you go out.
If men aren't hitting on you as you think you'd like, the way they do with other girls, it is likely because of your image or your personality sends the message that you are not the kind of girl they would treat that way. A guy WILL eventually see beauty in you that he can't help but take charge and tell you, and it usually takes a guy a few years out of this extension of the teen years that they have to make their mistakes and learn that we girls aren't all perfect, and that's when they slowly start to realize that looks aren't everything.
Be patient and don't stop being you, and throw some indication out there that you are ready for the opportunity too. If you feel like flirting, do it. You might shock a guy that something just dropped out of your mouth that was sexy and he didn't expect it coming from you! It's then that a guy will likely turn his attention on you because at that moment, you just became sexy. :)0 0 0 0No my libido is fine, i was never asked on a date you know. So literally they dont see me as a girly girl they want to be with, cuddle, kisss etc. Never. That makes me think that im not made for dating /sexual life at all. Because even my interesting personality, wise mind, cute looks and nice style are not attracting men. A guy up there said "you dress weird"... like im 24 ok, he means all these years i was so weird for men they dont want me. Thats nonsense, as i dress really nice and have common sense.
Boho chic isn't weird and is in style. It's not that. I'm sure you're lovely. Tons of women these days in your age range are having a problem, as are many guys. I did too a long time ago. It's a selective time if you're not one of those people who are out to play. Not being asked out yet is a bit more common than you think, so don't give up too much hope! :)
What do you mean out to play?
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The reason guys don't hit on you is probably because of the vibes you are giving off. You are probably giving off "I'm not available" messages so guys just don't come near you. I have read what you said but I'm sure there is something in what you are doing that is acting like insect repellent to guys. I imagine you are still a virgin? Are you in the USA or UK? Message me if you want to discuss it further.
0 0 0 0Yes virgin. but i dont know what vibe you mean? what, is my behaviour wrong or something, with guys? Im just a random girl, im open, like to joke. im not weird or anything. i can be pretty straight forward , not too much. No idea...
Pass without actually being face to face I have no other suggestion of coaching. By vibe I mean that something you are doing is giving the wrong message to guys that you don't want them to get too close are you. Wher abouts do you live?
South Europe , where the guys generally are more flirty, which makes my believes even more real... I dont think im doing anything wrong, i see girls less attractive who get all the male attention tho
This is the hardest question I have seen so far. Is really hard to tell what's going on, I feel there are a lot more details as why this is happening.
0 0 0 0Like what? as a man, tell me why is it difficult to you? what are the details whi h can influence?
The way you act and the way you dress make a big influence. Are you feminine?
Yes i am femenine.
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0 2how do u dress then? u didn't mention...
0 0 0 0ever heard of boho chic? well i love it)
awesome, but i'm afraid many guys might find this outfit... err, weird :/
But im not wearing literally what you see on fashion magazines... Beside you're telling me that guys judge clothes So much that they dont even want to approach a girl... well that hella, Hella shallow
Maybe your just ugly?
0 0 0 0No im not.
Lol. That's what they all say ;) :p
Look if you think im ugly fine, you dont know me. I thought people are more clever here.
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