He's stressed about something.
You're going to need a long, deep conversation with him to sort out the real issue.
Unfortunately, there is little that men hate more than a long, deep conversation about what is wrong with him.
So first you'll have to figure out if he WANTS to get his sex drive back.
If that turns out to be a yes, then you may proceed with caution to asking him when things changed, why they changed.
You are just as driven as ever, but he is the one acting differently.
It's a tough subject to tackle, and he's unlikely to go into it willingly. But as long as he doesn't leave the conversation, or shut down, then you are making progress because he WANTS to fix things.
I've been this guy before, and the girl that talked me through it now gets more dick from me than she ever planned on.
In fact, it might have backfired a bit for her.1 0 0 0Thank you for the MHO 🏆🏆🏆🏆🏆🏆🏆🏆
I've tried to talk to him multiple times. He gets defensive. I'm very calm and mature while talking to him, but he doesn't take it very well. How did your girlfriend do it do that you didn't get defensive?
You're welcome!
First, men are like the boys in junior high school: when asked if they masturbate, 97% do and 3% lie. Men watch porn. Deal with it. I suggest you find a good couple's counselor and figure out what's going on. Could it be that he's kinky and you're vanilla and he won't say anything?
1 0 0 0I can deal as long as it doesn't interfere with our sex life. Which, at this point, I'm not sure if that's what it is. I've made it very, VERY clear that I'm not vanilla. I've bought sex toys, games and wanted to do different positions. He will 98% of the time flip me back to missionary. Also, he doesn't want anything to do with games. If anything, he seems vanilla.
We kinksters can't ever be happy with anyone who's not as enthusiastic about the kinks as we are. I suggest you strongly consider moving on.
I think you're right. I think I'd be happier if I just got it MORE!
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Dear, I am sorry to tell you but your guy probably has another woman. Every girl I have ever known, including myself that this has happened to, found out that he had a mistress.
4 0 0 0Thank you! I'm definitely going to watch out. I just don't know how! We've had such a great relationship, he's a great guy, etc. His sex drive dropped about a few months in... isn't that kind of early?
yes. And dropping to the extent that you indicated. Yes, great guys and great girls... we trust them. That is why they can cheat. Maybe he isn't, it is just my experience that that is the only time sex gets sparse.
Yeah, you're right about that. We trust them, so they're able to get away with it. My eyes are wide open now... thank you! Just a crappy situation to be in.
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2 8Sounds like his hormones are out of balance, and affecting his libido.
0 0 0 0Maybe he could see a doctor about this
1 0 0 0I'll see what I can do to convince him.
time to move on.
2 0 0 0I'm seriously thinking now.., thank you!
He is cheating on you. A man will have sex with you even if you are Unattractive, unless he has an alternative. I am sure you are attractive, I am not saying you aren't. BUT you need to start looking to him for your answers.
I would put a recorder on his things, or in his car (they are cheap... like $8 on ebay and record about 10 hours. rechargeable... Ill link one)
You can also put WebWatcher on his computer. It will record all of his web activity. There is one for smartphones too. Don't think "he wouldn't do that!" THey do. And they LIE.
www.ebay.com/itm/like/231390820323?lpid=82&chn=ps0 0 0 0This seems a little overboard. How often do you want to have sex in your relationship?
I just don't wanna turn into that crazy girlfriend, you know?
okay. but remember what I wrote and keep your eyes open. When a man (or woman) cuts way back on sex, he has another woman
There can be many reasons for this. He can have a decrease of testosterone in his body or maybe pron made him desensitized.
1 0 0 0His friends are always sending him pix of girls boobs and MANY other body parts. Sometimes videos. Do you think that seeing that (and possibly porn) all the time could really make him not have sexual urges for the real thing with me?
Yes, I have noticed this myself. I wasn't attracted to girl in real life anymore. I'm trying to stop watching porn all together. It is still hard to stop tho.
Wow! Not a good situation to be in. I'd much rather have the real thing, but then again, I'm not a guy. Thank you for your thoughts. And good luck with the habit! :)
You must be ugly.
0 0 1 1I most certainly am not, but thanks for your input.
@Asker you don't have to thank him for input like this.
If a fit woman strutting around doesn't turn him on, he needs to get his test levels checked and possibly do something to increase them.
1 0 0 0He says that no one has ever turned him on visually, so maybe you're right. He says he's attracted to me, but it just doesn't seem that way because of his lack of urges.
You're fit and you stand in front of a guy. I think that you know what 99 percent of men would do without me going into detail.
You're around my boyfriend's age. Any stock into what the guy says above about him cheating?
I don't know why, but guys loose interest on sex and they don't ask for it. I was with one married woman like 3 years and she was saying they didn't have sex st all. You need to make serious talk with him.
0 0 0 0Either he is gay or his sex drive is lower than the average guy or maybe he is asexual.
1 0 0 0I'm leaning towards not gay, but sex drive possibly. Cheating, maybe.
You're 35-45, how old is your boyfriend?
0 0 0 0I'm 36 and he's 33
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