Guys, In your opinion why does my boyfriend treat me like a fragile little thing in bed?

I've been with my boyfriend for two years. I always though he was just a vanilla guy. We tried rough stuff but just because I pushed him a little. I though it was how he is but last week, we talked about past flings and he admitted that he went all "fifty shades of grey" with some as he put it (He never read or watch it but you get the idea). I asked him why he didn't do it with me and he just said that he didn't really know, that with me it was "different".
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  • Honestly, it's probably because you act like a fragile little thing in bed.

    Try behaving like a depraved, cum thirsty, wanton whore. loudly proclaim where you want his dick, be aggressive or bratty.

    Grab his hand and put it around your throat.
    Tell him to slap you right before you cum.
    While sucking on him, stop and open your mouth, ask him to spit in your mouth to better lubricate the blowjob...

    I'm sure if you show that you're interested, (as opposed to saying that you're interested) he'll follow suit, and get more aggressive with you.

    We men actually really enjoy it, but if we date a woman that seems very quiet and gentle in bed, we're less likely to introduce her to rough sex.
    If it's always sweet, when would be the proper time to hold her arms behind her back and do her up against a wall?
    Exactly.

    • I'm kinda of halfway already. I don't just lay there. I made him grabbed my hair, cum on my face or in my mouth, pinched my nipples, I don't hold back my moans and I grab his butt so he goes harder. Though you're probably right, I should make it happen... it's just not easy to find the right balance when you just love when the man is dominant

    • Okay, so if I'm reading this correctly: •he's been rough before you •you like him rough •he's been kinda rough WITH you •he doesn't take the lead and initiate the rough-sex •you really just want dirty sex MORE OFTEN from him? Is this accurate? Or do you want the dirty sex to be dirtier?

    • It's correct. Except that he does take the lead but when it's vanilla sex. This exemple of rough sex are just a one time thing every two or three month because I pushed him and really asked for it. Other than that, our sex life is extremely basics. Three positions, soft foreplay. The thing is, soft sex doesn't get me really wet. The couple of times he pulled my hair? I was dripping wet and in heaven. So... I would love those "rough"stuff a little dirtier and way more often

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    • So... you have three myTake that answer to every single aspect of my questions. My question must be extremely common! Thanks a lot, it was really helpful.

    • I'm glad I was able to help. Will you do us the honor of an update when you've applied what you learned? I'm always looking for feedback on what really worked. I do have one quick question: Though you didn't mention it, was resisting and protesting being treated the way you described part of your fantasy? Some of the hottest sex I have had has been when I had to "take it," so to speak.

    • Of course, and it probably won't happen in a day so I'll probably need other advises. I never really though about resisting and protesting. The only time my boyfriend or a partner just "took it", I was totally willing. Though, it could be quite exciting just because I love strong men who dominate

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  • Maybe because he cares about you a lot and doesn't wants you in pain
    I'm the fifty shades type but would I go Mr grey on my partner, I highly doubt that...

    • I don't ask him to go mr grey on me at all ;) I like it rough, I like when it's passionate, when he grabs me hard and right now, it's pretty much light touch like I'm fragile.

    • well in that case i think u need to talk to him passionate is good and i think should be a part of every bedroom

  • communication is the key, just talk to him about it, be open , honest, and to the point

  • Is not as you put it, we dont act the same with everyone. If someone has certain actitud then we act in someway, is posible that you dont provoque or inspire him those kind of behavors, wich is not bad, just what it is.

  • Keep pushing him babes XXXX

  • It is so hawt

  • It's a domination thing. If he feels you can't take it show him that you can by taking control.

  • Are you really small? Some guys just have a hard time with that because they view girls as innocent little waifs who need protection. Girls are sturdy as hell and can take lots of punishment. Most girls I've been with really like it, too.