Is sex even pleasurable for women?

Question

I hear all the time that most women don't cum and stuff like that. I Can't wait to lose my virginity but, am I just gonna be dissappointed?

SammyGurl · Accepted Answer

Sex is very pleasurable with the right guy, for me the chemistry, trust and love have to be there before I would even think about having sex with the guy. Our first time was amazing because it was in a safe place where we could be comfortable by ourselves, he made a special dinner for us, we soaked in the hot tub, he moved the bed into the great room in front of the picture windows where we could watch the ocean and hear the waves crashing. He was amazing to, so attentive and caring about what I needed both to orgasm and getting me ready to have sex. After we had sex he went and got a warm wash cloth and cleaned me up, then himself and we snuggled together watching the surf until sleep took over. My guy (fiancé now) is a bit larger than average, so about a week before the planned event, we began doing stretching exercises using fingers alone because I was pretty tight to start with. We first started with just one of my fingers working up to three at a time before working up to two of his. Because we prepared things for us, I didn't feel a any pain only slight discomfort. We used extra lube, Astroglide and he penetrated me slowly allowing me to get used to him being inside me in stages until he was in all the way. What I did feel was being stretched both in circumference and length, that was actually a good feeling. I didn't orgasm from the penetration, he did led my clitoris while he went in and out that alone made me orgasm. I have since learned to orgasm from penetrative sex alone, he is able to hit my G spot and my clitoris gets stimulated from the grinding together. Orgasm from sex and from another person whom you love and trust is amazing, masturbation doesn't compare at all. Learning to have sex with your partner takes some practice to get good, the practicing is half of the fun!

Hippieswithchains · Accepted Answer

Sex is amazing!!!
Most of the time.
Tbh losing my v card wasn't anything like I had hoped. It wasn't magical, it wasn't beautiful, it didn't even feel THAT good. It was awkward and we made weird sounds and I was scared shitless that I was pregnant right up until I got my period. The first couple of times weren't super great. They were good, but not great. I didn't find good sex until I was with my ex. We clicked and understood each other. We took the time to learn each others quirky pleasure things and try new stuff. Sex takes practice. I'm now at a point where I know how to make sex good for myself and for my partner, but I had to work up to that. It's a skill for sure!! so no. Loosing your virginity probably isn't going to be everything you ever dreamed it would be. And yes it takes time to learn how to cum. But don't let that discourage you. If anything it should be motivation. If you practice it can become something you love doing and are really good at!

kaylaS91 · Accepted Answer

Some girls can cum from sex, whether it be from just that or if they find a position that incorporates clitoral stimulation at the same time.

You won't be disappointed. Even if you don't cum from intercourse itself, doesn't mean you won't cum at least once during foreplay. For me at least, sex isn't all about the pleasure either.

Sometimes the best nights will be ones where we just cuddle/make-out naked, no sex. It feels amazing to be so close and intimate with someone you care about. You literally can't get any closer, so if the chemistry is good and he can get you to cum often enough one way or another, it's like a drug.

oldlady · Accepted Answer

Don't set your hopes too high for that first time - it takes a lot of women some time to figure out what works for them and then teach it to their partners. But as long as you seek out partners who are inclined to indulge your needs (and in my experience most men really WANT to be great lovers), sex is downright amazing, both the physical sensations and the emotional connection.

CuriousCody · Accepted Answer

If you have a clitoris and it gets stimulated properly then yes sex will be very pleasurable.

You'll have the ability to orgasm from oral, clit massaging and some finger play.

If you have a sensitive gspot, you'll be able to experience vaginal orgasms without the need for clit stimulation.

However not every women has a sensitive gspot so it's more likely you'll need clit stimulation yo achieve orgasm.

There are certain position where a guy can rub his mons pubis against your clit as he's penetrating to make you achieve orgasm, but that's not possible in all positions.

There is an alternate plan tho.

Certain condom packs come with vibrating rings. Those rights slide at the base of the cock and as the guy penetrates, the ring gently smacks the clit so she'll be able to achieve orgasm.

In my experience, women who have sensitive gspots really love dick. Like they're the type of girls who crave a good pounding with minimal foreplay. It won't apply to all of them, but it's been true in my experience

truthbeknown · Accepted Answer

Hmmm, well you can be pleasured but not cum. Of course we all want to orgasm, but that is just the end result of being pleasured. Most women do not orgasm from intercourse due to the natural location of their g-spot and/or the inability of their partner to hit it during intercourse. Intercourse can still be very pleasurable, but not enough to induce an orgasm. My wife cannot orgasm through penetration. I give her orgasms through oral sex or manual clit stimulation. She is totally happy with that. As long as you with someone who can provide you an orgasm somehow and you are willing to let them, I highly doubt you will be disappointed.

selfishstars · Answer

When I first started having sex, I had a difficult time reaching orgasm with my partner, but sex was still very pleasurable and enjoyable. Now, I can reach orgasm very easily, often having multiple orgasms, and sex is even better.

RationalLioness · Answer

Some women are disappointed because the guy doesn't know how to work his penis/tongue. He also may not be focused on pleasing her and only himself. It might also be because she's uncomfortable or it's hurting her. Another reason is that some really don't enjoy/care for it.

UnknownXYZ · Answer

Achieving orgasm does not define how pleasurable sex is for a woman. You might be disappointed but who knows?

PrettyBama · Answer

Yes. If his stroke is good. 👌🏾

Casper286 · Answer

Sex feels amazing you won't be disappointed

HowzItGoing · Answer

I hope you won't be disappointed. If it's not all that you hoped for the first time, maybe the second or third time it will be? If the person you sleep with is someone you care about, and who cares about you, then the sex will be amazing as you are doing something very intimate with a person you adore.

LiveFreeorDieHard · Answer

Depends, pick a guy with a good reputation at sex or so, eone who you judge to be good at sex and roll the dice.

VonHoffer · Answer

Sex should be very pleasurable for both sexes. It should be saved for marriage. Save your virginity for the man you will marry and you can feel pleasurable during sex no matter how many times you have it.

ClariceOwen23 · Answer

Yes. It's always pleasurable for me.

Blueymusic · Answer

You won't feel disappointed you'll have fun Don't be to happy to loose your virginity

Froz_5061 · Answer

No ! No chance to be disappointed.

OrdinaryGentleman · Answer

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Anonymous · Answer

Honey. it all depends on the guy

Anonymous · Answer

It is somewhat pleasurable but honestly, unless it's someone you love and trust, you probably will be disappointed. When I lost it I was like really? And he was my boyfriend, but we didn't have the best relationship-I felt sad and empty inside

Anonymous · Answer

If sex isn't pleasurable for a woman, she's either not feeling turned on or the guy isn't paying attention to her needs.

Anonymous · Answer

Probably not since they are getting their insides ripped open.

Anonymous · Answer

Not all girls can cum every time they have sex. Or maybe the guy just isn't good at what he does! Sex is very enjoyable

Anonymous · Answer

Yes sex is very pleasurable for women. However, depending on a lot of things (ie: position, penis size, vaginal wetness) it can be better or worse. Also guys and girls enjoy different things in bed. The last girl I had sex with came over 10 times before I even came once. You just have to find out what you like, what he likes, and try to make compromises.