My guy best friend asked me if I masturbate?

Question

I was texting my guy best friend and he wanted to ask me a question so I said okay so he comes out and asks me if I masturbate, I said I do and then he started asking me for all these details like where I do it or how I touch myself or what I think about. After that he continues on by asking if I ever masturbate thinking about him and tells me that he gets off and fantisizse thinking about me. He kept asking more questions about it such as if my fantasies are kinky and bad or if I moan and bring myself to orgasm. Why is he asking me all of this, does it turn him on or something or is he judging me and thinking I'm weird for it, what is going through his head during this conversation? Also as a guy would you ask someone this who is just a friend? Or would you asked someone this because you like them as more than a friend?

Ozanne · Accepted Answer

Having a friend of the opposite sex is nice to have when you're younger and wanting their perspective on things. Talking about sex is one of them because if you're both single you can get a clue as to what might be on the minds of the other gender.

But what he's doing is going beyond that. He's asking you something very private, which in some ways is fine to get an idea of what women do masturbating, but he's crossing the line by making it personal.

Now that he's done that, it's a big indicator that he's not just wondering about female masturbation, but YOUR masturbation. He's looking for clues on whether or not YOU like him, as it's obviously been on his mind. He's masking all these questions to get personal with you and find out where your mind is sexually and if he's a part of that.

If you don't have the same interest in him, you do NOT need to answer these questions. A simple, "I'm not answering that," in a non-defensive way should get the message, but if he persists, so should you in standing your ground on what your boundaries are.

But hey, if you like him too, then go ahead and have your fun chatting about it, as it's pretty obvious he's interested. :)

Booceyboo · Accepted Answer

I've talked about masterbation with guy friends, and turn ons and turn offs, simply because I'm pretty sex positive, and I think its natural to be curious about the other sex's habits and asking a friend can be a safe way to inquire. I think when they start asking questions that are a little bit over the top, (asking if you moan) it can indicate that he might have more than friendship on his mind.
The fact that he has said that he has masterbated and fantasized to you is not 'just friends' behaviour. He is clearly thinking about you sexually, but he's doing it in a way that I feel might be making you uncomfortable and highly aggressively that is not only bad friend material, but probably bad boyfriend material. Tread carefully gurl.

cinderelli · Accepted Answer

asking is not that bad... but he says he gets off while fantasizing about you.. now that is weird..

MadeInAmerica · Accepted Answer

He is probably beating the hell out of his meat while you answered all these. And no I wouldn't ask these kind of questions to a female I want just as a friend.

AustinMan · Accepted Answer

He's sexting with you, like text phone sex. Of course it turns him on. Did it turn you on?

OlderAndWiser · Answer

He likes you as more than a friend but this is an extremely awkward way of sending that message. Is this guy extremely shy and inexperienced with women?

Porter21 · Answer

It would turn me on to ask you if you masturbate! Yes he is getting off on asking you he was probably masturbating when he asked you. I would have been I am getting horny just answering you. I will be masturbating later just thinking about this! I am leaking pre cum already!

JustinCaseUDontKnow · Answer

He most likely could been masturbating while asking you questions cause my ex girlfriend called me one day while we were together and she was asking me questions while she was masturbating..

KDA20 · Answer

I think he might like you

malachimccoy824 · Answer

My friend in the 8th grade asked me how often I jack-off (masterbate). I told him that I usually jerk off in the shower or when I see some cute girl on television.