Girls, my girlfriend wants to be able to giv our friends head but says it won't turn her on, is this normal for a close nit group of friends?

[Anonymous]

I have a very close nit group of friends, we live in the same house (all guys) and we are all open and honest with each other. My girlfriend said she doesn't mind pleasing me in front of them as we all know eachother years, one day was giving me head one day and my one of the guys commented on how good she is. It was kind of awkward so I decided to stop her and that night she asked me why I stopped her. I told her I felt kind of weird/jealous that he said that about her. She said that I shouldn't and that she wants to remain "open" and "honest" around the guys, whatever that means. But the strange thing was, she said that I should let her give the guys head as it wouldn't mean anything and they've already seen her do it to me. She said she feels sorry that they can only watch and she knows guys have a way higher sex drive, that she wouldn't be turned on or anything and it would just be a casual thing whenever they wanted it but only in the house. I feel strange but I guess I see where she is coming from. We've been going out 5 years and she's known my friends for the same time. We're like a family. In a way I feel like if it's just casual then it's not that big of a deal? I know she won't be horny from doing it and she really thinks as a guy I shouldn't have a problem with it. Should I? Do girls mind doing this, if they know it is safe and the guys won't talk about it outside of the house? Or is she secretly turned on about this?

[Derpyy]

Hmm. Aside from her denying it, would it he bad if she WAS turned on by it? I know of a couple of set ups like this around some friends and both of the girls get turned on by it, and the boyfriend likes thst it turns her on. But I don't know what you're really into. If she likes to be passed around and you're okay with it too, then go for it.

However, make it perfectly clear to her thst if she cheats (has PiV sex with them) that you two are DONE. Do not let your kindness be taken advantage of too far...

[Asker]

Yeah I read about it online that it was common enough that's why initially I didn't wanna sound uncool and say "you can't do that!". She swore she wasn't turned on by it, but if you see my update I came home and I think after she did something with one of the guys she felt really guilty mainly because eventually I said I didn't want her to anymore. She started crying and kept saying she was being mean to me so I felt terrible, I reassured her she's ok and nothing is wrong. But now I'm not sure what way she will take that. One of the guys said that they would do the same if their girlfriend was open minded... Do some girls do this when being the only girl in a house or what...

[Derpyy]

I know of some who do it, but they all get turned on at some point.

[becca123]

Sounds like she found a way to cheat with your full knowledge and approval. Gosh, how sweet of her to offer to lower their stress level and how heroic if them to be ok with it. Geesh, like they would say no?

I don't even know where to start with all of this. I will say, for the sake of your pride, don't agree to this. Also, don't be surprised that she does it anyway, behind your back.

[XRabbitHeartX]

That's highly abnormal and weird. I'd be worried if she wants to do sexual things with your friends...

[Asker]

Thanks for replying. It's good to get insight! I think it's strange too, but she said that since she's the only girl ever around the house and that they don't mind it will calm stress levels. I'm ok with it now since she's talked to me about it and reassured me it's not weird/absnormal. She's quite a hippie type of person and very open minded, kind and caring. She said she'll only do it in the living room (main room) when people are watching TV or whatever. Maybe I'm thinking about it too much? Or should I say no to this? I'm kind of.. I dunno :S

[XRabbitHeartX]

@Asker It will calm stress levels? Lmfao. You can't seriously fall for this BS. She's basically wanting to cheat on and you're falling for it.

[Asker]

She honestly said it wasn't going to turn her on though? See this is where my head is starting to get messed up because I know she loves me and she's so caring about peoples feelings. She told me that they've become use to seeing her give me one and what difference would it make once I'm ok with it. I said I was fine with it because I didn't wanna look jealous. Will I just wait and see if she does?

[XRabbitHeartX]

@Asker OK you must be trolling. Good job.

[Asker]

Sorry if you think this is a troll, but I'm genuinely not. It's hard to know what to think in situations where you are really in love with someone and they want something that kind of throws you off. Given our history, it's not unusual for her to ask me out of the box type stuff in general, last year she went on about wanting a threesome with another guy but there was no way I was having that. Outside advise usually helps clear the mind or bring another perspective on things so thanks, I dunno if I'm been taken for a ride here or what.

[EA100724]

Umm hell No! If anything I would break up with her unless you're into that shit. If a girl is willing to please a man in front of you she probably would do it behind your faithful back. Just saying

[Asker]

Well i don't really mind once she's not being turned on by it. She said it to the guys just now and they all (bar 1 as he's not here) said that's fine. She said it's because their all stressed when they come home so it would help. I suppose girls see things differently?

[EA100724]

It's just weird that she doesn't respect herself but if you're open to it then whatever. By all means let her suck them off...

[Poppykate]

I am sorry, but there is only one name for your girlfriend, and deep down you know it! Your girlfriend is not some pleasure toy that is passed around like a chip bowl. I think you would find that blow jobs would progress into something more so easily. Don't kid yourself on this issue, intimate sexual acts between couples, should remain exactly that intimate. Otherwise they lose there ' specialness' that helps form a bond between the couple. Maybe you two need to talk it out some more.

[Ropersgirl]

No, unless she's everyone's girlfriend. You should be the only one that gets her period no sharing.

[jelicocat]

What the hell. That is really weird. I can get if she was turned on by it and if it was a fantasy for her but it sounds like she just doesn't really care? Of she has low self respect.

[Spicy3197]

Yikes. If this isn't made up it sounds like a regular old shit show. Everything about this is wrong. If she loves you then your sex life should be private. She also shouldn't be blowing your friends. This is bizarre

[Wowzers__]

Um i wouldn't do that... I could just be me but i like giving my boyfriend head but only him i would just do it because some othee guy saw us and feels left out or whatever

[Asker]

She did say it's not actually for her pleasure though, and I pretty sure now she thinks I'm fine with it. Is this common among some girls living with only guys?

[Wowzers__]

Not any girl i know would do that and I wouldn't want my boyfriend to be comfortable with that but i might be different

[Anonymous]

There's no way this is normal at all. And even if y'all are like family, would you let your girl suck your brother's off? She just wants your approval to cheat seriously. And think about it, sucking their dicks might lead to something else when you aren't around.

[Anonymous]

She's offering to suck off your buddies. If you got jealous before you better think about this. How will you feel about it?

Maybe she does want to suck them off.
I'm sorry but when I give head, I instantly get wet and turned on.

She's going to end up doing this shit when you aren't around and your buddies may just like what they get a taste of.

Tread lightly.

This could turn gangbang in about 5 seconds