My girlfriend says she wants to sleep around?

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Honestly I'm 1000000% against it and she doesn't understand why.  I really don't understand how anyone could be okay with their significant fucking other people.  I see sex as an intimate act with her and as long as we're together, I don't want anyone being that close with her.  I don't see why she rather fuck randoms when she could be fucking me, the supposed man of her dreams, the guy she wants to marry.

She says she's not gonna develop feelings for anyone else, she just says it's fun to have sex with people for the first time and feels she's missing out being with just me since she's bi.  Why be in a relationship then?  Why not just stay single and have sex with everyone like you want?

I know if we had an open relationship, i wouldn't be sleeping with anyone else and all I'd be doing is being worried sick about her and then there's the risk of disease ofc.  It's like why?  if I'm a really good fuck, why do you need to be with other people to be satisfied?

I don't mean to sound ignorant, but if someone could explain to me her (and people like her) logic.

She says she wants to spend the rest of her life with me, but that's starting to seem incredibly unlikely.

Dave24 · Accepted Answer

A good way to see her side of the story is to imagine that you had met a new friend at the weekend and he said "but I want you to stop being friends with all your other friends. You're with me now, and I want to be exclusive". You'd say "Um... no, actually my other friendships are valuable to me and I enjoy hanging out with other people."

It's like that with sex. You can have a main partner you're incredibly devoted to, even in love with, and yet also have other people with whom you have intimate relationships without negating or diminishing your main relationship.

EarthToKepler · Accepted Answer

If my girlfriend even thought about that I would leave her.

I couldn't share My girlfriend EVER she could be my worst enermy but I still couldn't do it.

But I'd leave her. If you deny her that then she'll probably go out and cheat anyway

RationalLioness · Accepted Answer

It sounds like cuckold (ery) but not really. Many people are into it. There is no way to explain it---it's just something that turns her on. It's a fetish of hers--she still wants to be with you, but it's a thrill being with someone new and never having them again.

I'm sorry about your situation though. There are people in relationships like this but they're both usually okay with it in some form. I doubt she wants to give you up--she loves you--but even though she may be sexually satisfied with you, it would be more stimulating to live out her fantasy.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Well there's things women can do for her that you might not be able to. What if you guys agreed that she can only sleep with women? I'd take advantage of this because it could lead to a threesome.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

So why don't you just have 3somes where you can control a bit of what happens? I get where you are coming from but maybe if she watches you do another girl, her mind will change.

WhatTheHellAmy · Answer

Let her do what she wants and break up with her. You can't be in a relationship if you are gonna have fun.

JohnBhoy94 · Answer

Fuck that... if a girlfriend pulled this on me, I'd be out.

SakuraChii · Answer

Leave her, you have different views on this

Jimrat86 · Answer

I would seriously love to see the way the women would respond to this if it were a MAN who did this instead of a woman...

evenlift · Answer

Wow, she really has zero respect for you. It's time to dump her.

Bandit74 · Answer

Just dump her You clearly care about her more than she cares for you. You're getting the short end of the stick here. Leave her and find someone better.

tantanyasf · Answer

I agree 💯% with you. But there are females and guys just like her and see it as normal maybe you shouldn't be with her If it really bothers you.

DaddyRollingStone · Answer

She's probably already sleeping around and doesn't want you to feel bad about it. Just dump her, she's going to do it anyway.

ThatGuy98 · Answer

Dude you need to seriously consider this relationship. My personal opinion is to dump her ass and never talk to her again. If she doesn't value sex and intimacy more than that, then she is not ready for a relationship either.