Guys what would you do if you found out the girl you really liked, dated or married used to be considered a tramp/ used to sleep around a lot?

I was watching chasing any where Ben Afflecks dated a girl and he loved her but his friends kept telling him rumors til he found out she was like a huge ass hoe slept around a lot. Type of girl your friends would call if they were bored for a guarenteed lay. In the end his insecuritys left him alone even though she loved him he couldn't get over the fact of he history. Now guys what would you do if a girl you liked, dated or married decided to open up to you about her past that she used to sleep around a lot and have threesomes (with two dudes). I've had a couple girls that liked me sort of get very serious and emotional and tell me "I used to be... very promiscouse" I just look at then as if I've been stabbed in the heart guess out of anger and jealousy. I always end up looking at them just demoralized tone and a look on my eyes of dissapoinment and grief "why are you telling me this?" (I didn't want to know it shattered my ego and how I felt about them). The look on their eyes have been as if they just told me their ugliest deepest darkest secret an I've just told them "well your a piece of shit and no one will ever want you". Usually we get quiet for a while and change te subject. My guy friends tell me how a girl like that is just trying to move up and wants some one who will treat her right but I'm too good for a girl with a past like that. No matter how much I like them I start to wonder if this is the type of woman I want to marry or introduce to my mom est... then my friends calling her a slut and names and I decide to stop seing them. I end up seing them randomly around town in passing and thy have a look of grief when ever I see them, I feel ashamed for not being above it and accepting them for their past but I know inside I'd never be secure enough or trustful enough with a girl who has slept around a lot, it kind of sucks because I really liked and in the end I end up alone with only my pride. This has happened two times with different girls
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  • My ex had a reputation. When I dated her all our mutual friends told me she was loose. Crazy part she wouldn't sleep with me for a long time. It was my fault I was oblivious to how easy it would've been. The fact that I didn't immediately do her let me get to know her over time. I got to see her vulnerable sides and I fell in love. But we separated. She dated and cheated on some guys, had a miscarriage, gave me gonorrhea, so yeah her reputation held up but you know what didn't change? I still loved her. And not in a deranged she's gonna change I swear if only I keep trying kinda way but in an I understand you better than most and I really want the best for you kinda way. She ended up falling into depression got into some drugs started living with an ex stripper. I had an off and on relationship with her so I got summaries of her down spiraling life each time I came back. My family hated her, my friends hated her, her friends talked bad about her but I knew her. I knew how much she cared about her verbally abusive father and her little brothers. I knew how much she loved simple things like the feeling of grass. And I knew how afraid she was about F'ing up. She eventually quit all her drugs, moved out, got a good job as a waitress and is finishing up her degree and I'm pretty sure me and her mother are the only ones that believe in her still. I wouldn't blame a guy for leaving. I did a lot but my relationship with her taught me that you should judge a person on how much you like their positives and not how shocking their previous mistakes may have been. To this day she's been the best friend I've ever had. But my fear of judgement has pushed us so far apart that the only way I can contact her is looking at her Facebook profile. So I guess if I found out my girl had a past I'd get over it. It's life. We don't get a do over. So to me it doesn't make sense to me to continue to punish a person for some mistakes they made especially when they're trying to change.

    • ... breh maybe you loves her too much and was blinded by it. She gave you an std... at least you have find memories of her. But sometimes we can get too blinded by some ones sunshine that we don't see their bad side. Why did you two seperate?

    • I wasn't blind. I knew her bad side and when we were together she did well. The STD happened at the beginning of one of our on seasons. She got it while we were apart. It was like six months of separation so it wasn't really that shocking. Fun fact there are a handful of STDs women can carry without having any symptoms but men always do. We separated the first time because of distance, second time was religious differences, third was just bad communication, and the fourth time was religious again but it was the complete opposite after that we never dated again. I don't contact her anymore because she's doing well now. Her mom and step dad are a lot more active in her life, she's making good grades and I just think she'll be better off without me around especially since I've graduated and I'm moving away.

  • I probably wouldn't be able to continue seeing them. It's not like I'd choose to be bothered but I'd just have those images in my mind of those guys double teaming her. Then having sex with her wouldn't be as enjoyable, it would kill my attraction to them. Also my ego would get in the way, like it would fly through my mind that she was the girl that everyone was able to easily get with and nobody wanted to commit to.

    I don't want a slutty girl who turns good just for me. I'd rather have the good girl who turns into a slut just for me :/

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  • I would hope that I would never hold a girl's history against here.

    • I tried not to buy hurts to hear it. I'm not sure why they feel they need to divulge that info