What we are talking is a hand job as main event through to orgasm. A casual hand job while making out can finish him but you are doing 2 things at once, neither getting your full attention. Here's how I like and get what I call a therapeutic hand job. It will sound like a manual but I want to be complete.
*Do it on a bed or futon mattress on the floor. This is so you can sit/kneel comfortably.
*Have watery dollar store lotion on hand. Better for this than lube because it contains alcohol, giving a soothing, cooling effect.
*Sit between his spread legs so everything is within easy reach and he can wrap his legs around you. Doing that makes me come better.
*Start with a sexual massage. Massage and gently kneed everything down there including around back. You are wanting him to get hard before the action starts.
*When he is pretty hard, begin a milking motion, gripping firmly on the up stroke and mostly releasing it on the return. Be sure cap of his penis is in your hand at the top of the up stroke it needs lots of stimulation now. The frenulum (diagram) is particularly sensitive. Position your thumb to pass over it on each stroke. You can also stop stroking briefly and massage it with the tip of your thumb. Some guys love this. Cup, slightly lift and massage his ball sack with your other hand.
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*When he starts bucking and breathing erratically, he wants to come. Change your stroke to very fast with a light grip. Stop massaging his ball sack and just hold it. When ejaculation starts, immediately stop all contact with the cap, which is now super sensitive. Continue to stroke just the shaft until the squirts stop. Then just grip his penis until he wants to pull away.
There are a couple of other moves I like but this makes me come every time.
Wow that was very educational and helpful I bet
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i would say start out with a massage using oils like baby oil. have him lay down on his back have the lights turned down low if you can have some candles lit maybe play some soft music. be topless start out massaging his body get him totally relaxed then go into massaging his penis and handjobing him put oil all over your boobs maybe use your boobs just keep it slow not to fast until he ejaculates and maybe let him like go on your boobs. i have done that with my husband.
The secret is not just to suck and lick his cock, but to suck, lick and stroke his cock. And when you need a break, hand his cock over to him to stroke for awhile, then back to you again. Keep a bottle of water based lube handy for while you or he are stroking his cock.
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What's Your Opinion? Sign Up Now!Oh I love that question. There are several suggestions.
1. Ask him to show you so you can practice on him. The idea of you asking to teach him makes for a very hot scenario.
2. Me, I love handjobs, especially if she decided to be dominate when she does it. For example, I once had a girlfriend who (when she decided she wanted to be dominate, that night) would order me to lay down, on my back, legs spread wide while she gave me a handjob, but there were rules I had to follow. 1. I was not allowed to move or make a sound until I began squirting cum. If I broke ANY of those two rules I would receive a punishment. The punishment would be one of two things. 1. I had to spend the next three nights performing oral sex on her as many times as she wanted and I wasn't allowed to have an orgasm, or 2: I had to eat my cum.
She would then proceed by running her fingertips (with a very light touch) all over and around my balls. As she did that, she would then run one of her fingertips slowly up my shaft, going very slow, with a very light touch. Once she reached the head, she would spend some time very lightly running her fingertip all over and around the tip. Then, she would stroke my cock with a very light touch, stroking me slowly. Sometimes stroking my entire shaft, sometimes just the tip.
All this would just drive me crazy! I wanted to tell her to stroke me harder and faster, but I knew what would happen if I said a word or moved an inch. I had to just lie there and take her torture. What made it worse was when I was about to cum. As my cock would begin to pulsate and throb, she would often times stop for a few seconds and then continue, sometimes she would continue to stroke me with that light touch knowing I was about to cum. The whole time I kept thinking to myself, "Well, performing oral sex on her for three nights in a row, any time she wanted, as often as she wanted wouldn't be so bad! But, then again, it means I wouldn't be allowed to have an orgasm on those nights." If (before starting to give me a handjob) she insisted that if I broke any of those two rules, I would be punished by having to eat my cum, then I would find myself thinking, "Fuck! I don't want to eat my cum! I'm not sure if I can keep still. Fuck!!!". What made that option even naughtier is, as I neared my orgasm, she would make comments like, "Mmmmm you're thinking about it, aren't ya? You're thinking about how hot it's going to be to eat your cum, aren't ya? I know, I can tell. You're cock is rock hard, and you're about to cum. Why else would you cock be rock hard and ready to cum if you weren't thinking about how hot it's going to be to eat your cum, while I watch!!!"
When I finally came, it was always SO intense!!! Lying still, not making a sound as she slowly brought me over the edge always made my orgasm so intense! Sometimes I couldn't keep still. I would then either spend the next three nights performing oral sex on her anytime she wanted, as often as she wanted, and I wasn't allowed to fuck her or have an orgasm, or I had to eat my cum, ALL of it.
I must admit, having to perform oral sex on her for three nights in a row was really hot! It meant the sex was all about her, and I could tell she REALLY enjoyed it. I can't begin to tell you how many times I almost had an orgasm while licking her as she was experiencing an orgasm. I loved how she would suddenly and unexpectedly tell me to stop what I was doing and lick her, right now!
Anyway, I hope my suggestions help. I would love to hear what you do now. If you're interested in telling me, or asking me any questions, feel free to write me at nothingtosee@yahoo. com
maybe he doesn't like handjobs at all? did u ask him?
The best way to help you is to show you. If you pm me I'll give you a couple links to amazing handjobs.
instructional video
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use your mouth and deep throat its way better lol
You don't help. He just loves your blowjobs more, there is no comparison between blow and handjobs, it not your fault ;)
Handjobs are boring keep blowing him
For me, strangle it. ;)
I love hand jobs when she uses massage oil on it and she uses her nails in the mix too. It feels so much more sensitive and so hot! Very slow, deep, sensual strokes! It’s mind blowing!
When my girl gives me a handjob I like to lay down on bed and she will sit on my face while she uses her hand to stimulate my penis. It feels like paradise smelling her nice, round bum while having an orgasm I LOVE IT
Make sure you have a firm grasp, make sure you keep it lubricated with spit, lube etc, and if he has a foreskin you can pull it down as this is more intense doing it over the bare head
I could see why, hand jobs are dry rubbing and need lubricating , only girls that are skilled at it feel good, the mouth is much better and already wet and you can create suction , the best type to do so you make him cum quick is to do constant sucking of the head while stroking the shaft and keep sucking when he cums and swallow , it's the most intense ever
For the best hand jobs, try using your vagina. It has a tight grip and lubricates automatically.
Lol but seriously, what makes you think he doesn't like it as much?
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