Girls, have you ever heard of a guy sending his cum in the mail to a girl?

[seyhello]

I met a girl online a long time ago, we had phone sex often, we both agreed to have her send me. her panties, pretty soon I'd cum. in them and send them back. eventually I'd just freeze my cum, and send it too her wrapped in dry ice so it stayed fresh. We did it over the course of v few years. It sound a bit out there but was very intimate, and sexy. Tell me your opinions please , Im feeling a bit confused about it looking back !

[Sara413]

Seems kinda weird, but nothing wrong with it. Consenting adults can do whatever you want that gets your rocks of. If you're feeling weird about it, don't. It was a fun thing to do at the time and no one got hurt, so don't bother yourself over it. If it makes you uncomfortable now, then don't do it going forward.

[Wat3rL1ly]

Kind of sounds like sperm donation. Any idea if she got pregnant?

[linkywinky]

That's weird as hell, like. What.

[Nylena]

ehm no lol

[MissMc3]

That is one of the grossest things I have ever read ever.

[Ziiva]

For some people, fluid bonding is an act of intimacy that means more psychologically and emotionaly than the basic definition of unprotected sex. If this is done with care and consent then there is nothing wrong about enjoying connecting in this way!

Fluid bonding does not equal a desire for pregnancy, though for many they overlap. What you described can actually be one helpful way to foster a feeling of closeness between long-distance partners!

Intimacy, and fluid bonding, is a two-way street. If you both enjoyed it and felt good about it then, I would encourage you to remember those feelings now :) Any type of pleasure could be seen as "odd" to someone else or to society at large, especially as many stigmas are long-engrained.

For some people, sharing fluids can tie into biologically primal feelings, whether or not conception is the goal, such as a sense of belonging or claiming. This is a natural desire for many and can be a draw towards fluid bonding.

For others, sharing fluids can be enjoyed as a kink in various ways. Again, if it's safe and consensual, shame is unhealthy and ultimately unnecessary.

I highly recommend the book The Pragmatist's Guide To Sexuality: What turns people on, why, and what that tells us about our species by Simone & Malcolm Collins. It is fascinating and greatly helped me in understanding sexuality and shedding judgments towards myself! As well as towards others.
On Amazon (and no, I do not get any perks for recommending this book, I just think it's awesome!):


If you feel uncomfortable remembering it because something doesn't sit right with your intuition and you worry you went along with something that you didn't actually feel comfortable doing at that time, that's different. Recognizing that can help you set healthy boundaries for yourself going forwards.

If you feel something in yourself was violated by taking part of those actions and it is still bothering you all these years later, then I would recommend talking to a therapist to help untangle those feelings in as mentally safe a manner as possible.

Above all be kind to yourself when thinking about your past self; you are not the same person now as then!
Especially as it *sounds* like there were no malicious intents in the interaction you described.

I hope that helps :)