Guys, Do you like a more submissive or dominant girl in bed?

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DEFINITIONS: *submissive: passive, yielding, compliant, unassertive, pliant
                         * dominant: authorative, assertive, self-assured, in control or controlling

(please note that this question is only refering to these characteristics in the bedroom - being dominant/submissive doesn't necassarily mean it is the same both inside and outside the bedroom)

Do you like a more submissive or dominant girl in bed?
i. e. do you want her setting the pace, mood, what is happening, etc. or yourself?

(please note: in no way am i implying that a submissive is someone who is or acts like a slave of any kind)

mangaka92 · Accepted Answer

First off, I LOVE that you have definitions in here! :D That makes me especially happy. <3

As far as which I prefer, probably her submissive. Honestly, I guess I'm a bit submissive, as well. I don't really like the idea of either one of us really being "in control" or "taking charge" or something. I'd just like us both to be listening to each other and trying to please each other. I think it's great if we just play off of each other to set the pace and the mood. If she wants to try something, she tells me. When I want to try something, I tell her. We just listen to each other and try to please each other. Rather than one of us kind of initiating things, knowing what they want next and just doing it and "leading it" or something. I guess that's what I prefer, I guess. Both of us submissive and listening to each other. :) I'd like her to be actively trying to do things that feel good for me and I'd like to be actively trying to do things that feel good for her at the same time. :)

MrOracle · Accepted Answer

As a dominant guy, I obviously prefer submissive women. In my experience, probably around 70% of men prefer submissive women, 10% prefer dominant women, and 20% prefer either "equals" or a "switch" (someone who can be both dominant and submissive).