Guys, got intimate on the third date (not sex) and now he's not contacting me?

[Anonymous]

Basically our first date was great, he took me to a fancy dinner and we went to his place, watched a movie and just kissed, we both wanted to take things slow physically as we were friends with benefits before for four months and i had ended it. The second time we hung out was at his lakehouse with other people and we slept in the same room together but all he did was feel me up and we cuddled and held hands. Third time we hung out he invited me over to his place to watch netflix and chill. We started kissing and it escalated into all clothes off and handjob and fingering only. He told me "I thought you wanted to take things slow" but he kinda instigated the entire thing. This was all in the span of a week. Then when I hadn't heard from him in a few days I texted him asking to hang when he got back in town and he said ya sounds good. Now I haven't heard from him in another week besides a snapchat saying "whats up." He's had a past history of bad relationships (them cheating on him) and commitment issues but I don't know if its that or what's going on. We haven't had sex before because I'm a virgin and I think its silly of him to not contact me because of being intimate (which was both of our faults), is he dissapointed in me or was he just in it for the chase? I'm not sure though, thoughts?

[GreatnessPersonified]

Ok a few things.
1. His history has no bearing on your relationship, unless one of you make it a thing.
2. Being intimate is no one's fault, the whole point is to be intimate.

Now on to your question, give him some more time to come around, he may be busy. I'd say another week, but after that, you have to confront him about what's up.
If he doesn't give a satisfactory answer or tries to reinitiate better contact, cut him off.

[Asker]

He has brought up his ex girlfriend multiple times and told me how they were going to get married until she cheated on him with his best friend... I don't think he's over that because the last girl he dated, he had sex with her then disappeared. I cut off contact with him, I don't think he wants a relationship. Thanks for your answer!

[Rahdle]

Maybe he's just busy. Try and set up another date with him so you can talk in person

[tenchu11]

Probably busy be more assertive. Do you want a relationship or not?

[FurtileSpermRelease]

He a scared little boy, scared of intimacy little fuckface biaaaaaaatch!

[takumii]

Tell him his brother was better at sex than him.

[alonzoslade]

SEX HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH IT. If he left he was going to leave anyway