My boyfriend sucks in bed?

I like to be a sub in bed.. But, my boyfriend likes to be a sub too. We have sex like once a week and i would like it to be more often but he never tries anything.. I don't like to be the one who starts. I like when guys are all over me, when they crave me.. that turns me on and that's what i'm used too. He is the first guy i have ever met that is like this. And he never lasts long in bed, longest was like 10 mins. We have been together for 6 months now.. I don't know what to do it's bothering me
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Most Helpful Girls

  • There needs to be a healthy balance here.

    He likes to be a sub.
    You like to be a sub.
    Why not try having intercourse where you both get to play that role?

    Try riding him (he's a sub)
    Then have him do missionary or doggystyle to take control of you.

    A fun way to introduce this would be role play.
    Buy outfits and step out of character.
    The only way this can change if you are completely honest with him.
    Don't say he sucks (because to other women he may not).
    Try to phrase this in a less harsh way.

    If he is open to trying new things with you and stepping out of character then there's hope.
    If he's not open to change then you have to think can you :
    A) Accept this
    B) Not accept this and move on.

    Undesirable sex is a deal breaker in most relationships.
    Great communication (being able to enjoy your partners company) and (Having fulfilling sex life) go hand in hand.
    If you have one without the other the relationship is bound to fail eventually.

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  • Leave him... it's going to take a toll on you might as well end it now. Or ask for an open relationship.

Most Helpful Guys

  • As much as it sucks to hear, you guys aren't sexually compatible and neither of you are going to change your views on sexual dominance... so consider leaving him.

  • You guys both want the same thing done to you in bed. You're just not compatible for each other. No matter what one of you is going to end up having lousy sex.

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What Girls & Guys Said

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  • Talk to him about it.

  • Dump him. Bad sex is not something you should have to put up with.

  • You're not going to change him, so you either have to change yourself or get out of the relationship.

  • You both should talk about it.. or just break up

  • You're no good for each other obviously. Call it quits.

  • Find a man that you can serve in the bedroom and he has his wicked way with you

  • Lol that's 9 minutes too long

  • Then suck him really hard

  • Give him pegging.

  • try changing things up,