Guys, am I a tease/bitch?

[Anonymous]

Okie dokie, so basically, I've been seeing this guy- some people might say that it's not been long enough, or that we're moving too quickly, but we've started doing sexual stuff. Or rather, I've been on the receiving end of sexual stuff. He has fingered me. He has asked me to give him a blowjob, and I've said several times that I will, but when a chance comes along, I chicken out (he says it's not chickening out, but let's be honest, it kind of is...). He's been absolutely lovely about me saying no the whole time, but I'm just wondering what guys would think of a girl who consistently promised oral sex and then bailed on the promise. Am I a tease? A bitch? Preferably with not too graphic language, what do you think of me? Would you continue dating me if I was consistently refusing to reciprocate on that front? I don't know if this is necessary info, but I feel like mentioning that I'm a virgin might be a good idea... I don't know... Also, this is the first proper boyfriend I've had- I'm 17- so is it just normal to be nervous and not doing this stuff yet?

[driel]

You're being a tease and a flake. It's better to be up front and tell him you're nervous about doing it because you're a virgin. If he likes you, he will at least understand where you're coming from but don't keep promising him a blowjob and then not follow through each time. Also if you're accepting oral but refusing to reciprocate, it's just a recipe for disaster in the long run.

[Asker]

I have told him I'm nervous and a virgin, but you're right, I am being a flake, with the promising and not following through. I just wanted to clarify though that I haven't accepted oral and not given it back. He's fingered me, but that's as far as it's gone.

[SaintRichie23]

ak-hdl.buzzfed.com/.../...z-10547-1370104108-1.gif

But seriously, if he seems cool with making sure you're comfortable, then he is cool with you taking your time. Just try not to egg him on so much or try to ease into it with some lighter foreplay.

[longjohndan]

It's normal you are only 17.

[ccp16]

I wouldn't be surprised if he leaves before too long to be honest...

I would not say a bitch for sure, but I am sure he sees it as a tease even if you don't. Just either say you are too uncomfortable with it or do it, don't keep saying you will and then don't.

[Bad2DaBone]

Its normal to be nervous and he would probably be understanding if you were to tell him that..

Also to help you feel more comfortable there are tons of how to videos on youtube and also adult sites that would give you some idea of what to do.

just relax and you will be fine

[Adrian_Pappi]

Yes it's totally normal to not be doing this stuff. So honestly that's what u need to tell him... Tell him ur not sure if u wanna do it yet. Saying you will then not doing it is gonna fucking ruin ur relationship. Because the guy is gonna get annoyed and leave... Just be honest with him. Like u said, he's been lovely when u chicken out so he will understand.

[nate18]

id think your a selfish bitch. id give you a few chances then dump you. there's nothing worse than a person who can't keep their word.

[Blue2]

hey tbh you shouldn't have sex at that age.

[ruskodisco]

no you..."suckered" him
ok i'm done

[MrTexan37]

Well id say you might find yourself single here pretty soon but my question is if your a virgin why are you so quick to start doing stuff with him

[Maxemeister]

Yes, you are.

[kiler1000]

maybe, you're just not ready.