My girlfriend used to love anal so much before she with me, but now she hate it for some reason. Why?

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I found out she used to love anal so damn much when she with her ex boyfriend to the point that she the one who teach him about anal sex. Basically she craving for anal sex cause she used to say to her ex boyfriend that anal sex is more intense and tighter. But now when she with me, she don't like anal for some reason. I'm okay with normal vagina sex but what actually make her change her mind about anal sex that she used to crave like crazy? I have try asking her about anal sex with me but she said she don't like anal and it's painful. Is she lying to me? I have even ask her about her past that she used to like anal but what she said to me that those was just a lie and she just acting like a slut cause she feels she was worthless. Can someone explain to me what's is going on? I already try to have anal sex with her and she just said it's painful. The anal sex didn't work out and I just did 3 penetration to her anal. She was hurting and I can't stand her hurting because I really love her so much and I can't barely see her holding the pain for me. She was crying a little bit after that and I apologise to her for doing that. But seriously, can someone explain to me why she used to like anal and now she don't? Thanks in advance.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

She already explained to you. I’ve been there and tons of other girls have been there. We ask guys to hurt us as a form of self-harm, I hated myself but instead of cutting myself I developed a sex addiction and hooked up with men and asked them to treat me like a whore. Anal was a part of that for me, it made me feel like a dirty whore so I pretended to love it even though it was uncomfortable at best.

MaskedSanity · Accepted Answer

She already told you.

She did it to please her ex. Why is he her ex? Because he was a dickwad and she decided was not worth her time.

Women do A LOT of things they don't like because they think they have to or to please their men. Doesn't mean she "mad loved anal", it means she complied.

Why is it so hard for you to accept her reason?

debi2622 · Accepted Answer

Size matters in anal. You are prob bigger and thus hurts. And with anal, lube really does need to be used non-stop to help stretch. Dry insertion with a larger penis will be painful. She could also associate anal with all the negative feelings she had about herself when she was with her ex. Believe in what she has told you.

jonblane · Accepted Answer

Stop worrying about it.
Maybe your penis is bigger than her previous BF's.
Be grateful you are getting as much vaginal as you want !
Loads of lads would like to be in your shoes ( and her vagina :) )
If you lay off pestering her about it for a few months you can always try again later, using loads of lube and begging her.
But take no for an answer and just leave it for now.

AustinMan · Accepted Answer

Interesting... I think if it's nearly as important to you as it is to me, you need to find a good couple's counselor and work it out.

OlderAndWiser · Answer

Why don't you believe what she has already told you?

molonski2 · Answer

Size makes a massive difference with anal sex , its rarely ever worked well for me , I think you are simply too big for the anus and no matter how much lube you are using , you are probably hurting her arse like hell , as they say " one has an exit sign " , so really I think this is the reason , you are too big.

Thats how it rolls sometimes.

The other guy probably had a cock like a skinny finger , and she was trying to be a bit slutty so could cope with it , you are literally busting her arse bro.

Swwwwooooooooooooshhhhh.

Stellargasm · Answer

Do you have a big cock? Maybe you’re too big for the back door. I had a friend from highschool who’s ex girlfriend basically told anyone who would listen that he’s got a small dick. That same guy had like 3 or 4 different girls over the years ask him to do anal. He told me once he doesn’t even like it as much but does it for them.

Faith18letsgo · Answer

I think she’s probably telling the truth and was just lying before. I feel like sex acts for dudes like anal and oral feel really unfair and sometimes we pretend to like it so that it doesn’t feel unfair.

fartlard · Answer

You probably suck at it. You need to learn to do it better

Jason_Storm84 · Answer

Seriously maybe you have a really big dick, at least bigger than her ex. It would explain why she always says it's too painfull.. but it's surely something that you two should talk about and come out with the real reason behind the change

abundantlyrich · Answer

Your genitalia is too big for her

Boo_Boo_Bumpkin · Answer

Either she was lying so you would think she is as freaky as you want her to be or your too big for her

WeeeISee · Answer

Because you became a pig about it most likely.

Steve37 · Answer

Sorry to tell you, but her ex is much better at it than you are. If she's having pain, you are not giving her enough warm-up and prep time before you start with your dick. Pep and lube are essential to make it pleasurable for her.

mackiewishbone · Answer

She don’t love you! Her ex is her soulmate

DavidDean2321 · Answer

Oh no matey. Once apon a time in Iraq, I was with two Sheila's a cucumber and a condom. Let's just say I don't like anal anymore.

debbieee123 · Answer

"I just did 3 penetration to her anal"

Mr-Nice · Answer

She was probably lying to him to try and please him. But she's comfortable being honest with you. No girls really like anal more than vaginal. It's not possible.
Or maybe your dick is way to big. Ex might have had a pencil dick she couldn't feel it in her vag. Lol

Elliot0_07 · Answer

I think you should keep forcing her. You said you don't like seeing her in this position but really she's playing you. She knows how to do anal properly but she doesn't respect you. That's why I suggest you to force her into it because clearly she's being childish.

SophiaL12 · Answer

I think you did not care about her hole Be polite

HopeNOLA · Answer

A girl has a right to change her mind. Maybe she really did like it at one point but now she doesn't. Nothing wrong with that. Respect her decision.

shannonmeow · Answer

You are probly bigger than he was... Either that or maybe she didn't want any chance of getting pregnant by him but id bet he was small enough it didn't hurt