Why does people cheat?

[a2ndhi]

Id like to know why does people cheat? For me sex is better once i know the guy, i know what he likes, what makes him scream. Sex doesn't ever get old for me cause there's always new place or new stuff to try. So i dont understand why someone cheats. Now if you are in a sexless marriage then they have a reason. But if u just want new sex then why be in a relationship in the first place. We all hate to be cheated on but it seems cheating is more common these days. And why can't the just say if he wanted a open relationship. I think my boyfriend is or has cheated, or at the very least want to. Seen a few dating sites he's on. But i haven't just came out and asked. But i asked if he wanted a open relationship and he said no he would break up first before that. So whats the excitement. In cheating

[complicated_soul]

Even if you are in a sexless marriage, it doesn't make cheating okay.

One of the reason for cheating is mentioned by OlderandWiser.

Another one I have noticed is that the guy or girls hangs out with another person fr work or wherever, and believes that it is casual, they won't grow feelings for each other, etc.

The casual meetings go from casual to talking almost 24/7... ends up emotionally connected and then continues from there.

There are more things that lead to cheating.

One thing the people in relationship should remember that you won't cheat if you don't put yourself in a situation where it would allow you to cheat.

Or for some, don't test your weakness.

[Anonymous]

Everybody cheats for different reasons. It's unfortunate, but not uncommon. I've cheated before and basically did it bc I didn't care enough not to. I was careless and selfish. I was not a good person when I was younger.

[Goldie757]

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[JuicyBrain]

"there's always new place or new stuff to try" Not everybody is like that. You look like fun, but you've never been with a starfish...

For some people, it's the thrill of having an affair and keeping it secret, it's the danger of getting caught.

Or maybe the girlfriend satisfies everyone of his needs but he is not attracted to her sexually. He may like living with her, sharing his life with her, he may like her cooking and all those things that aren't sex. So he gets the sex elsewhere.

[a2ndhi]

That makes complete since. So she's a good wife just not a good lover. So doesn't help my cause out. Cause we dont live together. so i dont play the wife role.

[JuicyBrain]

Are you sure he really cares about you? What if it's only sexual between you and him? Or maybe he fell out of love but still wants the sex? If it's the case, I am sorry for you... Though, are you 100% sure he's cheating on you? Women tend to do that often. They see something benign but build a whole different story around it and discover too late it was all in their imagination. Before I make a move, I would make sure of what is happening.

[a2ndhi]

I have no clue what a star fish is... lol

[JuicyBrain]

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A starfish is a girl who lays in bed arms and legs open and wait for the guy to be done... In other words, a boring fuck...

[a2ndhi]

Im not really sure... he says he says he loves me. Hell its been a year, i asked if he sees us going futher in our relasionship and he said he isn't going to waste his time on a meaningless relasionship. .. at first i thought i was just imagining things. What used to being sex two or three times a day has turned into two or three times a week. And it just changed last month. I found him on a cheaters site. Plus his phone is locked down with a password. Its got to be another women or i thought drugs. We was both off last night and he called around 11 but i haven't even talked to him since. Its rare when i have a Saturday and Sunday night off. So i would have thought we would have done something but no instead i stayed home and cleaned

[OlderAndWiser]

1. "Now if you are in a sexless marriage then they have a reason." No, if you are unhappy in a sexless marriage, end the marriage, then move on.

2. I have never been unfaithful but I understand that cheating is exciting because it is forbidden.

[a2ndhi]

See i feel different on the sexless part cause to me unless there is a medical reason then its just as selfish to withhold sex from your husband or wife then it would be to cheat.

[OlderAndWiser]

If a spouse is being that selfish and hey refuse to do anything about it, it would probably be a good reason to leave the marriage. But if you cheat on your spouse, you debase yourself. I'm not doing that. Leave the bad spouse and then start dating.

[Frost_Byt3]

I can safely say that your boyfriend is not cheating on you if he specifically said that he would rather break up than have an open relationship.

Which I'm sure is the reason your asking this question. Correct me if I'm wrong.

[a2ndhi]

I hope thatw the case. But i seen him on a cheater hook up site. Not just a dating site. Thats why i asked would he want a open relationship. He said no he would break up first. I told him i didn't want to see other people i just wanted to make sure he didn't. A few nights later i asked him would he rather me watch him have sex with another person or would he rather watch me. It was one of those would u rather questions games. Not that i woulf want that to happen. His answer was there is no way in hell he could watch me. So i think he wouldny want the open relasionship cause he wouldn't want me to date or sleep around.

[DisastrousQu33n]

I don't know, why 'does' adults not know grammar?

[a2ndhi]

Yes i know i could have done better with my grammer. I was just at work and was asking my question in a rush, once i reread it i saw the mistakes.

[WitchKing]

I cheat because sex with the same person gets boring after a while.

[a2ndhi]

And thats understandable at your age. My 17 year old daughter says mom its not like im going to marry him, so she's guilt free

[JuicyBrain]

Please, make sure you don't bring her any diseases or you may wake up with your penis in a jar and I wouldn't blame her...

[Words_and_Wisdom]

Because humans are polygamous by nature and society is trying to force a culture of monogamy on people.

[Mickdodge]

I think by nature people need variety and an ego boost to make themselves feel better.

[a2ndhi]

That seems logically. But why can't a man get his ego boosted by just girls flirting? If a man need variety then just play the field. Dont make a commitment to ve faithful and still chase others. I work in aplace i get flirty with Dailey im not going home with one of them

[Mickdodge]

Everyone is different. A girl flirting with me is great. But I'm not going to do her. Some guys are weak and go the extra step

[Anonymous]

It's selfishness, having cake and fucking other cake.

[Anonymous]

people just get a rush from hurting others,

[ThisDudeHere]

I think it's less about hurting as much as it is the rush of doing something tabbo and hoping you won't get caught.