I slept with a married man, help?

Question

So i met some sexy guy at the gym, he approached me and we exchanged numbers. We hung out a couple of times and went on a few dates. Before you know it we ended up in bed together and the sex was crazy, I've never orgasmed so much in my life (probably because he's much older so he knew exactly what to do). We continued hanging out and fucking but he would act really suspicious like not answer his phone around me or ask for me to meet him out of town because he was 'bored of the city'. One day I called him and a woman answered the phone. I asked who she was and she said she was his wife? I hung up immediately. When I saw him at the gym I confronted him and he admitted to being married but that he was planning on getting a divorce!! I was so pissed and disgusted that I stopped answering his calls and going to the gym. He still continues to leave me 10 missed calls and 20 texts saying that he "loves me" and can't live without me. He even threatened to kill himself if I continue ignoring him. It gets worse, he leaves notes outside MY HOUSE and even showed up at MY WORK and confessed his love for me infront of my colleagues!! What should I do?

Esplorare · Accepted Answer

What should you do? Well…lets be completely unfiltered and real about the entirety of the situation…
This man does not respect women. He has no consideration, care, and tact for the female experience otherwise he wouldn’t have been so willing to put the both of you in such wrong, disgusting positions. He put both of you in harms way emotionally, mentally, and spiritually for the sake of his own d*ck. His own sexual gratification was apparently more of a priority than showing you two honor and dignity. If he really loved you, he would have never put you in this position out of respect, care, and consideration for you. Remember: you only know the truth because you found out for yourself. Not because he admitted it or decided to practice some respect. So he would STILL be making you an unwilling catalyst to another woman’s heartache for the sake of his own d*ck. You would STILL be branded with the ugly, negative, toxic title of a homewrecker due to his sleaziness. You do realize there’s a website called ‘She’sahomewrecker’ where scorned women, especially wives, post pictures, addresses, business information and more for the world to see. :/ It is one of the first websites that shows up if you’re googled meaning employers, who may be women/who may have been cheated on, will see it. Women have said that website has prohibited their job opportunities. It’s not impossible that you could end up there because this man DID NOT LET YOU MAKE AN INFORMED CHOICE.

So, what should you do?
From this moment on, continue showing yourself the love, honor, respect, and dignity that he failed to by doing a MAJOR SERVICE TO YOURSELF and cutting him off for good. He's a snake. PERIOD. Not only is he a carless, reckless, tactless cheater, but he screwed you over by not letting you make an informed choice. Tell him to leave you alone and even say you'll get a restraining order if he keeps it up.

Luv2BRealExotic13 · Accepted Answer

He sounds unstable or just trying to get you to care. Personally I'd do nothing. Let his wife handle that. In the mean time call the cops.

douride2 · Accepted Answer

I can't add any to what Esplorare says. Except maybe a restraining order.

NearlyNapping · Accepted Answer

Threaten to tell his wife if he doesn't stop. Also threaten to call the police if he doesn't stop stalking you. Then be prepared to follow through with both threats. I don't think it's the best thing to ruin a marriage, but you need to look after yourself first. He's not taking no for an answer and really does sound like a potential stalker. You have to put your foot down and make it very clear that it's not acceptable. Make sure he knows you are serious. Tell him he only gets one chance to stop, or you will carry through with your threats.

AustinMan · Accepted Answer

Tell him to stop or you'll rat him out to his wife.

JuicyBrain · Answer

Well, continue ignoring him and the problem will fix itself apparently...

Zendrya · Answer

restraining order

xXiTacoXx · Answer

Press charges for stalking. It doesn't take a rocket scientist to figure that out.

micheal727jovanie · Answer

Shrugs* Restraining order i guess

TripleAce · Answer

Run far away that's first  And second don't interfere just get out and tell him to leave you alone, simple Unless you want his penis again, which is what got you in this mess in the first place

BelleGirl21 · Answer

Restraining order and from here on out don't sleep with people you don't know really well.

atcnew · Answer

tell his wife she deserves to know , he's a disgusting scumbag , you did nothing wrong the fault is his and ignoring the prick was the right thing to do.

JSmuve · Answer

Lol, at least the sex was crazy and you never orgasmed so much in your life.

singlebee · Answer

I suggest you completely stay away from this guy... This guy is a jerk and a cheater... you should not talk to him ever again...
And next time before you give your kitty to any man make sure he is not married... It was partly your fault too for you be in this situation...

Don't rush things... next time

Shaft50 · Answer

Wow, I think @Esplorare hit the nail on the head with her post...

Prakbio · Answer

He is leaving his wife for you so what is the guarantee that he wouldn't leave you for other girl who is more beautiful than you. (sorry if I am rude)