I hate being submissive, but I dont know... what could the reason?

Anonymous

at first i thought it was just my ego, but now i'm beginning to think that this is all some sort of a syndrome. i haven't gotten laid in over five years yet no matter how much i crave to get laid i just try so hard to suck it up just so i can avoid having to go out and... - having to buy a girl drinks - taking her out to eat, to the movies, etc - having to dance with her - letting her in my life - having to entertain her and anything else that basically pays my way in between her legs. its like wow i want to get laid so badly but at the same time i really do not want to submit to what i crave for. so what can i do? or even better can anyone please help change my views here PS= do not tell me to get a girlfriend because i'm not ready to commit to anyone! plus i am not gonna engage in a relationship with anyone just for the sex. i'm not that much of a loser

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Ed1977 Xper 4
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It sounds like you think girls are prostitutes. You do not have to spend money on a girl to get laid, she just has to be sexually attracted to you. That usually means you need to have a good/flirty personality. But not laid in five years but you don't want any kind of relationship? That would be one night stands. I mean if you had a friend with benefits, you would have to be their friend. That is still a relationship. If you ask a girl out on a date where you're going to be spending money, it is usually assumed by the girl that you'd like to get to know her and are available for some kind of relationship. There really are not that many girls who will hook up right away then be happy to disappear. You might just want to get call girls because what you want seems so demeaning "I just want to get laid, you will do". When girls hook up its usually within their social circle, so they have some connection to them. Unless you are paying, you may need to do some work on yourself to be likable.
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- Asker
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  wow you kinda put me in a tough spot. i mean i'm mildly autistic so i'm pretty much handicapped at being a flirt or telling if a woman is sexually attracted to me or not, unless she is really straightforward about it. which in america that is pretty much nearly impossible. anyways i kinda fear having a friends with benefits since most women do feel "used" when you only expect sex from them, or at least that's how it seems. but oh well again do to my autism i have a really tough time being part of a social circle
fulloflife Explorer
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Fake it till you make it
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- Asker
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  how exactly do i do that?
- fulloflife
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  Thanks

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BroBroncoski Xper 5
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Pshh, Parties. Duh, why'd you "submit" anyway ha
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- Asker
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  i'm not a big party person myself
- BroBroncoski
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  Look on craiglist lol there are 1000 ways to get laid, whyd you do any of that lol
- DaddyRollingStone
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  Yeah but all of them are overweight ^
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- BroBroncoski
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  @DaddyRollingStone No way, I have scored some serious sloots like that lol overweights chicks aren't invited at parties lol
- DaddyRollingStone
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  I meant on Craigslist hahah
- BroBroncoski
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  @DaddyRollingStone lol well you gotta see their pics first ha and if they aren't what they showed, kick em out. duh
- DaddyRollingStone
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  they're fat in the pictures too! Just stay off Craigslist lol
- BroBroncoski
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  @DaddyRollingStone baha I don't know brah, worked pretty well for me. Those two chicks werent fat, just little psycho doe baha
- Asker
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  i try that a few times in the past and to be honest i think there are more catfishes there then there are in the bottom of the ocean and Florida lakes combine. i once posted up a post there and got a bunch of response from desperate gay dudes. one of them even when as far as telling me that he'll let me cum in his mouth and would not mind swallowing it afterwards. another time i came across another post that this chick posted that kinda got my attention. so i send her an email and seconds later she answers back telling me to send her a pic of my penis. i was like "whoa this sounds to good to be true." so i actually took a close up pic of my penis and send it to her. after that i never got an answer from her, then coincidentally two days later someone made a warning post on a gay guy there posting as a woman. he would ask the men who message him for pics of their penises so he can use for his self fulfillment. dont know if you see a pattern here
- Asker
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  anyways aside from these homophobic tales i'm not sure if you ever heard of the "Craigslist Killer"
- DaddyRollingStone
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  Yeah but he only did it to women
- BroBroncoski
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  lmao yea, but I make sure to get their digits, text em, call em and get their pic and if its still not same. Hell kick em out lol
- Asker
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  @DaddyRollingStone that doesn't mean that no woman out there could be capable of the same against men. @opinion owner. yea that sounds like a good tactic

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BellePepper Master
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"anything else that basically pays my way in between her legs"

If this is your attitude, save everyone the trouble and hire a prostitute.

If that is unsavory to you, then seek professional help to remedy your attitude towards others.
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- Asker
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  i would love to! but too bad i live in america (facepalm)
- BellePepper
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  Therapy is legal in all 50 states and prostitution is legal in NV
- Asker
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  well i live 40 hours away from NV. and why exactly do i need therapy for? what is this all about?
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- BellePepper
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  Everyone has goals
- Asker
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  ok now i'm really confused. what does "goals" have to do with all of this?
- BellePepper
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  Vacationing in Nevada could be a *goal* for you OP.
- Asker
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  well i'm not gonna initiate a vacation just for sex. i dont know if you are familiar with that saying... "I'm hungry, but I'm not starving" anyways, you never explained the part on why i need professional help. i wish you do cause i'm dying to hear the reason behind this
- BellePepper
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  Dang OP what abotu "If that is unsavory to you, then seek professional help to remedy your attitude towards others." was unclear?
- Asker
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  yes, VERY unclear as that doesn't explain the reason, the motive or the purpose behind why i should
- BellePepper
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  OP. Really? "your attitude towards others"
- Asker
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  what about my attitude towards others? what is so wrong about my attitude?
- BellePepper
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  *headdesk* I cannot with you Anon.
- Asker
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  well i'm not psychic. so can you please stop the nonsense and explain already? it isn't rocket science
missjane23 Xper 6
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Well not getting a girlfriend is on point for sure! The only way you are getting laid is by finding a desperate girl looking for a rebound, or a prostetute
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- Asker
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  sounds like the typical answer that would come from an inexperienced 19 year old
- missjane23
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  I am not inexpierenced. You just have this allusion that girls will have sex without a relationship, or even dinner first. So... either find a slutty drunk college girl OR pay a prostitute
- Asker
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  oohh so you are telling me that you aren't inexperienced at being a prostitute or gold digger yourself?
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- Asker
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  and by the way i dont mess around with college chicks, especially with the ones who are intoxicated. having drunk sex is almost as bad as wearing red in the middle of a bull field
- missjane23
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  Just saying, I'm the one who can get laid at any point I want. I also don't have to ask people online how to do it. Just because she wants you to take her on a date doesn't make her a gold digger. It means she has self respect, and anyone with that won't be sleeping with someone who says stuff like that ^^
- Asker
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  Yea that's because you are a girl. Unfortunately in society women don't need to past as much test of approval as much as we men do in order to get laid. and I'm really sorry but if you only have sex with guys that do take you out and spend on you then you are an epitome of a gold digger. let's not forget that this also pretty much contributes to prostitution as you pretty much are using the sex in exchange to be taken out and have money spend on you so with that said self respect is not part of any of your premises here
- missjane23
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  I don't sleep with anyone without an emotional connection first, that can mean friends though, I don't need money spent on me but I need to know that there isn't just sex there. Self respect comes into play when a woman can have a damn conversation and know something about the guy before she f***s him
- Asker
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  " You just have this allusion that girls will have sex without a relationship, or even DINNER FIRST" you are pretty much contradicting yourself now
- missjane23
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  No I'm not. Most self respecting girls want that at the least, or sleeping with a friend
- Asker
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  again stop disguising your arrogance and insecurity with "self respect." "you wanna fuck me you have to take me out first, commit to me or build an emotional connection." bullshit! this is the typical mindset possessed by young, arrogant, ignorant, insecure, inferior, self conscience, self entitled and feminized women who are afraid to open up sexually do to them holding the believes that only SLUTS do this. either that or worried that society will reject or disapprove of them do to their sexual history and identity. another type of women who the same believes as you are those who are stuck up and are mentally hyped on Disney movies. believing that they are entitled to only opening up to prince charming type of men who will kill a dragon and go through thousands of dungeons just for her. so with all this said i dont even know why i'm wasting my time discussing these things with an young and inexperienced chick who has a lot to learn in this area of life
- Asker
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  PS= i really pity those fools who dated or committed to you
- missjane23
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  Maybe it's because every other girl who responded to your question also said you want a prostitute.
- Asker
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  oh now your believes are based on the opinions of others. you just proved my point at you not being experienced with life.
- missjane23
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  What ever
bubble_tea Guru
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"so what can i do?" You can go to gay bars.
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- Asker
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  what if i'm not gay?
- bubble_tea
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  Give yourself some time to adjust.
- Asker
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  nah i'm cool. i'm not homophobic or anything but i'm real when i say that i would not cross that line