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How do I heal from child molestation?

When I was 5-7 years old I had a crush on my best friends brother who was 12. I tried to get him to touch me inappropriately and his sister (my BFF) told on me. So we didn't do anything. Then around5-7 years old we moved into our new home and I had a neighbor boy my same and I didn't have a crush on him.. But one time I let him dry hump me before his parents picked him up and the next day on our field trip I threw a rock at his head. Same age. I remember hiding my little brother (if I was around 5-7 he was probably 3 or 4) in my closet and I tried to get him to pull out his penis because I was curious to know what sex felt like... i never really thought about it until recently (I am 20 and now that I know what all that was... I committed a lot of child molestion when I was a fucking child!!! I freak out, I want to apologize to my brother, but what if he doesn't remember and how awakwatd would that be to bring that up to him when he is now 16... EW I just... I feel like a really bad person... I need advice... And insight. I know it was under 8 because I turned 8 after I moved into my new house in Arizona and lived there for 14 years. So..
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  • Children are naturally curious about sex, they play games like Doctors and Nurses. They like to hide in closets and touch each other, they even dress in each others clothes. All sorts of things go on, but it is all in the name of innocent curiosity.
    These experiences we have as children are the building blocks of who we are today. Some boys like to touch and see other boys and they grow up to be gay, but not all the time. The same goes for girls, but all become lesbians.
    My girlfriend at school loved games lessons. She loved looking at the short skirts and bare legs of the other girls, but she wasn't a lesbian.
    Don't let your childhood sexual encounters worry you. What you did was perfectly natural and INNOCENT.

    • Nicely put! Excellent words, agree completely!

  • I think for the most part it is normal for kids to "play doctor" as part of growing up and discovering their bodies. Most people leave this behind as they become adults, but you may need to talk about it with a profession for better advise. I don't think you hurt or negatively affected anyone though.

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  • It's natural for kids to be inquisitive. They always experiment. They always will. This is nothing serious, only child horseplay. Please don't blame youself, this isn't a big issue. I bet more than half the people on here have been curious and inquisitive at some point. They probably won't remember, or won't say if they do remember.

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  • The absolutely best thing you can do is find a good therapist with experience treating victims of sexual abuse. You can get past this but not by yourself.

  • I would move on he doesn't remember its better that way

  • This is not child molestation o.0

  • seeking some counselling might help, you shouldn't feel guilty cause it wasn't your fault at all... it was just curiosity on your part... kids are really curious at that age, that being said you'll still can get some counseling

  • Don't say anything good chance he dosn't remember If u did it could make him feel really akwerd and wired an he would probibly not talk to u as much instead just be really nice buy him little things like coffee pizza cookies donuts just nice stuff best thing to do is just Change the futchur and be the nicest person he needs help u help him

  • Me and all the neighbor kids used to do stuff like that all the time.

    My concern is you added in unrelated details like the rock and the closet, which makes me feel bad because it sounds like you want to equate those as part of it to vilify yourself.

    I was touched inappropriately a number of times by my grandmother and she made me sleep in her bed until until i was about 12.

    My point is i suffer from one set of experiences and not the other. I can offer you perspective, and the things like that that we do as children are exploratory and innocent. We don't have adult sensibilities as children so we can't treat our decisions that way.

    It's ok.

  • Do you feel it affects him in anyway, is there any psychological/social abnormalities present in him?

  • I think counselling.

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