Guys, My boyfriend wants me to be submissive?

[Anonymous]

So me and my wonderful boyfriend have been talking about things lately. He said he's a dominant. He wants me to be submissive. Now, having said that, I am a virgin, never done anything sexual, ever. So he's talking strapping me on his bed, whips, blindfolds, spanking, hair pulling, sex, and he is apparently very experienced. Will he still like me if I don't know what to do? I'll be honest, I'm afraid. Of like the pain, but also giving up authority considering I've always been the one my friends come to to take care of them and help them, since childhood. What if I do something wrong, what will he do if I don't know what to do? Guys?

[Kapakani]

If you're afraid in any way "of the pain" or idea behind what he's asking about doing to you. Tell him he needs to tone it down on the kinky, aggressive sex talk for now. You probably want to just do regular casual first easing yourself into what sex is and how it works, and slowly build a tolerance and sense of what you like and want to explore. By telling him this you're not saying any of those things are out, but just to let you experience it first, and then explore the many sexual adventures that come with sex. This ain't a movie or book, dang, dudes acting like its 50 shades. Please be comfortable & careful in whatever you decide, and don't be pressured into anything. Gl on your sitch :)

[AustinMan]

Breathe!!! If you want to try this out, the first thing you need is a safe word: a word you won't use during sex that tells him the scene has to stop, now. Don't use it unless you really, really need to and make him promise that is he hears it, everything stops right ten Then just follow his lead and see what you think. Keep an open mind.

I'll be most curious how it goes.

[justwannatalk]

Its all about trust. If you don't trust him enough, then the experience will not be pleasurable for either of you. The sadism in bdsm is only supposed to mean the control and power the dominant likes having. A good idea is a safe word, something to let him know to stop or that you are too scared. You could also switch with him and be the dominant for a bit if he agrees. But again, its about trust. As a dominant if the submissive is truly frightened of me, like terrified when I enter the room, I get no pleasure.

[krash2002]

First off, you need to take baby steps in regards to your sex life. What he's recommending it basically some very experienced, and conceived activities that only those with true experience should even consider. I've slept with more women then I should have, and can easily say that after doing so. I've just now gotten to the point of whips and chains.
My advice, start with missionary and work your way up from there.

[normalice]

Isn't this the whole plot of 50 shades of grey? Except your boyfriend isn't a millionaire?

anyway, it didn't work out for them...

[Eliposin]

Tell him. Talk it over with him. BDSM is a very huge and very kinky topic and honestly if you don't talk this over with him either choice could be wrong. It's also a very personal choice.

[Zigzagz]

You don't have to do anything. He will tell you what to do. He's the dom. Just try to relax and enjoy it.

[Editor]

Sounds like you two are incompatible.

[I_am_repulsive]

You'll find out soon enough, but at least you have some idea of what he may or may not want

[xOGxDub]

All im going to say is do what he tells you and dont reply "Ok"
reply like "yes master" or something if you need more help message me

[OrangeBoy]

Does he know your virgin? If yes he needs to first do smooth sex with you. Make him understand that. You need attentions for now.

[jestingdemon]

Tell him no then