Girls, what are some of the most obvious signs or hints you've given to a guy you liked that he was totally or seemingly oblivious to?

[bubble_tea]

This old reddit thread is pure gold.
https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1enoyl/girls_of_reddit_what_are_some_of_the_most_obvious/

My three favorites stories from that thread:

1 He had been keen on this one girl who had been flirting with him for weeks, and as we all lived on res at Uni, they were always bumping into one another. Anyway, after a function we all get home very drunk and he receives a text from her complaining that she is incredibly horny and upset because the batteries in her vibrator have run out and wanted to know if he could help her.
So being the genius that he is, he takes two AA batteries out of his XBOX controller, walks to her dorm, slips them under the door and yells out "you're welcome."

2 This happened to me. I saw a girl in a drug store and thought she was gorgeous. A female friend convinced me to walk up to her and just flat out say that I thought she was beautiful, so I did. I even prefaced it with the whole, "I wouldn't ever normally do this, but I saw you and my friend over there convinced me just to come tell you how gorgeous I think you are." I completely expected a polite, "Thank you," and then for a girl who felt flattered to walk away smiling. Instead, she asked me my name, I told her, and she told me hers. I was unprepared for any of this, and extremely nervous, so then she asks me, "So, do you have any plans this weekend?" Me: "Nope, not really, what about you?" Her: "No, nothing at all." :) Me: "Uhh, okay, well, it was really nice to meet you! I just wanted to tell you that. I have to get back to work now."

3 In high school my cousin was offered a ride home from a cute girl that he liked. He was confused when she passed his house, but he didn't say anything. She drove for a bit and pulled into an empty, secluded par

[TruePower]

So, in May 2015, I was walking to an elevator. This really hot Spanish girl decides to follow me into the elevator. I was standing in front of the back wall of the elevator. She turns her back towards me. She pushed herself onto me against the wall of the elevator. She deliberately smashed her ass onto my crotch. As the elevator went up, she proceeded to rub her ass against my penis. I never had a girl do that to me. I had no idea what to do. The elevator was crowded, I had nowhere to run. It felt like pure bliss but I got really scared, too. This was the first time in my life a girl threw herself at me. I was almost obese in January 2015. By May 2015, I lost 35 pounds and looked pretty good after 7 years of being almost obese. I really wanted to have sex, but I got too nervous and thought it was just luck that she threw herself at me, so I just ran off after we got out of the elevator. I noticed she kept looking at me after we got out of the elevator. I think she couldn't believe that I didn't get the hint. I did get the hint, but I didn't know how to talk to her. I feel really disappointed in myself. I could've made her happy and she could've made me happy. I would have lost my virginity that day. But nope, my brain overthinks everything and cockblocks me everyday. My brain always sends signals to my mouth and legs to stfu and keep walking. I'm still a virgin today. I almost never go outside since I do my own secret research. This was probably a once in a lifetime event, and I fucked up hard. I'm going to regret this until the day I die. I'm so stupid. I still dream of a day when I can be comfortable enough to talk with girls and hopefully have sex with girls.

[FurtileSpermRelease]

I've had a girl sit on my lap, talk to me all day video chat all night, rest on my leg, call me boyfriend, grab my ass, blantantly flirt with me infront of friends, and kiss me, the whole nine i was still bamboozeled and didn't know what to do.

[NatashaJ]

This is not me this happen with my parents (which to me is a totally sign my mom liked my dad) so apparently my mom had a paper where she wrote my dad name over and over again with hearts on it. My dad who not very bright found the paper and thought that she wrote his name to remember it because she must had forgotten.

[Fontaine91]

Yep, it isn't about being "bright" though. Some of us men can't believe that someone like us, so we think it's just our delusion and look for other reasons as to why the woman may have done it.

[NatashaJ]

It is still funny XD.

[KayAden]

Haha hilarious:-/

[bubble_tea]

Aww lol this story is so cute and hilarious.

[Anonymous]

I'm not really good at flirting... but for me if I'm asking a guy about his life, family, hobbies etc., then that's a sign that I'm interested. Also, I will give strong eye contact. The guy I like right now, has not picked up on it. I had to tell him! He was surprised.

[Destinee7]

My most obvious sign is when he tries to start up a random conversation I don't give one word replies & I'll ask him "what about u?"after he ask me question. But sometimes I ask a guy, "what about u?" just to be cordial.

[Toad-1]

"But sometimes I ask a guy, "what about u?" just to be cordial." So then how is a guy supposed to know when you are interested in him or you're 'just being cordial?'

[Destinee7]

@Toad-1 I was more referring to first encounters especially in certain settings like a club for instance. If a guy in my class (for example) starts a conversation, I'll let the conversation flow but it doesn't mean I'm interested in him in that type of way.

[Toad-1]

so then if you were to respond to a guys question more in a club setting it means you are interested in him?

[Destinee7]

@Toad-1 It would mean I think he's kinda cute or his demeanor/approach is attractive.

[Toad-1]

so in your opinion a girls subtle hints that she likes you depends on the setting. If you're at a library or supermarket and she responds to your question more it means she's just being polite, but at a club if she does it it means she likes you?

[Destinee7]

@Toad-1 No not just the setting. His approach matters as well. If he approach me in the library staring at my boobs/legs and saying things like, "You're so sexy." He's gonna get the one word replies and I won't ask him "what about u" because I wouldn't want the conversation to flow. I'm not interested and I don't really care to be cordial if he's lusting so boldly and he just met me.

[Toad-1]

ok so lets say he did approach you appropriately at the library, you are more likely to just be cordial with him back than show interest in him at that setting right?

[Fontaine91]

To be fair, it may be funny to you women but men really do things like that. I guess a lot of us just don't believe that women like to do those things and we think that it's mainly just us and our perverted minds that think of those things.

A woman could even walk up to a man on the street and ask him for sex flat out and most women would think they are on hidden camera or something.

Where does it all come from? Well from my experience it all comes from how women act like saints and asexuals in public.

For a long time I thought most women were like saints and asexual and etc. Now when I am a bit older I look back at time and I think that maybe some women were even flirting with me.

One girl in school came up to me and said I have really nice arms and legs and then asked if I was going to some school trip thing. At the time though I didn't really ever consider that a girl could be interested in me so I didn't really catch on.

[AustinMan]

Ladies! Take a note!! Men are clueless! The geeks are too literal which explains the batteries story. You ask him to show you how they go into the BOB (battery operated boyfriend).

[bubble_tea]

Men should take notes too.. so they don't miss the obvious clues that a woman is interested ;)

[AustinMan]

I couldn't agree more. That said, if he's a bit clueless, it may take a few hints to light him up.

[bubble_tea]

Let's hope they already get illuminated by reading these stories and don't require as many hints as some of the guys in the stories did ^^

[AustinMan]

One can hope...

[Fontaine91]

@Asker I think the problem isn't in the discernment. I am sure just like myself we do know it seems like flirting. But many men think that maybe it's all just in our head and we have a hard time believing that a woman could truly be wanting us so wee just write it off as ourselves being delusional. Sometimes I even look for reasons how it couldn't be flirting and then that makes more sense to me than a woman liking me.

[MyAnacondaDoes]

This just shows that most men have no idea what women want... it's what differences them, to guys like me who would jump on these sorts of occasions.

[GuitarPlayerMan]

After being totally awkward and asking her I if could kiss her today, she put her head on my shoulder and nudged my arm until I put my arm around her. That was just today though. But before that... a couple years before... this girl that liked me just straight up kissed me at homecoming, that was pretty obvious.

[bubble_tea]

Awww.. this is so sweet lol

[LittleSally]

Looking at him, touching him in conversation,

[KayAden]

Thats the problem that's not obvious that's what normal freinds do or friendly people do. If someone speaks to u u look into there eyes. If someone is staring at u from a far it could be any reason. Plus it's kinda pathetic to hint tbh. How about tell them?

[LittleSally]

@KayAden I meant looking at him from let's say across the room... not when I'm talking to him. Then it's normal to look at a person. I do tell them. This was when I was a teenager. Nowadays I just never meet anyone interesting so I have nothing to tell anyone. Haha Ironic.

[Mgoods]

I've noticed that a lot of young guys are oblivious. I think in their youth, a lot of them see girls as mythically unattainable creatures, or something- so they don't register when a girl says "take your pants off now".

[gray_sailor]

Obliviousness is a lifestyle. True story: On my first date with the woman who would become my second wife, I warned her "Oblivious is my middle name. If you want me to know something, you can't be subtle about it." (For reference, I was 38 years old at the time.) She married me anyway and nine years later, she still marvels at my ability to misunderstand her.

[Mgoods]

Haha. What I'm hearing is, basically my husband won't necessarily become wiser, with age? @gray_sailor

[gray_sailor]

Wisdom will come no matter what happens. Look at my situation, at 38, I had the wisdom to set the foundation for my second marriage on that first date. Knowing ones own limitations is the heart of wisdom. If your husband is truly an oblivious man, that is as much a part of his nature as the shape of his face. Love him in spite of his oblivious nature.

[Mgoods]

Well he's like me, intelligent with zero common sense. I love him to bits, wouldn't change a thing :) @gray_sailor

[KayAden]

I think young guys aren't oblivious. I've found myself deliberately not trying to notice when a chick is obvious to prevent awkwardness. The problem is it's hard to tell if they've noticed and dont want to acknowledge it or if they are oblivious it's a fine line

[Fontaine91]

Maybe, for myself it was sort of like you say. I also didn't believe that a woman could like me. I also saw women as mostly asexual and saints by how they act in public. Nothing to do with common sense, I have amazing common sense. But when it comes to women I never speculate. I understand pretty deep philosophical things also. The key to my common sense is to basically look at the facts of the world and piece the puzzle together, all must correlate with each other for any one piece to fit. I never really take into consideration women's opinions or what they say though. I consider women mostly liars about things. Just like virtually every woman will act asexual in public and none ever admit to masturbating. But there is a 15billion dollar sex toy industry that says their true activity is not what they portray to the public. lol

[Mgoods]

@KayAden that's true. If you're someone who doesn't ask, then it would be difficult to tell. However, I've always just asked if they realise I'm flirting with them or not. Also, a lot of my guy friends claim they never know when they're being flirted with, of course this doesn't apply to all guys. @Fontaine91 I've never met a women who doesn't admit to masturbating, when I've enquired. My friendship group consists of both males and females and we also discuss this stuff openly. I know they type of porn each of my friends get off, to... that's just my experience and as such, when dealing with personal experiences, we know they aren't possibly applicable to whole groups of people... right?

[SakuraChii]

I literally told a guy, "I like you" and he just said "thank you". Before I started to talk to him I also told him that I thought that he was cool, my legs were even shaking.

[Fontaine91]

Lol when I was like 18 in school a girl asked me if I was going to some school trip and when I said "yes" she said "awesome" in a really enthusiastic way. She also later said I had really nice arms and legs. I have no idea but at the time I totally didn't really get it and it never occurred to me that she liked me. I just wrote it off as me being delusional and trying to convince myself that someone likes and trying to read into things etc. So at the time I just wrote it off as random comments to me or something because I couldn't believe that someone would actually like me.

[Kirah]

I have no examples, because I don't give hints. Be straightforward, you'll succeed more in life.

If you like a guy, ask him out. None of that "hinting" stuff. You're only shooting yourself in the foot.

[Fontaine91]

True, I wish more women would do that.

[kittykatbrat]

I have the opposite problem where a movement, polite gesture. returned conversation, meeting gaze or being in the same room/shared space is MISTAKEN as actual interest.

[springocelot]

same problem here.

[kittykatbrat]

@springocelot This really limits u when out :(

[Kirah]

This is why hinting is stupid. One action can mean two different things at once, depending on the girl.

[KayAden]

Hinting are for pussies in my opinion. Why hint why not say. I've also noticed that if a guy Can't tell your intrested he's probably not intrested because in his mind he has no reason to care or notice. If a man doesn't notice or get the feeling he doesn't like u simples. But girls seem to think if they like a guy and he doesn't notice he's oblivious how about maybe he doesn't like u so doesn't care or if he notices in the odd chance he may hide he knows your intrested to save u from embarrassment

[Toad-1]

And surely you can see why just in this thread how men can sometimes take normal gestures as 'signs of interest.' We really have no idea what the difference really is, and sometimes i think girls assume we should always know. We just aren't that perceptive or intuitive like that

[kittykatbrat]

@Kirah I agree with you so don't "hint" or "flirt". Rather I just RESPOND to men who actually ask me out by either accepting or refusing. Peace xo

[kittykatbrat]

@KayAden. Being polite to people IS NEVER interest to me + also see my reply to Kirah. Peace xo

[kittykatbrat]

@Toad-1. I both can and can't understand how this happens, as I personally don't consider a man interested in me until he actually says so and asks me out on a date but DO know many girls who expect men to be psychic. Peace xo

[Prof_Don]

It can't get more blatant than "When are you going to ask me out?"

[Kirah]

I'll never understand girls like that. If they have the courage to say something like that, why won't they just ask you out directly?

[Fontaine91]

I also would like it if women asked me out also like Kirah said. I think some women hide behind the "a man is meant to do that" because then they don't have to do it because I think they are nervous to do it.

[MyAnacondaDoes]

Because that's how women work @Kirah

[chuppachup]

That 2nd one is definitely something I'd do tbh lmao

[bubble_tea]

Be prepared from now on lol

[chuppachup]

I'm actually pmsl at the reddit posts, thanks for sharing the link lol.

[bubble_tea]

You're welcome ^^

[genericname85]

well i had a girl constantly asking me to watch a movie together (like dvds at my or at her home). she was constantly trying to cuddle and gave a lot of hints. in the end she asked me out and said she couldn´t believe how oblivious i was to her advances...

in fact i was just not interested in more than friendship and was ignoring her advances deliberately XD i wanted to show her that there isn´t going to be more but she didn´t get it at all.

[bubble_tea]

Lol, you led her on! Shame on you! (This is what a "nice guy" would tell the friend for treating them like a friend) So, did you agree to go on a date? xD In that thread though, there were guys or friends of the guys re-telling the story.. and they were really that oblivious haha not as sneaky as you.

[genericname85]

how did i lead her on? i actually enjoyed the things we did and i can´t just say out of the blue: "you know i don´t like you in a romantic way and i never will"... that would be really strange, wouldn´t it? no i turned her down as nicely as i could, explaining everything to her. yeah sorry xD i don´t have a better storry... maybe i was oblivious before but i newer got to know that i was, if it was the case.

[bubble_tea]

Lol I just told you that this is what a "nice guy" would tell or say about the girl.. that she led him on. Since you have personal experience in this, you know how strange it would be to do what they expect. So you told her you noticed the signs but deliberately ignored them? Did she take it well? Oh ok, I thought you wanted to tell me that the guys in the story all knew it too lol

[genericname85]

yeah i get that :) this is why one should ask out or confess as soon as one has feelings and don´t just hope. i first told her that i didn´t like her that way and that i´m sorry and that i like her as a person/friend and this stuff. later on we discussed how she was sending me signs and how i reacted to make her not get the wrong idea but yeah, i could have done anything, she would still have gotten the wrong idea XD she was really sad, obviously but we´re still friends to this day :) i actually think it might be the case in some of the stories. but i don´t know.

[MyAnacondaDoes]

Lmao at the responses from guys: "I want women to be straight and tell me!", etc... what a joke!

Women will barely ever come flat out to ask you out... they expect you, as MEN, to make the first move.

If you don't realise their fucking obvious signals, then they'll move on because you're weak and insecure...

[QuestionMan]

Lol number 1 and 2 seem like things I would do.

[Blue2]

LOLOLOOLOLOLOLOL ouch damn that sucks and is hilarious at the same time... wtf is wrong with him. but i guess i wouldve been clueless at 3 too.

[John_Doesnt]

She took off her top in front of me, but I just thought she was getting warm.

[FatherJack]

Male brains are totally differently wired to you ladies brains , we have to be taught what to look for , guys mostly can't read the typically subtle female flirting signals , it's best to be direct if you want results. I've probably missed loads of these in my lifetime !!

[heythurr]

I would text first. I would stare back at him when he stared at me. I don't think he realized it until 4 months later when i was kind of over him :T

[ithinkyoulike]

The most obvious time is asked me to go out. Or asking for my number. I wrote something inappropriate in my yearbook. Do something she shouldn't have. But I guy did what you did they be in jail. Double standards.

[Words_and_Wisdom]

Girls, just state it. "Fuck me, now!" God...

[93stepsawayfromhome]

I'll just copy what I said in another thread. We just don't want to come over like a fucking creep. All hints are vague to some degree and we might just take a non-hint the wrong way, I don't want to seem like a bloody stalker when I thought you were giving me a hint, so yes, I'm basically oblivious and blowing every chance I have but I don't want to seem like a fucking moron who you can call the police on.

That being said, 1 was blatantly obvious but I don't think I would pick up on 3. I'm clueless when it comes to this.