Should I wear heels if my boyfriend would look shorter than me if I wear them?

Question

I never wore heels when I went our with him. But he told me once: "I have noticed that you don't weat heels". I wonder if he sees other girls that wear them and finds them more attractive.

mangaka92 · Accepted Answer

He might. Or he might find girls that wear them less attractive. Honestly, I find girls that wear heels a lot less attractive. It's going to be different for every guy. You can't assume one way or the other because there's a 50-50 chance he likes them or doesn't.
It could be that he finds it attractive or that he finds it unusual that you do when so many girls do even though he likes it. Ask him if what he thinks about heels. You could even ask him if he thought you looked better in heels or other shoes that you like wearing better. You won't know until you ask. My ex never wore heels (even though she really wanted to) because she was taller than me with them on and it made her uncomfortable.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

He might, he might not, I once made an observation at the strip club where all the girls that were sitting at the time, crossed their legs. I'm thinking, OK, you know you're in a strip club, we're going to be seeing your underwear eventually anyway, right? So, why cross your legs right now? She told me "it's just proper". It's a gentlemans club so it's a little nicer than your average strip club and they want the girls to be proper EVEN if it IS a strip club. It was just an observation I made aloud, and she answered. I wasn't really looking for them to change, I don't control how the strip club works

kitterns · Accepted Answer

This reminds me exactly of my boyfriend and I! He's my height exactly so I'm a bit skeptical about wearing heels or any shoes that make me taller than him, but he convinces me that it doesn't matter whether they make me taller than him or not, because if people see that I am taller, they'll know it's because of the shoes. I doubt your boyfriend says this because he finds girls who wear them more attractive, I think he's telling you to wear them because he wants you to feel comfortable around him and not put yourself off wearing shoes that you want to just because of him.

BeeNee · Accepted Answer

If he found other heel wearing girls more attractive, he'd be with them right, but he's not. He's with you because presumably he likes you the way you are. If he's not pressuring you to wear heels, and more importantly that's not your thing, then don't think twice about it. People say stuff all the time thinking off the top of their head, doesn't mean they are ready to do anything about it or want to do anything about it.

S0ph5t3R · Accepted Answer

I don't care wearing heels and looking taller than my friends/boyfriends (when I was dating). It's up to them, if they're bugged looking shorter or not. My current crush is a couple inches taller than me, but when I wear heels, I'm way taller than him. It doesn't keep him from talking to me and wanting to hang out with me ;) . I bet he thinks it's hot, same for your boyfriend.

batgirl22 · Accepted Answer

No hun, You never know he might actually find it attractive if you're a bit taller than he is in heels. Its just to look pleasing to the eye which im sure you already are but it just adds mystery and its really sexy and if you buy the right heels/wedges they make your legs look amazing ^.^

oldlady · Answer

I've had guys about my height ask me NOT to wear heels so that I won't be taller than them. I couldn't care less.

BertMacklinFBI · Answer

I doubt he finds heels attractive on a girl, maybe its just an observation for him because he sees other girls wearing them.

Mesonfielde · Answer

You can do whatever you want as long as you want to do it. Comparative height is nearly irrelevant.

JustinCaseUDontKnow · Answer

I really don't see it being a problem if a girl was taller than me in heels

sadsadboy · Answer

well, just saying, for some guys heels would look very sexy on girls but if this will make you s looks taller than him then i suggest you dont wear it

slatyb · Answer

Sounds like it, but just freaking ask him straight up -- "Would you like me to wear heels? Would it bother you if I am taller than you?"

Tattooedfairy19 · Answer

I'm only 5'2" so I've never come across this issue can't help really but I don't know why height really matters

Kirah · Answer

If you like heels, go for it. If not, keep walking on normal shoes. Don't wear something you're uncomfortable with because of someone else.

Also who cares whether or not the guy is taller than the girl? I never understood why this is so important.

PoeticMemory · Answer

If you want to do it, do it. He'll be happy if you're happy - and also, if he's not insecure, it won't bother him at all.

ImaSloth · Answer

That is such a useless thing to say, I would've said her shoes were nice instead of that.. Honestly he's probably a guy who would find girls wearing them better, fuck if guys like these get girls I'm set..

MJas16 · Answer

Wear some heels then.

cinderelli · Answer

i dont think he cares... he would not ask you if he did..  ^he doesn't

R3d_Anonymous · Answer

Yes, at least I wouldn't mind it and I am 5'4.

sexyphil · Answer

Sounds like he wants you to wear them so do as he says and put some on next time you go out. Nothing wrong with being a tad taller than your boyfriend

mistermist · Answer

Do you want to wear heels? The answer to that question is the answer to yours. If you like how it makes you look, do it.

Tarvold · Answer

I know I can't represent all guys with this, but personally, I love being out with a woman who's taller than me.

HollywoodGlam · Answer

I don't think the fact that you don't wear heels is a deal breaker for him. But if you want to wear them, wear them regardless that your boyfriend will look shorter than you.