How do I mention the idea of MMF threesome to my boyfriend?

[Anonymous]

I've been in an honest, committed and open-minded (sexually) relationship with my boyfriend for almost three years. We're both in our 20s and we have a fun sex life but only between the 2 of us. He's mentioned the idea of FFM threesome and is obviously turned on by the idea of it, as am I. But he has joked about how a MMF relationship or sexual relationship is gross and doesn't understand how they don't mind sharing. MMF threesome has always been a fantasy of mine and I would NEVER leave him for saying no, because I understand why he's against it. I do have a mutual friend of ours in mind, but I don't want to mention him because I don't want him to think I'm just looking for an excuse to have sex with his friend... I'm just looking for maybe some ideas to mention it to him and maybe get him a little more keen on the idea... any suggestions?

[gysport3922]

I've always found me and two girls a hot topic. Have tried it before. However, I never thought I'd find me, another guy, and a girl hot. Then a year or so ago a girl I dated briefly was into watching porn together, we watched some girl girl, and she said I want to watch this with you. Turned out it was a girl, watching two guys and kinda coercing them to mess around. The guys were both masculine/straight, fit and hung and the girl got off so hard watching them jerk, kiss, and blow each other. I was surprised how hot it made me and since that point I've been curious about the idea and open to it. The other guy would have to be straight/open, masculine, fit, and well hung. In fact that topic is the primary reason I started posting on this site hoping to find some girls who might be down to discuss this topic more in depth so if anyone wants to let me know!

[normalice]

You could suggest an FFMM foursome. See how he responds to that.

[Stacyzee]

You need a very stable relationship for 3sums to not interfere with the dynamic of it.

If you do decide to go through with the threesomes you both need to have certain rules discussed , prevent some of the hard feelings that may follow after wards.

I just think you should bring it up.

Just like he was open to communicate his fantasies.
I think you should be open to communicating yours..

If you're willing to step outside of the box for his pleasure.
He should be willing to do the same for you.

Although, just because you are open to his needs doesn't mean you should expect anything back in return.
If you choose to go through with the FFM then do so and do not make him feel bad about not fulfilling your fantasy.

I think you should open up to him about how you feel, and convince to him why you want it so badly.

[Blackjack_]

Well u said u guys are both open to the idea of bringing people in. I wouldn't ever do that but its your life, either way, id not do a ffm if he wouldn't agree to a mmf

[Esplorare]

I really can't help you here considering that I would never allow a sexual act to compromise or destroy a relationship. I'd never even risk it.

[AustinMan]

How about if the was the new guy in a sexual role play scenario and your vibrator or dildo is your boyfriend. That lets him be a very different, maybe rougher and harsher lover?

[dogbert444]

Any threesome or foursome swap is going to end in tears for someone!! It always does. There have recently been examples on GAG that I've replied to. You might find guy number 2 better than your boyfriend. That will lead to jealousy and harsh words, and eventually to splitting up. You will be risking everything in your relationship, and guy number 2 way well spread the word around and give YOU a bad reputation!

It just isn't worth the risk.

[DeltaDanner]

I don't think there is anything wrong with bringing it up. However, if you do, and he says no, then just drop it. Never mention it again. If you keep pushing it it will become suspicious and may hurt him. Definitely don't mention who you want it to be with. This could easily make him jealous or suspicious of your intent. It could end up harming not just your relationship, but also his friendship with the other guy.
I don't think 3somes are good for relationships, and someone's feelings will get hurt. There are a thousand ways of it going wrong and a couple ways of it going right. I wouldn't try it, but it's your relationship. Just be cautious, and if it's a no then it's a no.

[Flex4Ever]

Nooooooooooooooooooooooooooes

[BertMacklinFBI]

he mentioned FFM to you so you are allowed to mention MMF to him clear in the open.

[Frost_Byt3]

You don't. If my girlfriend so much as suggested an MMF threesome, I'd dump her on the spot.

[Spencer10]

This is a minefield. A relationship must be very stable to handle any 3some. But if you must pursue this I would suggest making it a contract with him... he gets his FFM if you get your MMF. Fair is fair.

[oldanddecrepid]

Hmmm... hey honey I am making eggs, toast and breakfast sausage, do you want some, and would you prefer one sausage or two?

"I would really like two sausages, please!!!" wink-wink-nudge-nudge

[dudeman]

id leave her for asking. hell id leave her if i found out this was a past experience of hers.

[genericname85]

just tell him XD if he´s up for it, you´re in luck, if not, he will just say that he´s not into it. nothing to loose there.

[OrangeBoy]

Just say it again, if thats what you want ; ) no fears.

[gapminder]

You could say that you'll do the FFM, if he'll do the MMF as well. That way you both get your fantasies met.

[bulltaker]

From a guy that has many MMF with my SO, I would suggest you find someone neither of you knows for the first time, depending on how it goes, you don't want either your guy or the other guy having thoughts about you liking the other guy or the other guy liking you, etc.
Both of you should be prepared for the experience to be really hot and could make him think you enjoyed it more than him, the reality is you are enjoying the newest and the double attention.
And this is very important, talk to him and find out any dos and don'ts on his list. Case in point
I was with a couple once and we were having great fun, she sucking me, then him. then together, me fucking her, him fucking her, you get the point, then I kissed her, mouth kiss, game over the room turned cold, he started getting dressed and they left, lesson learned, ask what is off limits.

[JennieF]

Bring it up directly.

[Mr2kinky]

I have done it with my wife bi was like him first but came to turns after watching mmf porn with her and realizing it's only fair to do it since we did mff threesomes. It eventually became a turn on for me

[Anonymous]

This is my wife's favourite fantasy and even though I have said I'd be more than happy to make it come true without her having to return the favour she say's she wouldn't do it for real.

[Anonymous]

Are you bisexual or a cuckquean?

[Anonymous]

Suggest watching some porn together and make sure that you watch something with MMF. When they start going at it, put your hand in your panties and start masturbating, moaning abut how hot it is and how much you would like to do that.

Have you ever done anal with your boyfriend. Maybe you could suggest that if you do MMF, you want to try DP and he could be the back door man.

[Anonymous]

If he mentioned a FFM and you then a MMF should also be on the table. I would suggest you tell him something like... I am willing to go FFM only if we can do a MMF first because it would only be fair.

[Anonymous]

Don't mention it.