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He took my virginity and then stopped talking to me? How do I move on?

I've never felt so used in my life :( I don't know what to do he really had me believing he liked me.
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  • That sucks. There is a lot of assholes out there and it's sad to say that that's just the world we live in. Try not to think of it as if he took something from you though. Virginity is not as big of a deal as people build it up to be. You are not in any way worth less just because your first sexual experience was with a douchebag.

    How to move on? If I was you I would be vindictive as f*ck. Text him that you are pregnant or have and STD and that you are sorry. Give him a scare, so maybe he will think twice about being such a piece of shit in the future or at least make him sweat for a minute or two.

    Of course there is nothing to do about feeling sad for a while. You obviously liked him and thought that he liked you back and that stings. But what you can take away from this experience is that you at least gained some valuable information about how remorseless some guys can be.

    • I just i mean I spent two months getting to know this guy. How am I ever supposed to trust someone again...

    • You have to take a chance. That's what everyone does when they meet someone. You can't ever really trust anyone other than yourself 100%, but there are people who come pretty close to that. Trust is a very broad term and it can be damaged by major and minor things. Sometimes it can be repaired, other times not. Odds are that someone will betray your trust again, but possibly not this badly, and I think most guys will be sorry if they do (if they have a conscience). You got very unlucky this time, so maybe you will be very lucky next time. You just have to take a chance.

    • Okay thank you

  • "I don't know what to do he really had me believing he liked me." Hey, it comes with the #game of being a #female right? Since 97% of the time, we as guys can't just ask for some "pussy". Naw we're forced into playing yall's #game, all in order to get laid. So don't go complaining about how "___ acted like something that he wasn't all in order to get in your pants".

    Since we're told from a very young age that "in order to be deemed worthy of ____ #PrizedPossession " you'll have to #charm/sweet talk her + take her out etc. Now this is the byproduct of that (yall feeling used) so #DealWithIt

    Also, you need to quit thinking about him if you can. Cuz that'll only make matters worse I'm sure.

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  • Best thing to do is learn from the experience.

    Don't be so quick to have sex with someone. It's a much better idea to wait several months, or even years if you are younger before having sex. Also, if you want to avoid being used, then don't even do anything physical (not even a kiss) until it's established that you are exclusively dating and in a relationship. (I know, I know, it sounds prudish, but it really works to eliminate the users/guys just looking to get some.)

    Good luck.

    • I waited two months..

    • This advice is so incredibly wrong. The idea of waiting does nothing because if the guy was an asshole, he will always be an asshole. All you did was postpone it for several more months.

    • @alonzoslade He actually has a point there. He could simply put her on the back burner while he looks elsewhere. Once she is "ready", he collects the goods.

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  • A few things..
    You're still worth all the best
    If he comes back, ignore the hell out of him.
    This too shall pass. So acknowledge your feelings: You're hurt, you feel used, etc but tell yourself that in due time u will be stronger and wiser. Say it until u start to believe it and feel it.
    Instead of beating yourself up & hating your mistake, tell urself that it was a lesson well learned. Next guy that comes along, get to know him better and see if he's worth it.
    All the best!

    • Definitely a lesson learned! Thank you.

  • 😞 been there. Wouldn't really wish those feelings afterwards on anyone. The best thing you can TRY (and I say try because you'll most likely fail, at first anyway) is forget about him. The more you sit and think about him, the situation and wishing that you could take it back, the more miserable you'll make yourself. Unfortunately, some guys are jerk and after they get what they want, the don't look back. Don't beat yourself up over it tho.

    • It is really no different than a woman using a man for a free meal on the first date since women don't tend to pay

    • @alonzoslade dude, that's not even close to the same thing so get outta here with that nonsense. #scram

    • It actually is because women frequently use men for their money. Just as equally as women fear being used for sex, men fear being used for money. The principle is the fear of being used.

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  • asshole.

    sorry to read... i guess the only thing to do is just pick yourself up and learn from this baby girl. please make sure u dont put yourself through it again.

    • It is really no different than a woman using a man for a free meal on the first date since women don't tend to pay

    • i love it when people do this. the question is not about women at this moment. the question is about a guy who used her. @alonzoslade

    • but the use is justified if she is selfish as well @justbanANNAz

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  • Life is hard and shit happens. Get your mind straight by focusing on your future goals in life.

  • You didn't lose anything of value... just move on.

    • Virginity is valuable to many Its not that simple

    • @Bards Only in their imagination. It will only matter if she makes it so. She could simply imagine this first time never happened and be bappy. It's all in her head. In the real physical world, it doesn't matter. Virginity is nothing, it's the absence of something, like being homeless. You don't "lose" your homelessness by finding somewhere to live. Why is this absence valuable? It makes no sense? Why take an event that is common in real life (sleeping with someone who ditches you) and make it even worse for yourself for no good reason? Where is the gain? The hard truth is virginity has no value unless you sell it on ebay. What if her next guy is a really good guy, is she going to regret not having had him as her first? What's the point in that? She shouldn't stay hung up on things that have no value. She should just move on and forget about it. Let her believe her next time is her second first time again. It makes just as much sense to me ! Good luck OP ! @bards

    • Yeah if it matters to her then it does have value. She doesn't have to be hung up about it and she can move on but it does have value.

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  • Just move on. Obviously, he does not like you because he didn't stay; therefore, you can't make him stay. Yet, you could move on and be a bit more wiser when the next one comes around and not let yourself be easily fooled.

    • I waited two months i thought I really knew him it makes no sense

    • Well, apparently you didn't. Plus, some guys/girls will tell you exactly what you want to hear. You as an adult have to be able to differentiate what's true and what is not.

    • Yeah that's true. It's so fucked though he must be really messed up to lead someone on like that..

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  • Ben and Jerry's is there for you during times like these. Ice cream will never use you for sex.

    • Pizia, bacon and chocolates are also viable options

    • Thanks I definitely ate lots of ice cream haha I only spent one day crying over that loser though! No more.

    • I'm glad you're over him.

  • I'm sorry to hear that, but dont give that piece of trash a second thought , best to focus on urself for now then move on

    • For sure... he wasn't even good in bed.

    • haha well i hope u find a real man soon, and a better bed mate lol

  • Another bad egg. You can't undo anything... except to learn and move on.

  • You'll hurt for a little while but do things to make youself forget about that fuckboy.

  • You met a virgin hunter or a virgin collector.
    Completely forget him: he isn't worth remembering.

  • Just forget him and move on. He was obviously collecting notches on his bedpost. You can do much better than that...

  • Talk to your girlfriends and share stories of bad relationships (if there are any of theirs which they have not already told you about), you will realize you are not alone.

    • I just trusted him because he seemed like he really liked him i am so confused

    • Well many women fall for the charming guy routine. Unfortunately some guys are excellent liars. You just have to try to move on and realize that this does not reflect badly on you.

    • Thanks!

  • I'm sorry this happened to you *hugs* Just don't let it affect your future, Pick yourself up and dust off. there's brighter days ahead :) Forget that guy there's way better guys out there :)

  • He was just an asshole. At least he's out of your life now. Find a nice guy. Girl's go for bad boys but then they complain and blame it on all men when they do stuff like this. WTF?

    • He was the nice guy... He acted like a friend and he was so nice around me turns out he was the worst

    • Well still. Any "nice guy" that does that is an asshole.

  • Just as equally women take men's money on first dates and move on

  • It's done, don't dwell on it! Bigger and better things out there to worry and think about!

  • That totally sucks! That's why I'm still a virgin, that's my biggest fear. And well honestly their is no way you can get over it only with time you will. There's really nothing that can help now just next time be more careful 😞

  • Let it be a lesson for the future never go into bed with a guy unless you know he is there long term

  • Done that a few times, so i know first hand that him seeing you cry over him or feel that bad over him will only give him an ego boost. Dont give him that satisfaction. Act like it didn't even faze you.

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