I had sex for the first time and I hated it. Why do people make sex sound "good" when in reality-not only does it hurt but is too aggressive?

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Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I'm going to put it to you like this sex sucked for me until I got married and I have been with eight different men but at the time I didn't know that it did suck I didn't know it really was that bad until I found one guy who really got it so my guess is either u was really nervous or the guy really didn't know what he was doing and I know how could it be that a guy not know what he is doing when it comes to sex but on honey believe me it is possible my ex has been with over 70 woman and he absolutely sucks in bed but my husband has only been with three and that includes me and he is wonderful as an example u just have to find someone who clicks with u and the first time it does hurt a little bit but should not be extreme I hope this helped but don't give up it gets better so much better when u find the one

XRabbitHeartX · Accepted Answer

Seems like you just had a bad first time. You can't really judge sex based off your first time because likely you had some expectations of it and likely it won't be as you imagined especially the first time when there is naturally more pain. My first time hurt too... So did the second... Possibly the third too and then it got better and better till there were no pain. Also if the sex is "aggressive" then it can be changed by communicating with your partner and saying you want it gently which is a normal thing to desire your first few times. In fact it should be gentle to help ease the pain.

ShaunaM95 · Accepted Answer

I hated it the first time I had sex too. When I went to have it a second time, I told my now ex-boyfriend to slow down and be more gentle and to spend more time on foreplay and then it was really good :)

AustinMan · Accepted Answer

First time sex isn't like any other sexual experience. I'm guessing he wasn't experienced either. That or he was very inconsiderate.

Your body adjusts to sex so the discomfort should go away. That he was too aggressive is unfortunate but some guys just don't get it.

BloncGryphous · Accepted Answer

Your first time was with a careless half wit that only cared about his/her own release. This is not the rule for all sexual encounters. Do not rule out all sexual activity based on your first time. But be careful who you choose.

kambo_trick3y · Answer

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Lys_Dis · Answer

It will hurt for a while that's just how it is you won't feel pleasure right away. And the aggressiveness part that was the guy he shouldn't have been that way especially during your first time

Bimbobambo · Answer

You definetly just had the wrong partner.. sorry to hear that. Sex is better than what you experienced.

RachelBrigs · Answer

You having bad sex doesn't prove that sex itself is bad. Maybe he was too aggressive.

DarkHumorRUs · Answer

Cause your partner was a retard.

normalice · Answer

The guy you were with seemed to not really know what he was doing. Sex is great when done right. Sort of like chocolate - it's great to eat it when eaten right, but you can't just take a 5 pound chocolate bunny and shove it down your throat.

Kris85 · Answer

Cause your first time usually sucks and it does hurt a little. It may even a few more times after that.

mutedaisy · Answer

It was your first time and probably with the wrong time. No one is going to bullshit you about your first time... It genuinely sucks for most involved. It gets better as time goes on.

Mesonfielde · Answer

Yes, because seeing one movie means that every movie ever made is bad.

Ulyss · Answer

It's not our fault you had sex with a guy that doesn't know shit

AriesOves97 · Answer

It's your first time, don't judge something with one experience. Everyone tends to sucks their first time.

IamNuts · Answer

Yeah first time's tend to suck.

meatballs21 · Answer

First time sex generally isn't that great, because you don't know what you're doing. Giving up on it because you didn't like/weren't good at it right away is foolish.

I_am_repulsive · Answer

In time you will enjoy the sex and you probably had a bad experience or an inexperience guy or a guy like you said who did not take it easy for you

genericname85 · Answer

you can´t judge sex from one experience... especially not the first one.

Kuraj · Answer

Losing virginity is overrated, messy, painful and it tends to suck. Unless you are going to do it with somebody you have really deep feelings for, you may as well use toys.

VampireEmpress · Answer

that happened because you didn't tell him what you liked and wanted. you just let him do whatever to you, or so it sounds like. say something next time! I'm sorry it hurt for you.