How can I last longer during sex?

The girl I'm seeing wants to call it quits because my sex doesn't last long enough for her (she wants to have it 20-30 minutes. I can only make it till 10 minutes). So, how can I last longer during sex?
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Most Helpful Guys

  • 1) Put her up in the saddle. Here's a piece I wrote that may help her:Cowgirl tips
    Here’s the way I have found, with the help of a very cooperative girlfriend, that a woman can ride her man all the way up the mountain to multiple, increasing powerful orgasms and ultimately, squirting.
    • He needs to understand that he can help with this position by grabbing her hips and helping her move. At first, leave to her own devices but as she gets more and more aroused, he should become stronger and more and more forceful in moving her back and forth.
    • Put him on his back and mount up with you on your knees.
    • Slide him in and settle in so you’re comfortable.
    • Rock like you’re riding a horse, slowly at first and faster as you get more aroused.
    • When you’re ready for him to help, reach down and put his hands on your hips. For effect, you can beg him in your sexy slut voice to help you.
    • When you start to get close to cumming, move like you’re trying your best to break that thing off. Of course, you won’t but the point is to not hold back. Just go crazy.
    • When you’re right on the edge, tell him to do you. He thrusts up as powerfully as he can and holds it with you impaled as deeply on his cock as possible, perched on his erection. He also forcefully tilts his hips and slams his shaft into your G-spot.
    • As you cum, don’t even slow down. Keep going and you will cum over and over, each time increasingly intense.
    • If you have The Big One, as I call it, you may very likely squirt so if there’s a gush, it’s not urine. It’s female ejaculate. Keep going until you’re completely done.
    Here are a few ancillary suggestions:
    • Pee first so that if you should squirt, you can be confident it’s not pee.
    • If you’re into S&M, have him forcefully pinch your nipples as you’re starting to cum.
    • He can slap your tits around if you’re into that. One girlfriend of mine liked to be slapped while she was up there with me telling her what a trashy slut she was for being up there in the first place.
    • Some ladies like their men to reach around and smack their ass while they ride.

    2) I think about sad things to distract me until I'm ready to cum after she's gone off a dozen or so times. The loss of a pet is my thoughts.

    3) You can slow down and even pull out, take a little break and use your hands. She can help.

  • If you did find another partner a lot (maybe even most) of girls seem to prefer 10 minutes over 20-30. Masturbating and maybe kegals can help some guys.

Most Helpful Girls

  • When you're in control, keep it relatively slow and focus on not cumming. Every time you feel yourself getting really close to the edge of no return, back off, slow the thrusting or completely pull out till it passes completely. During that time you can just make out with her, or in the cases when you pull out completely, go down on her till you get her to cum before you resume sex.
    If you do that, you should see positive results relatively quick. That's what my boyfriend did and I noticed him lasting a lot longer within a month.

    (side note; if the girl is threatening a break up because you don't last 'long enough', not so sure she's worth keeping around :/ ...)

    • Yeah she said sex is an important part of a relationship.

    • of course, I agree that sex is an important part of the relationship. In terms of something like lasting time, unless you've got a legitimate ED though, is something that can be worked on. To me, it wasn't and would never be a dealbreaker.

    • What's "ED"?

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  • Thrust and aim to make her feel good. Don't focus on achieving your own orgasm, like sort of numb yourself and just focus on what your dick is doing for HER. If you feel like you're close just slow down or stop for a second.
    Or make her cum before sex so she won't feel like she's left hanging. (Or finish her after)

  • Spend more time on foreplay and get her to climax first. While having sex if you are thinking you are going to cum soon slow down and think about your least favourite soap character.

    Tbh if you haven't been going out long and this is an example of her sensitive side I would be worried if I was you.

    • We dated for 3 months. There are other concerns she has about me, e. g. I'm too shy and not confident enough in her book, but that's another topic.

    • There's nothing wrong with being shy. I'd much prefer a guy to be quiet rather than brash and you must have had a bit if confidence to ask her out... good luck.

    • She asked me out. lol

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  • If you're having sex without a condom, then try a condom. I heard it makes a difference.

    • Yeah, we had sex most of the time without condom. But even with condom it didn't last that long.

  • My ex boyfriend once told me the way he managed to last long was masturbating a lot lol. Not sure if that works or not, but that's what he said worked for him.

  • get some numbing gel from like a sex shop and squirt some inside the condom

  • Wear a condom. Then you'll last all night because you won't feel a thing.

    Jack off a lot. Jack off just before you leave to go to her house. You won't be as aroused.

    • But if I'm not arroused doesn't it mean it's harder for me to get a boner. Even if I got a boner, the boner may not be as stiff and thus would hurt her.

    • By 'not as aroused' I mean 'you won't have one in the chamber ready to go'. You'll still get hard, it'll just take you longer to finish.

  • Try jacking off before y'all have sex. It'll make you last a lot longer since you already nutted.

  • Have you tried edging or thinking about something else? I find edging the best way to last for agesand it add excitement to the sex.

  • Condom. Numbing lube. 20 minutes of going down on your girlfriend before you put it in.

  • Beer (b) or any type of alcoholic drink!!!

  • control think of something and try holding back

  • 20-30 min isn't very realistic, unless your a porn star. Maybe she's not getting what she needs. Why not just have sex twice? I mean twice within an hour or earlier if possible. I would think a lot of girls are ok with a guy not lasting long as long as he tried again.

  • use a condom that isn't super thin!

  • No foreplay for you. Or, have her give you a quick BJ and then get you hard again. Now, go at it and you will last longer.

  • Wow she sounds like a very insensitive person. She should take it as a compliment. When she is on top and you are about to cum just have her slow down and then after a little she can speed up etc.

  • Masturbste before hand so the second time around during sex, it will be longer