Should I let my boyfriend tie me down?

My boyfriend has been recently asking me if he can tie me down during oral. I find this to be very hot and would totally be willing to try it. I'm concerned that it's a little weird though. I'm not into BDSM or anything and would not be into doing anything crazier than that but am still worried. Also, he doesn't have rope or anything just a cloth-material belt. Would that be safe to use/ would it leave marks or hurt?
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  • My biggest fear for you is being able to trust him that much. If you look at a lot of situations on this website you see people in a relationship for years that are just finding out their boyfriend isn't who they thought they were. Once you are tied down you are at his mercy. I know that is part of the excitement of it but there are so many ways the guy can make such a situation become very bad. My wife tied me down once but I trust her with my life and that is the only reason I felt safe letting her do that. When I was single I just thought of the things a person could do and that I would be powerless to stop them.

  • It's reasonably safe. by the way if you find this to be hot, you are at least into the B part of BDSM.

    Soft material bondage can hurt if it is pulled too tightly. The safe way to tie wrists or ankles is to use a knot like a bowline that does not tighten under tension. There is plenty of information online that tells how to tie safely.

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  • Do it if you want but make sure to have a "safe word".

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  • Sounds hot to me.

  • Tying down for oral is great for both parties involved. Set up a safe word to use so that he knows when you say it that he is to stop what ever he is doing and untie you immediately. The cloth belt may leave some marking depending on how tight you are tied and how much you thrash. I suggest that you start off loosely tied and see how it goes from there.

  • A cloth tie would not leave marks. If it floats your boat and you can trust this guy, go for it.

  • Use a leather belt. It works quite well! Not that I've done anything like this... Ofcourse.. Cough* cough*

  • To be honest, the weirdest thing here is that you are limiting your explorations based on how weird people think it is when these people aren't even in your bedroom. What people think of it should not be a factor in your decision on whether or not you will try something or not. You say that you are not into BDSM like it would be a stigma. Almost like if it wasn't such a "bad" thing, you might try it but you prefer not. The real question you should ask yourself is do YOU feel comfortable doing it. And it seems like you are. Why would you come here and ask for permission?

  • Cloth material belt would be less likely to mark than rope. Or you can go to good will and buy a bunch of neckties for a couple of bucks.

    I've tied (and been tied) on rare occasions. It is fun, no big deal.

  • Spring for good rope and make sure he tests for cerculation

  • Nah, you should go for it.

  • It would leave marks but it's hot so do it

  • I don't c how people can do this I would freak out bring back some bad memories if think that u would try to fuck me up like cut me or se crazy shit just to scared and I'm afraid that when I get into a relationship she will won't it