Saw my boyfriend's porn and it's the exact opposite of me?

[Anonymous]

I was on my boyfriend's laptop yesterday (my laptop went on the fritz) and I downloaded a file and opened up his downloads folder and saw two porn videos. Now, to clear things up, I understand that men watch porn and while I'm not thrilled, I've accepted it. Out of morbid curiosity, I opened them (just wondered what he was into). Both videos were from a site called exxxtrasmall and both had tiny 5ft tall girls with small boobs. I have DD boobs, a large, round butt, am curvy and 5'8" tall. I like my body and usually date men whose "type" I am. Part of what bothered me so much was that his ex girlfriend of four years was built exactly like that. She was like 5ft tall and very small and petite. After her, he dated a girl who was almost 6ft tall and fell in love with her. Anyway, I immediately felt bad about myself because it seems like that's his type and I'm not anything like that (nor do I want to be; no offense to girls built like that... I'm just happy with me). So I calmly and casually brought it up last night (not that I found the videos, just about what his type is) and he says that he doesn't really have a type. That he looks at her personality, if she's smart and ambitious, if she's funny, etc. and that he does have to be attracted to her to date her, but that he can see the beauty in both a petite, skinny girl and a tall curvy girl. He said he's a jack of all trades with women; that he's dated different kinds. I understand where he's coming from, but it still bothers me that the girls so much resemble his ex. Do the girls men choose to watch reflect their type? Also, the videos were downloaded a month before we met.

[MeltedCheese89]

Ma'am, rest assured, you have little or nothing to worry about with this. I haven't exactly conducted extensive surveys on this topic or anything, but I think it's fair to say the overwhelming majority of men love a wide variety of women.
Yes, we TEND to be more attracted to the ones that are cute, young, beautiful and/or have a relatively trim bodytype. But outside of that, things like height, hairstyle, foot size, tattoos, hair color, quantity of freckles, eye color, and even ethnicity really don't matter that much to us.
The moment we decide we'll only date a woman if she's, say, under 5'4" or has just this particular style of bob-cut blond hair... we're putting really arbitrary restrictions on the women we can be attracted to. Women come in many shapes and sizes, hues and textures... and the majority of us men appreciate all of them in only slightly different degrees.

[AustinMan]

Porn is about fantasy and convenience. It's not comparing you to them. Men have a fantasy but they don't expect their woman to be that fantasy. If she is, there are extremely fortunate. A smart woman asks about those fantasies and then helps figure out how to role play both his and her fantasies.

[kaylaS91]

Porn is usually more fantasy than reality. As in something someone may get turned on by in theory, which doesn't carry over to real life.

When I watch porn, for example, I like watching threesomes. In real life, I'd never want to participate in that. I find it hot, but I know that it wouldn't carry over well to reality. That might be how your boyfriend feels about the girls he sees in porn. Nice to look at, especially in action, but he loves you as you are.

[joaninhagirl]

Girl, if the videos were downloaded a month BEFORE you met, that means nothing at all. You were not in his life yet. Sometimes guys think they prefer a certain type, like us girls, but end up finding out that they can see beauty and sexyness in a woman completly out of their "natural type".

[Anonymous]

My husband type is blonde curvy with big boobs and I'm none of them things but he still married me I'm brunette have small boobs and really skinny all I have is a butt so see it doesn't matter

[JayMadrigal]

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[Anpu23]

I wouldn't worry about it. Honestly if he downloaded it before he was with you, it was just what caught his attention. Not necessarily his type.

[Pat8707]

No it doesn't reflect the type at all. Guys don't really have a type when it comes to bodies, it's the personality.

[usernameisnttaken]

No not really. I mean I watch all kinds of porn. Except midget porn. I can't do that. Or gross stuff. But as far as the girls in the porn videos go, no I don't have a type I'm into.

[ShayanMortazavi]

I dont know

[jakeofalltrades]

you shouldn't read to much into it, sometimes people like to watch stuff that is the exact opposite than what they like, just for a change of pace

[Inevitable_opening68]

Your feeling may be valid but rest assured that watching bouncing boobies would not interfere or in anyway be a hindrance in your relationship, watching porn is fine watching it with him? he will surely like it by the way you can save some videos locally by using VideoPower RED try looking a guide at grabporn

[Anonymous]

You have nothing to worry about. He wouldn't be with you if wasn't attracted to you. Personally your height and body type seem ideal to me - I'd choose you over a small girl any day.
He dated a girl who was 5' and a girl who was 6' - clearly height is irrelevant to him like it is to most guys. And DD boobs are great.

[Anonymous]

i dont think guys really have much of a "type" so dont worry too much. he is with you for a reason so he is obviously attracted to you.

[Anonymous]

That porn he has on his computer might pre-date his relationship with you. Which could explain why the models on there are more resembling of his ex.

The porn on my computer has a wide variety of different looking models.