Girls, Should I lie to my crush about my virginity?

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So this girl I'm crushing on asked if I'm a virgin. I didn't answer back yet. The problem is I am a virgin and I'm ashamed at myself to be a virgin at my age. The second problem is its unattractive to be a virgin if your older than 16. I feel like its best if I tell her I fucked tons of times to keep her interested in me. Should I lie and say that I've had sex to keep her interested?

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Cookies_AndMilk Xper 7
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Don't lie to her, being a virgin is a beautiful thing and something you should be proud of. Honestly most people that aren't virgins and make fun of those who are do so because they regret giving up their virginity. Every person I met who isn't a virgin says they wish they have waited. What you have is so special, don't lie about it or try to get rid of it, save it for someone who loves you, because if she loves you she really wouldn't care. If your crush makes fun or tries to get you to do something with her she's bad bad news and I'd advise you to stay away. Lastly, I don't think any self respecting female is going to like any dude who's had sex with tons of girls. It's unhealthy, dirty, disgusting, and shows he only looks at sex as recreation and doesn't take it seriously. It makes him look like women are just toys you know?
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- Asker
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  But Im horny
- Asker
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  If I wasn't horny I wouldn't mind being a virgin but I'm horny so I'm embarrassed of not having sex its very regretful when you don't smash
- Cookies_AndMilk
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  No it really isn't it's very regretful when you throw your virginity away for someone who doesn't matter. Literally every person I've met that isn't virgin wishes they had waited, but it's your body and if you're okay with doing something you're more than likely going to regret then it's up to you, as long as you don't lie to her about it you'll be okay.
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- Cookies_AndMilk
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  Plus if you do have sex with her you're going to do a very poor job and when she has these high expectations from you because you lied she's going to make fun and tell a lot of people how terrible you are. If she knows you're a virgin then you have an excuse.
- Asker
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  How could someone regret sex. I'd understand if someone was raped because you know rape is fucked up and not right. But in other words I dont see how someone could regret something as amazing as sex
- Cookies_AndMilk
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  It isn't always amazing especially if it's your first time and you don't have a bond to the person you were with. People regret who they've been with because it wasn't with someone they love. Sex isn't what you think it is and more than likely you'll end up disappointed considering you don't know what you're doing. If you want to do that and put yourself through regret then that's your business, but what I'm saying is don't lie to this girl or any girl. If you sleep with her you're going to be really terrible at it, you're going to do a horrible job and she's probably going to attack your manhood for it. She'll tell people how bad you were, if you tell her the truth about being a virgin she'll be more understanding of your poor performance. Honestly you're still a kid, you don't need to be having sex with anybody.
- Asker
  +1 y
  I dont need to be having sex? then why do I have hormones?
- Cookies_AndMilk
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  Not at this age. You're a child, sex isn't for children. I don't know how many times you want me to repeat myself, I know you're going to do what you want at the end of the day you've made that very clear, even the fact that so many women are telling you no one cares about your virginity and you'll regret having sex you still fight back. Just don't lie to the girl, she'll make your life hell, but you seem pretty stubborn. You'll end up doing what you want just know you're probably going to hate yourself after and beat yourself up over it and you'll be embarrassed when you become the laughing stock of your social group because you chose to lie about something so stupid. It's shameful to lie about the amount of sex partners you've had not tell the truth about your lacking of partners.
- Asker
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  Ok I won't lie to her but I still want to have sex I'm horny and we have hormones for a reason
- Asker
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  Why would I have hormones if I shouldn't be having sex? like seriously this is like saying I shouldn't eat even tho Im hungry
- Cookies_AndMilk
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  You have hormones because you're a developing human being it is natural but just because you have those hormones does not mean you need to act on them. Sex is for the procreation of the human race it's not for kids it's for grown adults if you do what you want I can't stop you. Just know all the torment attached to it because you couldn't figure out an alternative to keep you from sleeping with someone.
- Asker
  +1 y
  If sex isn't for teens then teenagers would not have sexual desires it wouldn't develop until we turned 20
- Cookies_AndMilk
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  That's the stupidest thing I've ever heard in my life and it practically justifies teen pregnancy. Kids don't need to have kids, therefore they don't need to be having sex.
- Asker
  +1 y
  But our hormones kick in during the teen age! Everything you say makes no sense that we shouldn't have sex even tho were horny what kind of shxt is that?
- Asker
  +1 y
  And if we use condoms well be fine and youve probably had sex yourself haven't you
- Cookies_AndMilk
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  That doesn't mean you are grown. You are developing that is why you have hormones, so you can grow into an adult. If you never had these hormones during your teen years by the time you were adult age you'd still be grossly undeveloped.
- Asker
  +1 y
  That can't be right
- Asker
  +1 y
  If Im not gonna be having sex then there's no point of having hormones or sex drive at all then how do I get rid of my hormones is there a pill I can take or something
- Cookies_AndMilk
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  It's natural and that's okay you, your hormones are apart of life but they aren't going to be like this forever. They'll decline and be more stable. I'm not telling you to avoid sex because I don't want you to enjoy your life, I'm telling you to wait because I don't think you understand how serious sex is I want you to make sure you have sex with the right person. Masturbation helps people deal with any hormones they're having and it helps people abstain from having sex. That isn't something to be ashamed of, it's a better way of dealing with your sexual urges than to just throw your virginity away. You can never get your virginity back, it should be with someone who is worth it.
- Asker
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  I dont mastrubate! Girls dont like guys who do that. And mastrubating makes me insecure. if I mastrubate it measns all girls think I'm ugly. And mastrubating makes me more regretful of being a virgin and more jealous of people who have had sex
- Cookies_AndMilk
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  What kind of thinking is that? Most girls assume that every guy masturbates it's just apart of life, most girls masturbate too. It's a natural response to hormones.
- Asker
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  Well even if they dont care I still dont mastrubate I haven't done it in a year
- Cookies_AndMilk
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  Okay, do what you want I'm not your parent, but maybe you should see what they have to say about it.
- Asker
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  I'm pretty sure any parent would ground their kids if he/she caught their kid mastrubating
- Cookies_AndMilk
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  No silly, about the sex thing. They'll try to guide you in the right path, maybe you should talk to them about it.
- Asker
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  I've talked to them before about sex when they asked why I seemed so depressed. They don't realize that I want to have sex because it will make me happy. They think I want to do it to be cool
- Cookies_AndMilk
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  Maybe you have something else going on inside, because sex doesn't make people happy. For most people who view it that way they actually go in a downward spiral and suffer serious depression, and they feel like they've lost their value as a person. You might not want to do it to seem cool but maybe you feel like you aren't good enough compared to other people and are confusing it a desire to have sex. Maybe you should do some soul searching and see what you might have going on inside?
- Asker
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  Im horny thats why I want to have sex so bad
musicbrain5 Master
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Lying right off the bat will just create a bigger problem. Don't base your potential relationship on a lie. There's nothing wrong with being a virgin, and especially so at your age. Either don't say anything at all or be honest with her. If she has am issue with you being a virgin, she's not a girl you want to date.
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- Asker
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  Im not trying to date her I just like her a lot
- musicbrain5
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  Then she really doesn't need to know your sexual history. Just don't be that guy who says he fucked tons of women when he really didn't. It's douchey.
- Asker
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  I thought girls like those guys and I have no sexual history Im a virgin remember Im basically a lowkey loser
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- Sasha_Kotelenets
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  lmao you think girls like guys who have sex with tons of women? Think again, I don't think you wanna be seen as a douchebag. Being a douche is NOT a good thing. You're not a loser so relax. You're only 16 not 36 you should save it for somebody special and not some prostitute. Believe me, if you just lose your virginity to some random girl you will regret it.
- Asker
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  the only thing I regret is being a virgin
- musicbrain5
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  A lot of girls don't want a man whore, the same as how a lot of guys don't want a girl who's slept with the whole football team and then some. It's not attractive and it's even less attractive to lie about it. You're under 18 and you regret being a virgin? I don't even know how you can regret being a virgin. It's not a bad thing and it's not going to significantly impact your life. If you actually regret something that insignificant, then how are you going to feel when you miss out on something big because you didn't want to dive in and take a risk?
- Asker
  +1 y
  I did miss out on something big, I missed out on sex at a young age
- Asker
  +1 y
  And I like girls who have lots of sex. A girl who likes to have sex is a turn on and so is an unbroken pussy
- Asker
  +1 y
  Now what I dont like is if a girl fucks 40 guys and I'm not one of those 40 that makes me a little insecure & I think that would go for anyone else too
- musicbrain5
  +1 y
  Then go find a girl your age who's been with 40 guys. You probably won't get a relationship but at least you're guaranteed some sex. If this is such a huge deal for you, I have no idea why you're stalling and not just going out and getting a girl.
- Asker
  +1 y
  I gave up looking for a girlfriend 3 years ago
- Asker
  +1 y
  The girlfriend boyfriend life isn't meant for me
- Asker
  +1 y
  And I need to know how to get a girl? I don't know how to get laid I'm a virgin remember
- musicbrain5
  +1 y
  So you already gave up when you were like 13? Lol. Go find a girl and get it over with for your own sanity. You're the one who has control over your sex life and your virginity. Girls aren't going to come to you out of pity just because you're moaning about being a virgin, that's not how it works.
- musicbrain5
  +1 y
  You ask a girl out on a date and make your intentions clear right away. Don't string her along in a pseudo-relationship just to get in her pants.
- Asker
  +1 y
  1) I dont whine to girls that I'm a virgin I'm too embarrassed to tell people I've never had sex 2) when got rejected by lots of girls especially the time I bought flowers for a homecoming proposal for the second reject & the time I bought flowers on the seventh girls birthday 3) the reason I gotvrejected was because I was "nice" said people so I decided to just give up on romance because fuck being something I'm not I won't change myself to get a girlfriend 4) girls like bad boys badman badasses 5) I'm horny and I want to please women, I have a good body said people and I dont think my dick is small so I feel like I'd make a great dildo

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ShaunaM95 Guru
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There's no point in lying, because she'll eventually find out. Trust me. Just tell her the truth, she won't care if she really likes you.
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- Asker
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  You sure she won't laugh at me and tell all her friends if I tell the truth?
- ShaunaM95
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  I can't speak for all girls, but most girls don't give a damn about that stuff. If she likes you, then she won't care. But don't lie to her because you'll be seen as an a**hole then.
- musicbrain5
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  Dude, if you lie to her by saying you've fucked all kinds of girls and you have tons of experience, but you only last like two minutes because it's really your first time she's going to think you're an idiot.
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- Asker
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  @musicbrain5 How do you know I'm going to last two minutes? I'm pretty sure I can hold at least 35
- Asker
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  And how does having sex make me an a hole?
BiscuitesSwag Yoda
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It's lame to lie about something like this.
She won't laugh at you.
We don't care about things like this.
It's all in your mind guys.
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- Asker
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  You're positive?
Lys_Dis Explorer
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Tell her the truth shell probably think it's cute and she'd want to fuck you
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SarahsSummer Master
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No don't lie! A girl isn't interested in hearing you've fucked a lot of other girls.
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- Asker
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  I hope you're telling the truth bc that's really hard to beleive
soccerchick4eva Editor
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Tell her the truth, its the best way to go, if she finds out you were lying later on, itll just become a horrible mess for you
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Yeahno12 Xper 6
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No, you shouldn't. Girls want to trust guys, and honesty is very attractive.
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- Asker
  +1 y
  What if she thinks I'm a fuckboy and then friendzones me
- Yeahno12
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  I can't speak for every girl obviously, but I wouldn't friendzone a guy just because he's a virgin. Especially since you're under 18, it's actually more common than you think and isn't a big deal at all.
- Asker
  +1 y
  Its a big deal for me
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- Yeahno12
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  doesn't mean it'll be a big deal for her.
- Asker
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  its still important to me I'm really embarrassed that's the only reason I'm anon right now