Why do guys think they cannot control their boner in public?

[TheGeorge]

TL;DR: If you get an erection in public, you most likely had a vivid imagination of sexual activities with the girl in question and are entirely responsible for it. I've read it here several times selected as the best answer that it's natural to get a boner in public if you see a hot girl or whatever and there is nothing a guy can do about it. That's bullshit. It's a weak excuse. Otherwise every guy on the beach would run around with a boner. It's absolutely possible to control when and where you want to have an erection or not. The only time it indeed happens naturally is after you wake up and that has nothing to do with the content of your dreams, but is a natural reaction. Also it doesn't happen everytime you wake up. Now you could fall asleep in public and wake up with a boner, like on a bus ride, or in a park, I admit that. But there is no way to get a boner when you are awake unless you want to. You can see a hot girl in a bikini walking in front of you and then imagine having sex with her naked, even imagine what it feels like to insert your penis into her vagina, without getting an erection. It's not a command like moving your arm, where your body immediately reacts. It's all about the mood you are in. If you are in the right mood you can get an erection in about any situation. At the same time you can prevent it in about any situation (I'm talking about public here, not a bedroom with a naked girl on top of you). I don't talk to my friends about stuff like this, so I don't know how well other guys are able to control it, but I highly doubt I am something special. Do you agree with me or do you think it's not your fault for getting a boner in public? I'm addressing this to both girls and guys because I'm also interested to hear what girls think about it? Do you think it's just an excuse because they are afraid to admit having sexual thoughts?

[BigGuy8]

First of all, any teenage boy knows that an erection does not require a single thought or visual to happen. I've gotten boners in math class. No hot girls nearby, just random boner. The fact of the matter is that erections are caused by an unconscious process that, in fact, we have zero control over. If you happen to get hard in public, there is literally no way to prevent it. You can try to get it to go away with unsexy thoughts, but you don't need sexy thoughts to get one.

[Anonymous]

No controlling morning wood and random erections. I'm sorry for your dislike of random erections.

[TheGeorge]

Sorry about the personal question, but you have random erections throughout the day? I think the last time something like that happened to me was at age 14. It's been such a long time ago I kinda forgot about that entirely and it's true a lot of people on here might still be teenagers.

[Opinion Owner]

I wake up with morning wood pretty much daily and still have random ones without a glance or thought of any female. If I am hungover I am hard all day.

[TheGeorge]

Thanks for your reply, I didn't think this was a thing.

[Opinion Owner]

Thanks for MH

[Applefan1]

I can control it myself.

[TheGeorge]

Thanks I was starting to doubt myself :D So does it indeed have to do with age? I don't remember ever having a problem with that. I know I had random erections when I was in puberty but looking back at it I couldn't tell whether they were random or not because I wasn't really told the facts of life back then.

[Applefan1]

I can't really remember it back in my teenage years but I think I have always been able to control it.

[Applefan1]

If a hot girl sat on my knee in tight jeans or tight black faux leather pants I am not sure then if I would be able to stop a boner, i might be able to but then I might not be able to then.

[TheGeorge]

Why would you even want to control it then... right? :D There are of course circumstances where you want it, and don't want to hold it back.

[Applefan1]

Yeah well every girl should know that sitting on a guys lap is a sexual move she is doing.

[TheGeorge]

I'm pretty sure they do know :D

[Applefan1]

Most do. I mean most girls minds start filling up with naughty and sexual thoughts when they feel their boyfriends boner pushing against their ass lol.

[MostPaloney23]

OP doesn't have a dick

[josephinelcajon]

I grew up a nudist. As a kid and into teens erections happen for so many reasons and most are not sexual at all! As a adult it is extremely rear to get one without direct stimulation. Yes controlling your thoughts can help but is not 100% and, in your teens, although it does help most of these erections are not sexual.

[dudeman]

I start doing math problems in my head to make it go away

[Skadouchebag]

Dude, it's been neurologically proven that erections can result from stimuli other than sexual arousal.

[TheGeorge]

Dude, what can I say, I already admitted that I didn't know that and was going off of my own experience. The more important question now is, how often does a boner in public really result from that or do most guys just use it as a very convenient excuse?

[Skadouchebag]

You have a good point.

[verylovelyguy]

I used to get erection easily in my 20s. Early 20s was so tough to control it

[Anonymous]

I GET RANDOM BONER ALL THE TIME IT SUCKS but i just hide it in my jeans or corgo shorts but when i am in sweatpants dear god there no hiding it.

[Anonymous]

They just have a mind of its own :P

[Anonymous]

I got random erections less often in late teens and 20s but still got them.

Not any more.

[TheGeorge]

I see. Thanks for letting me know.

[Anonymous]

I take it you do not have a functional penis

[TheGeorge]

Could be either of us though ;)

[Opinion Owner]

Nope, mine functions overtime... you have a dead penis or zero testosterone

[TheGeorge]

I'm genuinely interested in this topic, if you are just a troll, go find someone else. I'm not going to fall for weak provocations like that mate ;)

[Anonymous]

Blah blah. If I get a erection given how my pants are most people aren't going to notice.