My girlfriend told me she was 'Raped' and I stupidly asked if she enjoyed it... She cried what should I do?

[Anonymous]

My reaction was because I thought she was exaggerating.

Firstly, My girlfriend is the attention seeking blonde type. And we were talking. She explained what sounded like rape when she was a little younger. She said 2 guys forced her to give oral and they penetrated her with available objects. At first I asked questions then randomly I said "I wish I could watch". She gave me the deadliest glare I've ever seen. Then I said stupidly on top of that "Dont tell me u didn't enjoy it babe". She went crazy and tried attacking me saying she was in pain and that she was building courage to tell me. She started crying saying she thought at least I would sound concerned. In all honesty im the type to show little care it's my personality and I make situations awkward.

Today she texted me saying she hates me and I said Ok. Im not good at dealing with hormonal emotional chicks. She seems to make me feel guilty for who I am. When im angry and silent she notices easily and is the type to hold me but for some reason her hurting doesn't get me sad. When she told me she was 'raped' a part of me enjoyed that she was so upset and hurt. I dont know why and we've been together 3 months. I've been told Im heartless by many people so what should I do even if it means I look more concerned then I actually do?

[Mistnigqa808]

"My girlfriend told me she was 'Raped' and I stupidly asked if she enjoyed it." I know I'm a cold hearted asshole when it comes to girls, but goddamn you take the cake for pure retardism bruh... Who in the fuck enjoys being "raped?".

You need to break up with her because she's probably better off without you anyway.

*puts on my ninja gear because somebody is about to die tonight*

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[Mistnigqa808]

What did you expect her to do SMILE? #Facepalm

[BigPunny]

This would be a classic sign of a sociopath. Don't worry, though, sociopaths are typically very successful because they don't care about anyone but themselves.

However, as a sociopath, you need to learn to feign caring, because if you don't, you'll absolutely be despised by others.

[Vesuvius87]

You do realize what you've described is called antisocial personality disorder? Someone that enjoys seeing others in pain and shows little to no empathy is a sociopath.

You've just ruined whatever trust and self-esteem your hopefully soon to be ex girlfriend had left in her. I really hope you're a troll because if not, you don't deserve to even have friends, much less be in a relationship.

[Asker]

If you claim im a sociopath and say I shouldn't have freinds that's insensitive on your behalf

[chloebelt]

That is a sensitive topic, whether you were joking or not. She sounds very sensitive to that experience and she felt comfortable telling you. I know you were just playing around, but since it was a sensitive topic, she clearly did not take it that way. It sounds like you don't care for her as much as she does for you. If that is the case, you need to end things.

[SensualScribe]

Your reaction was extremely insensitive. She was looking to you for support. She trusted you and you failed her. I don't see how this could ever be repaired. You need to apologize to her. Tell her that you are an asshole and that she deserves better than you. She should break up with you and I am not sure why she hasn't yet.

[aliencreature]

its not a mans place to be sensitive. i was imprisoned and tortured for years and i dont have a mental breakdown when people ask me questions. i answer them and move on with my day. because i am emotionally competent. she doesn't need coddling. she needs to learn to get the fuck over herself

[SensualScribe]

@aliencreature The questions he asked her were completely out of line. Most men would at least be sensitive enough to know the boundaries. If you don't you are pretty damn cold.

[aliencreature]

Her reaction was out of line. But you people have double standards, you don't expect women to have any emotional control of herself but you expect men to have complete emotional control of women. i think its good he said what he said. maybe if she bothered to strive for more emotional intelligence than a temper tantrum throwing 3 year old i might be getting on his case, but i see no reason why he should watch what he says when she sure as hell isn't. the fact of the matter is he wasn't trying to hurt her, and in response she flips out, and goes on an emotional rampage with the sole intention of hurting him for just asking a fucking question. if you ask me thats someone who deserves to have their sensitive spots prodded. maybe at least that way she'll grow some tough skin

[aliencreature]

oversensitivity isn't a virtue. its a fucking luxury of someone who hasn't experienced real struggles. so when i hear some shit like this i immediately think, hell, if this bitch is the kind of girl who equates an insensitive question to a form of rape then who am i to take any of it seriously

[SensualScribe]

@aliencreature Sorry, but you need therapy. I am sorry for what you have endured. Clearly it has made you a very cold, hard, callous shell. I am not going to spend on this with you. I cannot in any way relate to you. You are not going to convince me that what he said was right. So, I suggest that you also let it end here.

[aliencreature]

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[aliencreature]

look i just know what its like to actually have PTSD and i'm sick as hell of these bitches making a mockery of it it like its something to exploit to control peoples behavior. you dont know a damn thing about what i've been through, but i'll tell you this; you need therapy a hell of a lot more than i do. look at me. do you see how i'm able to talk about this stuff without passive aggressive temper tantrum or trying to tell you what to say or how to speak? do you see how i'm secure with the extent of my traumatic experiences even though you're being a total bitch about it? i know regardless of what you could say or do could hurt me even close to as much as i've been, or really anything that could ever happen to me could ever compare to what has already happened. if anything going through all that has proved there is nothing life can throw at me that i can't come out of in one piece.

[aliencreature]

but you know what i and my other friends who have literally seen battle, we're fucking sick of people like you who use our experiences and some kind of backwards amateur self diagnosis as a high horse to claim like you're better than me. YOU need therapy. cause you know what, no matter what i've been through i would never use the bulk of my experiences or anyone elses to manipulate someone. cause i respect that. you're fucking low, you're a lowblowing cunt who uses political correctness and this false idea of "sensitivity" to get what you want in life. but you dont give a damn about peoples feelings, not really. you just like talking down to people.

[RJGraveyTrain]

You're either the biggest troll ever, a sociopath, or a huge freaking jerk with little perception. Either way, I would suggest you break up with her - for her sake mainly.

[ginnyweasley]

i could not have said that better

[RJGraveyTrain]

Thank you @ginnyweasley

[TheGeorge]

If this is trolling it is the best written trolling I have read so far. Kudos to you.

If not, well fuck. Of course you should apologize to her immediately unless you are content with losing her. Sounds like you don't mind.

[love2run13]

WOW your so insensitive!! Why would you ask something like that? :(

[itsallover]

Oh no... please tell me you did not say that. Put a deposit in for your place in hell.

[ginnyweasley]

you are either a sociopath or a troll either way fuck off

[Xelebrum]

This has to be fake. I refuse to believe that a guy can be THIS fucking stupid.

[BigPunny]

Right? Even sociopaths learn early on that they have to pretend to care.

[Asker]

A woman responds to rape by getting wet it was a legitimate question/ joke

[nileve]

do not commit stick to booty calls

[Sailormoonprincess]

Lol... wtf

[tenchu11]

Is some one playing trundle? Because it's time troll

[Nena_Linda18]

Your probably just another psychopath and don't even know it. Cuz Psychopaths dont feel empathy.

[psychomonkey]

Hahaha I bet she liked it more than your question

[Octavius]

You guys come on don't fall for this drivel. He is just looking for people to get riled up and you're just handing what he wants up to him on a silver platter.

[ArchDruidMordred]

I don't know if you posted this just to sound like a Texan badass or what.

[aliencreature]

dont try to be "sensitive" for women. thats a failing goal. its impossible and it turns you into a doormat. dont candy step around her feelings. she's a grown woman. if she can't control herself then fucking dump her ass. i dont care what damage she has, you are not her baggage handler, you are not her valet or chauffeur, if she expects you to be, throw her baggage right out in the middle of the fucking street and walk off

[angelling]

You need to break up with her because she's better off without you, Who in the world thinks someone would enjoy rape?

[Vesuvius87]

A total sociopath

[Asker]

Psychology shows women still get wet so I was curious.

[RainbowFanGirl]

Wow, why would you say that?

[QuestionMan]

Dude not everyone is into rape porn.

[4465loveyou5577]

How about somebody foes that to you and asks if you like it?

[chrisbigman]

I don't know. I wouldn't be surprised if she broke up with you.

[JCT666]

You should be shot.

[jakeofalltrades]

shot your self in the head, what the fuck is wrong with?