How under 18 are you, if you're 16 or older, which a lot of girls give themselves then you should approach her from that perspective.
When I discussed losing my virginity at almost 17 my Mom already knew, she just said she could tell by the way my guy and I acted together. (?). It also led to a nice Mom, daughter talk she told me she first had sex with my Dad when they were in college. She wasn't surprised that we had sex already, I think she was relieved that it was my future husband, that we totally loved each other and were planning a future together.
Now for your situation, your mom already knows for whatever reason, that's a separate issue to discuss another time altogether. You need to be open, upfront and mature acting immature is going to prove to her you weren't ready for sex. Make certain she knows you protected yourself. My Mom told me that no matter how old I get I'll still be her "Little Girl" when it comes to stuff like this, a lot of moms probably think the same way about their daughter. Consider yourself lucky if she does, lots of girls would love to have a mom who cares that much.
Good luck and above all don't let it come to arguing it's so not worth it.
you should be disapointed in HER for going through your phone.
That is a big breach of trust, even if she is paying for the bills.
that's the thing with snooping, usually people don't like what they find.
Be honest with her and tell her whatever the reason was that you didn't confide in her. After all, depending on how young you are, sex is a very personal decision and I can't really see why you would have asked her in the first place.
Just make sure you have safe sex and don't make her a young grandmother.
I don't know what you should tell her, but i'd suggest changing your passcode, and delete messages. You should be able to delete individual messages. I do this a lot, so i'd know these things. What kind of phone do you have? If its iPhone go to the message you want to delete, hold the message down, click the option that says "more" then delete it.
Give her some time to cool off. She probably feels wounded because of how close the two of you are. Give her a bit of space, then come back to it. Talk with her be open (about as much as you feel you need to be) and move on. Sex happens. We all loose the V card
What about your mom, was it your father her first or she had a few trials before if yes, try digging her dirt will help you in getting her shoes and then you will have hint on what to say or talk of, don't fight back listen to her, she wants what is best for you, listen to her if she talks if she shouts then leave! Say her you will listen and negotiate on the terms only if she talks instead of shouting and if she start going blue in her face, just say, she doesn't need to talk about it like right now, she can take sometime to prepare herself, and you take a few days break from having sex with your boyfriend unless you have talk with your mom.
Mom side is okay, problem is dad side, he might break the head of your boyfriend, if he knew he was 👉👌💦💦💦 you underage, also I hope your boyfriend is still under 18 otherwise he goes to jail.
Sigh... there's a part of me that wants to give the "right" answer...
But my real answer is its none of her business of you don't want it to be. It would be ridiculous to assume she has domain over your body or your sexual self in your late teens.
Assuming you're 16 or over? Maaaaaybe 15 but that's really pushing it, if you're younger you should apologize. But not for having sex as a teenager. For not being responsible enough to put her in the loop, and for not trusting her to be helpful and put your needs and safety first.
Again, assuming you can trust her to do that? If not, tell her that.
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Just reassure her you are being safe... you are being safe aren't you?
Just be 100% honest, sugar-coating it or lying will not help. Just tell her that you felt ready to do it and you didn't know how to approach the subject with her.
All you can tell her is that you gave in to your desires and you didn't want her to be disappointed in you.
You don't have to tell her anything. What happens in your bedroom is none of her business. If she insists, make her uncomfortable by saying too much and ask her very intimate questions about your father. That ought to shut her up.
There's nothing to do now. You can't just unvirginize yourself. Besides, you haven't done anything wrong. She should be at the very least happy you did it with an actual boyfriend and not random guy nr8. Use that as leverage if anything.
I would tell her that she is not a virgin either. And that you use contraception because you aren't stupid.
Firstly why is your mum going through you phone? Talk about invasion of privacy!. Your under 18 so I guess she does still hold some sort of control over but it is your decision when to lose your virginity not hers. The only worry she should have is that you were well protected. You can close with your parents but that doesn't give them the right to explore your private things.
You do realize the parents pay the phone bill.
@psychomonkey and... that gives them no right to go down the phone. I pay my brothers phone bill but I would never invade his privacy. If he goes over the limit I just tell him to sort his shot out. Also where does it say her parents pay her phone bill.
I assumed. And if they do pay then they have the right to turn off the phone. I'm not saying I agree with searching through a kids phone but parents can do what they want cause it's their kid.
That your not pregnant
There's really nothing you can do
What else can one do but 'fess up and come clean
Try to be obedient and apologetic about it. And no tantrum or disrespectful thing like using loud voice or being defensive. Just keep silent and look down.
what did she want for you to come home and give you details? there are something's that you don't need to tell your parents
I believe your mother already experienced how is it feel to be young
There's nothing for you to say; she already knows and what's done is done.
you really fucked up :/ just give her some time. and stay away from her. you can talk then. its too late so just try to explain your relationship. good luck
U can tell her true she will understand
You should be ashamed.
If you and your mom are close then just tell her that you are afraid that she will flip when she found out. Try to understand your mom as well. It's not easy on her part to know that you're already doing (it).
i dont think anyone would tell their mum.. or dad that they were getting "it" done haha just dont bring it up unless she does ;) you'll live
Too late now.
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