Girls, Do you consider giving a blowjob to a guy as having sex with him?

I mean, I have heard women/girls talking about this before and I am a little confused. One of my co-workers who I am close with told me she has been dating a new guy for a couple of months but they haven't had sex yet. I asked her if he had ever tried to do anything with her and she said, "Of course, he is a guy!" So I ask what and she said he has tried to sleep with her (I take that as meaning full intercourse) since day 1, but she has been resisting because she doesn't want to give it up too soon. Then she drops a bomb on me. She tells me that she has given him at least a dozen blowjobs since she had been dating him! I said I thought you didn't have sex with him yet? She said only BJs. Now I love this girl because she is my friend and super cool, but ladies, when a guy has cum in your mouth a dozen times in the course of a few weeks, and you swallowed his sperm every time (meaning you completed the act) hasn't he has sex with you? Maybe not your pussy, but certainly your mouth.
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I want to clarify this question after someone answered that a BJ was only foreplay. I understand foreplay to be a part of the sex act, not the whole sex act. Foreplay means it was a buildup to something else, usually full intercourse. I realize this is just a matter of semantics and that there will be disagreement over whether a blowjob is foreplay or having sex. To me if the girl completes the act, makes him orgasm in her mouth then it is full sex. by the way I asked her if she swallowed.
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  • I'll tell you whut, I've only given a blowjob to one person, and that is my husband. On days where Satan's sacrificial waterfall is flowing and we don't feel like making a mess, I give him a blowjob (although I personally don't much care for the taste or texture of sperm so I don't swallow... plus he's a "germophobe" so it would really bother him if I did.)

    I actually get off on giving him a BJ. There's a sense of personal satisfaction that I can get him off with more than just my no-no spot and my hands. Also, girls can flirt all they want, but he knows what they offer, I can do, too so that's a bonus (except anal, refer to "germophobe" status above.)

    Of course, I don't get off in the sense of an explosive orgasm, cum flying everywhere, no. But I do get satisfied when he does. To the point where if I cum during regular sex and he doesn't, I'm actually still not satisfied completely.

  • Absolutely. It's an incredibly intimate act.

    • I think it is even more intimate than intercourse. You have got to really love a man to do willing to put his penis in your mouth. And even more, to let him ejaculate his sperm in your mouth, right? Even as a guy, I can see that.

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  • hahahah all I could think of was this:

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    of course it's sex!

    • I know, I thought of that also!

  • i dont consider blowjobs to be sex... for me sex is when a penis goes into a vagina (or ass).

    • OK thanks for your opinion AmandaLynn

    • You're very welcome :)

  • a blowjob is not sex. if anyone thinks this they might need to go back to school lol.

  • I think yes, they have had oral sex. It is sex still...

  • I'd consider it sexual activity, but I wouldn't consider it actual sex.

  • No. Blowjobs are no big deal. Kissing is more intimate.

  • Blowjob does not equal to sex. And how are you so certain he actually cums in her mouth? O_o
    Anyway, I consider it a sexual activity/foreplay. I don't consider it "having sex" though.

    • Because I asked her and she said yes. We talk very openly as we have been friends a long time. Thanks for your opinion. Have a good day

  • Foreplay!! 😄

    • I was think it is foreplay when a girl only suck until a cock gets hard and then they move on to something else. She told me she completes the act each time, meaning he cums in her mouth and she eats it. To me that is a sex act. She finished him off. See?