My boyfriend pinned me down and shaved my head. I don't know what to do?

[Anonymous]

So basically me and my boyfriend had a fight. We were arguing for ages and shouting at each other. I then got mad and went to bed. He then jumps on top of me pinning me down. He then used his other hand to use the shaver and started to shave my head. He's so much stronger and bigger than me so I couldn't get away. In the end he totally shave all my hair off and now I'm bald. I then left my house crying and went to my sisters house and I haven't left since. I haven't told my parents and I haven't been to work. I don't know what to do. Will my job fire me? What would my parents do. Do I break up with him. I haven't spoken to him since

[Monty3880]

For your job, depending on the size of the company you work for, I would say either call your human resources department and find out what your options are, or if it's a smaller operation, call your boss and without divulging all the information, just let him/her know that you were attacked and had your head shaved, you don't feel ready to present yourself at work like this (too humiliated) and that you would like a couple days to consider what you will do about the assault and adjust to the new appearance. I don't think anyone with at least some decency would deny your request unless they really don't like you. I don't think you can be fired when what was done to you is likely criminal. I'm sure you'd have a case with the labor board if you were fired. But some form of honesty with work is usually the best policy in my book so they can understand why you are skipping work.

As for your parents, I would assume they would back you up and be okay with you moving out. Depending on your dad's behavior, he may give your boyfriend a talking to or something. I know I wouldn't stand for my daughter/sister being treated that way. Hopefully, he won't land himself in jail assaulting him back but I would assume they'd have your back and wouldn't want you staying with a jerk like that.

As for him, definitely break up with him. What he did is no joke/prank. I can't think of any normal argument that would make someone do that. Even if you cheated on him, that's still crossing the line. If he's willing to shave your head over an argument, how is he going to react later on in life when things get even harder.

[Intraluminal]

This was an assault and hebcan be and should be charged. if you dont want to charhe him, then you should tell him that you're not going to press charges, although you should, but he's paying for a good quality wig, and hair salon appointments for the foreseeable future. Also for your lost days at work and fod deliveries. Basically anything that you want that you feel uncomfortable getting due to your scalping. Soak the bastard.

It would be much better to have him arrested though.

[Monsters]

I think you know the answer deep within. You are just hesistent to break up with your dreams. What if next time he goes for your neck with his razor? Honey this hurts big big time But this is not the guy you want fathering your babies. You deserve better. Now look who is imprisoned. You are because of fear. Honey you did nothing wrong. Get out and don't look back. As for him at least call the cops and get him a restraining order. You go back you are telling him this behavior is ok and that he won't lose you. Well you should not ne in his life. Nope. Get out. ooh i know it is so easy for me to say. But girl you got the power there is someone out there I promise. But him he i a not a man he is jerk. You need a man girl someone to protect you and not hurt you. No tell tour parents tell the police get that restraining order and I do suggest a counsler or therapist. not because you did anything wrong but because when people are cut they bleed there are many crisis placea lines and centers. Please Please get out. If I was there I would wanna give you a hug a certain point it is up to you I'm cheering you on girl.

[MarieLovesIt]

First call the police and report an assault.. because this is what this was. Drop him like a lead balloon. Don't contact him, don't interact with him in anyway. This was NOT normal behavior and it was not a moment of anger or any other excuse - this was a twisted assault that was meant to humiliate and traumatize.
Talk to a trusted adult and take care of yourself...

[SarahsSummer]

Omg!! You were assaulted and need to tell the police ASAP!! This is aweful. You do need to do something so your work will understand. If the police are involved you can tell work you were assaulted, need some time and the police are investigating. I am so sorry this happened to you.

[Marshmellowking]

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[AwkwardlyMe]

That's abuse. Break up with him, never go back. Please don't go back, even if he begs. If he did that, he didn't respect you in the first place. Don't fall for any apology what so ever. Imagine what else he'd do? Yes, you should definitely tell your parents. Call into work and try to get a few off days to get yourself together... I'm so sorry that happened to you.

[Conflustered]

Omg!!! He is sick and evil get away from him. You won't get fired but that was a traumatic experience you need to talk to someone. How dare he.

[abacaxi84]

Report him and press charges. In England and Wales there is a case establishing that this amounts to assault occasioning actual bodily harm (ABH). I'd be very surprised if there wasn't a similar legal precedent for this is in the US or Canada (if that's where you are from).

[JohnScofield787]

He assaulted you. Call the cops.

[snowangle]

I'm pretty sure you could have him arrested for assault and battery with a deadly weapon for that. I've heard you can if someone cuts your hair without your consent. It probably works for a razor too.

[Paris13]

Wear a hat and do not go back to this nut case. If you stand for this, you will always stoop to whatever poop he throws your way and God only Knows if the next Time... He decides to aim a revolver in your face.
Good luck and even buy a wig if need be. xxoo

[lePoivre]

Of course you break up with him! You're obviously in an abusive relationship right now and that is not good for you!

[Vesuvius87]

You break up and press assault charges against him.

[dolphiny]

LOL he's insane. yeah break up with him!!! i don't think your job will fire you though.

[Maggimay01]

wtf? yes break up with him. If that is what he does now, what do you think he will do when you married. Dump that ass.
You need to admit to people what happened. I do not think work will fire you. You need to explain to them what happened.

[madhatters4]

yes chances are your job will fire you if you don't at least notify them of your absences

yes break up with him. he essentially assaulted you. what will your parents do? depends on who they are. they will most likely suggest that you break up with him

[Fortres]

Lol do you break up with him.

[GnarCute]

you must of pissed him the fuck off.

[Ivanafoster1212]

Tell the cops !!! Like NOW 0_0

[sawno]

Don't worry about your job, they won't fire you for it especially after they know the reason.
Your boyfriend crossed the line though, that is not healthy behavior.

[JustinCaseUDontKnow]

Yes, what he did was form of abuse you really need to get rid of him
cause the next time it won't be him shaving your head he might take
your life and you could lose your job for sure. Your parents could be mad
and report him to the police.

[roberte]

call the police that's assult

[TripleAce]

Considering your like non existent on this thread seems a little odd

[CHARismatic110]

Uhh that's definitely not cool and boderline assault. Break up with him.

[Intraluminal]

Its not borderline assault. It IS assault.

[CHARismatic110]

@Intraluminal hey, you get no argument from me.

[CapricornSwagL]

Are you seriously asking if you should breakup with this retard? Fucking duh!