If you found out that your husband/wife was in a "gangbang" video before you met him/her, would you divorce them?

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Okay, say you were looking up porn one day and you came across a video. when you clicked to watch it, you see your husband having sex with say, ten girls all at once. would you divorce him or stay together? guys, same question. if you saw a video of your wife having sex with 10 guys, would you divorce or stay with her? and keep in mind that they did this sex act before you even met them and married them without ever knowing about this until you came across the video. And, know that everyone in the world can see your love getting F'd by a bunch of girls/guys. just want to see if there is a difference between men and women and how they would react. Me? I would divorce him.

detlef · Accepted Answer

The only dealbreaker here is not telling me about it at some point before we got married.

The past doesn't bother me if she looks back on it in a healthy way which supports our relationship. If she were to look back on getting gangbanged like it was a great experience, then that would be a problem, because I can't have my life partner getting gangbanged. However, if she had a wild past, and has moved past it now, and looks back on it with regret, like it was a mistake, then I can identify with that, because we've all got sexual "indiscretions" in our past.

I knew a guy once whose girlfriend had been a serious wild child and blown like 20 different guys. Lots of short-term boyfriends. But she had finally settled down, and just acknowledged ruefully that she had "made a lot of mistakes" in her romantic life. Sweetest girl in the world, extremely kind to my friend. So who gives a fuck about her past? That ain't her anymore.

As long as the past stays the past, who gives a fuck.

Bandit74 · Accepted Answer

It would probably make me lose attraction to her. Like the image of her being gangbanged would be burned in my mind and I wouldn't be able to look at her the same way.

Divorce can be very expensive and dramatic so I'm not sure what I'd do.

I'd rather find out that sort of thing BEFORE I marry someone or Never find out and remain blissfully ignorant throughout the marriage

Realistically, I don't plan on getting married so if I ever found a video like that of my significant other I could break up with them more easily since the government wouldn't be involved.

XRabbitHeartX · Accepted Answer

I'd divorce him. I want to have a partner with some class and values. Someone getting banged by 10 girls doesn't have any of that I'm afraid so I'll go find me a better man :)

BellePepper · Accepted Answer

As long as they're clean Idc. I mean I'd have to like them a lot to marry them so whatevs.

ARTESTJ · Answer

If she lied to me and told me that she had only ever been with one guy in her life, it might lead to a divorce. If we had agreed before we married that our past sex life wasn't the important, then It wouldn't. I guess I am saying, for me, it would really depend on how honest my spouse was with me before we married. If she lied to hide it, then I might have a problem.

ccp16 · Answer

No promises, but I would really try and get passed it, especially if we were married and in love lol If it was just my girlfriend, I'd leave her in a heart beat, not gonna lie...

It sounds awful, but just being okay with being put in the situation would really make me question her and her attitudes towards sex, which I am admittedly more conservative on then most my age (only sleep with girls I am dating). That is fine if she wants to do that, but I want someone I am sexually compatible with.

truthbeknown · Answer

I would like to confirm there are stds and basically move on.

ryan4298 · Answer

I don't know. I would DEFINITELY be pissed if she didn't tell me and I found it on the internet.

dogbert444 · Answer

I would not be with a lady (?) that had treated sex in such a cheap way. Even if I loved her previously, this is a step too far. She would have withheld the facts from me, and had I have known, I would not have even looked at her.

I should point out that it's unlikely that I would find out because I don't use porn. I would be relying on her honesty and integrity to tell me material facts like this.

SarahsSummer · Answer

I would want to talk through it with my mate.

Fortres · Answer

A gangbang is one girl with a lot of guys. Also called a train. If a guy was in a gangbang video, it would be him, and lots of other guys, and one woman.

JuicyBrain · Answer

I don't see a problem with it. In fact, I would appreciate that she had experiences in her life and that she is willing to explore. I would ask her why she didn't tell me before. Who knows, she might be able to convince me to participate in something. I would assume that my open mindedness and willingness to try things would have convinced her to talk to me about it before. I would've known without having to find it by chance.

DarkHumorRUs · Answer

I don't care. How does that affect me.

MelbaB · Answer

Yes, I would divorce him.

BertMacklinFBI · Answer

I don't think I would

VirginiaBeachBum · Answer

When my wife was 16, she got drunk and took on 4 guys at once. It didn't bother me at all. What is past is past. There was no video of the action, only her telling me about it. But if there were video (which would have been illegal to possess), I would have watched it with her. I just wasn't the jealous type with her.

Nik1hil · Answer

First thing I would try to find, in video us how to please her in even better way, then ask her why she hid the truth! If she is honest with me and it would use the tricks I seen happening in video she liked on her and if! She is lying then I will be disappointed, that she has no faith and trust in me..

TheGuyFromMiddleEast · Answer

I'm not gonna lie, i do care about something like that. But, she's my wife and i won't leave her for something she's done in the past. I'll probably find a way to live with it, or die trying.