Boyfriend and I tried sex, but his penis seemed too large?

Question

Well, my boyfriend and I (both virgins) tried having sex, but his penis seemed too large. He managed to get the tip in, but before he could get any more in, I got bad pain. We had tried several different positions. (straddle, doggy style and missionary w/ me on top) I think it might have been that I wasn't turned on enough? We had a bit of foreplay after, but he couldn't even fit 2 fingers in before I winced in pain.. And the pain seemed to leave a dull ache for about a half hour..
Is pain normal?
I'm kinda average body type (5'3, 120lbs) and he's bigger, but not heavy (5'11, 160lbs)
Any advice for next time?

xHoneyxBeex · Accepted Answer

It really shouldn't be THAT painful. I mean, losing your virginity will probably be somewhat painful but it should just be uncomfortable more than any real pain. It sounds like you just weren't turned on enough. Regardless of his size, you should be able to accommodate him. When aroused, the vagina can allow for more insertion.

Next time you try, you should do more foreplay. Make sure you're really ready before he tries to put it in you. Make sure he goes slow at first and doesn't try to rush it. You can also try doing different positions that allow you to have more control, such as cowgirl. So then you an control the depth and speed, in order to be more comfortable.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Some girls are smaller than other girls.. if you are the case, you have to spend more time doing foreplay and oral/fingering to make sure you feel comfortable enough and expand enough to accommodate his size. Then you can try having sex. Don't rush into sex right after few minute foreplay.

One of my friends, she is pretty petite, she spent more than a month with her boyfriend, fingering and oral to feel comfortable enough (not painful) to have sex after. I guess both of you need to be patient. Just slow it down.. try more foreplay

FoxyRoxyBlack · Accepted Answer

pretty sure the boys got you covered here. You need much more foreplay. But most importantly you need to be relaxed! Being relaxed and feeling comfortable is the most important part to having good sexy times.

Dragan · Accepted Answer

Some girls are scared (pain during o defloration of hymen reinforce this fear), it tightens the muscles of the vagina and she then seems a lot tighter than she is. Penis does not have to be pushed all the way into the vagina. While sex does not become painless and great for you, my world is to you be on top all the time and controls how much penis to penetrate into you. At the outset, let it be only the head of the penis into the vagina. If intercourse is painful knock it off and continue later.

ccp16 · Accepted Answer

You clearly need more foreplay. He needs to learn how to tease you more. I never go to insert myself until my girlfriends are plenty wide and a sure way to do that is to rub them off one. I almost always give my girlfriends an orgasm and THEN have sex. I highly recommend it, you will be naturally wet, wide, and really wanting it, plus I am told the sex feels better as well.

bridgetttthamilt · Answer

Hmmm well most women want this problem lol were you lubricated? Are you guys talking about this? Make sure you’re being safe, using condoms, respectful, etc. But I think the most important thing is hygiene for you both so just stay clean, have him use a daily penis health crème or something- my boyfriend uses Man1 Man Oil daily especially because they have a money back guarantee. Awesome, right? Good luck!