Why do 50% of women fantasies about getting raped?

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From 1973 through 2008, nine surveys of women's rape fantasies have been published. They show that about four in 10 women admit having them (31 to 57 percent) with a median frequency of about once a month. Actual prevalence of rape fantasies is probably higher because women may not feel comfortable admitting them.

For the latest report (Bivona, J. and J. Critelli. "The Nature of Women's Rape Fantasies: An Analysis of Prevalence, Frequency, and Contents," Journal of Sex Research (2009) 46:33), psychologists at North Texas University asked 355 college women: How often have you fantasized being overpowered/forced/raped by a man/woman to have oral/vaginal/anal sex against your will?

Sixty-two percent said they'd had at least one such fantasy. But responses varied depending on the terminology used. When asked about being "overpowered by a man," 52 percent said they'd had that fantasy, the situation most typically depicted in women's romance fiction. But when the term was "rape," only 32 percent said they'd had the fantasy.

These findings are in the same ballpark as previous reports.

Frequency of rape fantasies varied substantially. Thirty-eight percent of respondents never had them. Of those who did, 25 percent reported such fantasies less than once a year. Thirteen percent had them a few times a year, 11 percent once a month, 8 percent once a week, and 5 percent several times a week. (Twenty-one percent of the respondents said they'd been sexually assaulted in real life.)

Rape fantasies can be either erotic or aversive. In erotic fantasies, the woman thinks: "I'm being forced and I hate it." Forty-five-percent of the women in the recent survey had fantasies that were entirely erotic. Nine percent were entirely aversive. And 46 percent were mixed.

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shivering · Accepted Answer

Rape is defined as sex that is not consensual. I don't think a large proportion of women "like" the idea of being forced to do something they don't want to do. I think sometimes people who like "rape fantasy" imagine having rough sex with a gorgeous, mysterious stranger or something. That isn't... rape though.

I think there is a smaller proportion of women who genuinely like the idea of being forced into a sexual act. I do not think those women want to be raped in real life, at all. Absolutely not. I think those women just find themselves reacting to a really strong stimuli. I don't think that rape itself is an "attractive" thing to think about, I think that it is such a powerful stimuli, that it is cognitively stimulating, and sometimes, our bodies interpret that as sexually stimulating.

Sometimes people find themselves aroused by something that they genuinely did not think they had an interest in. Some ideas/actions have very important social implications in our world and the taboo associated with such ideas/actions can be stimulating. So it's less about the actual rape being an attractive entity (it is not for most), but more about it being so wrong, and therefore, forbidden and interesting.

I hope I haven't offended anyone with my discussion of rape in such terms. It is a horrifying act to endure.

samhradh_leannan · Accepted Answer

Actual rape, as it occurs in reality, could never constitute a fantasy- at least not for anyone who doesn't have serious psychological problems. When people fantasize about rape, they are romanticizing it and focusing on the force and passion rather than the lack of consent. Rough or forceful sex doesn't necessarily imply a lack of consent, which is what makes rape technically rape and also what makes it so utterly devastating.

Suhmer · Accepted Answer

Yeah, I've fantasised about that before but I can fantasies about really fucked up stuff sometimes lol, I do like being dominated OBVIOUSLY I NEVER EVER WANT IT TO HAPPEN but sometimes it can be exciting to think about. Really fucked up though I'm not proud of it

FakeName123 · Accepted Answer

Actually for most women rape fantasies are less about actually being forced to, because if they enjoy it (in their fantasy or an erotic novel) it's not exactly rape.

Why the rape fantasy is so common and prevalent for women is what it is about.

1. The female sexual desire is quite narcisstic. Women love to be desired and get turned on by being desired. Rape in a way is the expression of a man being so utterly desiring her that he breaks through all common sense, all humanity and all risks with law, etc just because of the lust for her.

2. Women are per se more likely to be submissive (note: there is a difference between submissiveness and subjugation). Being taken and ravaged is a natural turn-on.

3. Generally rough, wild, animalistic sex is a massive turn-on for women.

4. A guy who is strong enough to physically overcome her? You guessed it right: Turn-on.

5. A dark, mysterious guy? Turn-on.

There are more things to it. The rape itself isn't what makes those fantasies so prevalent for most women - but the implications of what makes it is whats arousing.

AustinMan · Accepted Answer

They have those fantasies because in part we raise our women to be sexually submissive and in part because it's in the genes. I was amazed by just how happy and relieved my ladies were when I was dating and I'd tell them what was going to happen if we had sex: their ass is mine.

nothingtosee · Answer

I don't think it's only women who fantasize about it. As a man, I also fantasize about it. I like the idea of a woman (or women) wanting me so badly that they're going to take me, strip me, and use me sexually. Plus, getting an erection as they are doing it would seem, kinda humiliating. Humiliating because (Oh, you must be enjoying this. Why else would you have an erection?). I imagine she sucks my cock for a few minutes and then French kisses me. Which, to me is so naughty, kinky and taboo. Guys aren't supposed to kiss a woman after she's sucked his cock. I like the idea of a woman ordering me to eat her out. As I do, she tells me how to do it better. Once she achieves an orgasm, she then pins me down and rides me. As she's fucking me, she tells me, "Don't you dare scream, and whatever you do, don't you dare cum! If you do, I'm going to make you eat me out afterwards." As she's fucking me, she achieves an orgasm and then makes me eat her out some more. Again, that would be so naughty, kinky and taboo. Guys aren't supposed to do that! Then she fucks me some more. At some point I have an orgasm. When I do, she punishes me by making me eat her out afterwards.

Before she leaves, she gets my home address and my phone number. She tells me that if I report this to the cops, she's going to kill me. Days later, I get a text message from her telling me that she wants me again. If I don't comply, she'll tell all my friends, family and co-workers what I did in bed. If I want to avoid it, I MUST let her fuck me again.

I also imagine that she gives my information out to her girlfriends. Next thing I know, they demand that I pleasure them as well.

Whew! Is it hot in here? If you feel like reaching out to me to tell me your fantasies, feel free to write me at nothingtosee at yahoo dot com.

Esplorare · Answer

I think they just like the idea of rough, dettached sex as well as this twisted desire to be pitied.

DFTgirl · Answer

I don't want to be raped. Ever. Please don't rape.

suki248 · Answer

If she really hated it, it wouldn't be rape because she'd be consenting. It's like a sadist feeling bad every time they do something sadist, thus actually being a masochist. Some women like to be dominated and/or rough sex.

In any case, fantasies aren't an excuse to rape someone... you know that, right?

Hannah591 · Answer

It's more about the domination. They don't literally want a random stranger to come and rape them on the side of the street/beat them. They would prefer someone they trust to "take advantage" of them, show domination and be spontaneous. People mix them up.

MeltedCheese89 · Answer

I worry that guys are going to read this and think it's okay to rape a woman.

MrNameless · Answer

There's a huge difference between fantasizing and actually being raped.

When you fantasize about it in your head, you're in control of what happens. When a girl says she wants that, she's saying she wants to be dominated.

An actual rape is scary as fuck and obviously the victim does not consent in their mind. The victim also usually doesn't have the power to stop it, and they don't know what's going to happen next.

Oliviaarkansas · Answer

i think a couple of reasons probably. 1) I am pretty sue i read that if u were forced etc then u are more likely to have that same fantasy. 2) no slut shame if u are forced. i would think most picture it as more forceful than actual rape, but if some guy just overpowers you and makes you do various things then surely you can't be blamed for doing those things.

i dont t hink most girls think about the dark side of it. the fear and helplessness etc.. or picturing the actual violence that can be involved (or worse).

JessRoxHard · Answer

Why do 90% of men believe any shit that they read?

itsallover · Answer

For the last time... Rape and rough sex are not the same thing!

ElissaDido · Answer

Fantasize? That would be a nightmare not a fantasy!

LionelMerelGlisem · Answer

I thing the women who said they would like to be raped actually just want to be dominated. They just don't do the difference, until they get rapped…

sexybooty01 · Answer

Maybe just thinking of their body getting taken over is sexy

RandomUsername3464 · Answer

This reminds me of Tumblr feminists that write scathing articles about rape and sexual harassment in one post, then reblog twisted, perverted, horrible stuff in another of women basically being gang raped and beaten up. No wonder normal people hate them with such a fiery passion.

evenlift · Answer

Because of irrationality.

opurba · Answer

Nutt case.

ArchDruidMordred · Answer

It's not literal rape that they like. What they want is a kind of rape that I call "Chaotic neutral." There is a key difference between Chaotic Neutral rape and actual rape. That difference is that in CN rape, the girl being raped actually does want to, but she either isn't sure if she should have sex or doesn't know what to say, so she refuses. This is different than in full on rape where she actually doesn't want it and would never have sex with the guy in the first place. Another difference is that in CN rape, the guy doesn't ever harm the girl, he is only rough with her and will stop once he sees that it isn't working. In full on rape, the guy overdoes it and doesn't stop at all.

chrisbigman · Answer

I don't think they fantasize about being raped. They just fantasize rough sex. I don't personally know why. I am curious to find out, though. I don't think women/girls should think that way.

convo_king89 · Answer

It’s a domination or CNC thing,

Unknown29 · Answer

I have Fantasies of being dominant to a submissive girl. However, I wouldn’t find pleasure in something I know she didn’t like. Just the idea of dominating her is hot to me.

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