Do women go crazy if they dont orgasm?

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She was almost there, but I cum before she do, she literally start crying, says "I fear we might sometime be apart" and some other emotional drama, I'm like wth I rarely see her being in this mood, so I say lets keep going till she cums, she say "ok", then she finally orgasm, her mood does a sudden 180, she extremely happy and feels on top of the world, she kept on saying "I love you I love you, than you thank you".

Is orgasm that important for women or is she just an exception? I thought most women can enjoy sex without having orgasm?

selfishstars · Accepted Answer

When I first became sexually active, I had a difficult time reaching orgasm. Sex itself was still very pleasurable for me and I enjoyed it even though I didn't orgasm. I still felt kind of disappointed that I couldn't orgasm, and if I was really turned on and didn't orgasm, sometimes it would leave me with a pain in my lower abdomen and genitals (I assume it was somewhat similar to "blue balls"). That said, my disappointment was more in myself and my body, not in the sex or in my partner. I didn't want my partner to blame himself or to think I didn't enjoy sex with him---I did enjoy sex even without an orgasm, but that doesn't mean that I didn't really want to have an orgasm. The thing is, if I was too focused on trying to have an orgasm or I felt like my partner was too focused on bringing me to orgasm, I couldn't have one. Feeling pressured to have an orgasm meant I wouldn't have one, so it was better to just try to have a good time and try not to worry about it.

Now that I'm more experienced, I orgasm quite easily. Because it's easy to orgasm and I know I can have an orgasm like 95% of the time, it's more important to me... I guess because for the most part, there's no reason why I shouldn't get an orgasm. There is the occasional time when I can't reach orgasm, like, I get too tired or too densensitized to reach orgasm, and in those cases I'm fine. I'll tell my partner I don't think I'm going to orgasm and we're both cool with it. But if it were the case that he orgasmed and then made no attempt to help bring me to orgasm? Yeah, that would be really frustrating and disappointing. I couldn't imagine crying because I didn't have an orgasm... though maybe I'd get upset if my partner was ignoring my pleasure or felt like my orgasms were "unnecessary".

"Is orgasm that important for women or is she just an exception? I thought most women can enjoy sex without having orgasm?"

I guess my answer is: It's kind of complicated. Saying "It's not important for women to orgasm" or "Most women can enjoy sex without having an orgasm" is shitty because it seems like an excuse to not worry about your female partner's pleasure. Our pleasure and satisfaction is just as important as yours, and for many women, that includes reaching orgasm.

On the other hand, some women may be satisfied even if she doesn't reach orgasm. Maybe because she has difficulty orgasming, but still derives pleasure from the sex itself. Maybe it's because she's exhausted from the sex and doesn't

Miss_Behave · Accepted Answer

I've never cried or get all dramatic if he cums before I do. But then again, so far I've cum almost every time we had sex. He always makes sure I do and many times, he'd make me cum by going down on me even before we start having sex. It makes the sex feel even better afterwards! ;)

kaylaS91 · Accepted Answer

I start getting pretty cranky without sex if I have to go without for a while. Likewise for orgasms.

I do enjoy sex even if I don't get to cum, the whole emotional aspect, but I do need an occasional release from built up sexual tension too.

Thor696 · Accepted Answer

Women don't think about sex like men do - therefore, they often neglect their own sexual needs.

And it builds up... and it causes stress... and yeah, they get a little crazy.

Like my wife... she gets so stressed sometimes. I just go do a load of dishes and throw her in bed and do her a good turn and...

"Viola!"

She's fine after that.

The orgasm just smoothes out her rough edges... like clipping her toenails or something - she's good to go for awhile, then you have to do it again.

Women... usually don't realize this about themselves.

But my wife does now. It's a joke we share. We'll finish in bed and I'll look at her and say... "Stressed now?"

And she just laughs and says... "NOPE!"

Women are funny - which is why they are so awesome.

TheBootyChest · Accepted Answer

I think it might have been one of two things.

1) you stopped completely when you finished.
2) she wants to get off at the same time... MAYBE!!!

next time when you finish just go straight to work on getting her off. however you have to do that. don't take a break if you can avoid it.

Suhmer · Answer

I've never even had an orgasm from sex, so I always have to make do without :(

madhatters4 · Answer

if girls can orgasm and don't for whatever reason I imagine that is a difficult thing to deal with

fauchelevent · Answer

I don't go crazy or anything, I've never cried just because he came before me. But having an orgasm is important, so I would just expect him to get me off some other way. Sex is enjoyable, but sex is enjoyable for guys too - that doesn't mean we won't get frustrated if we don't get to cum.

Agirlcalledkill · Answer

We women, like men, enjoy having an orgasm. Imagine not to have one most of the time when you have sex. Wouldn't it be frustrating? Let's dispel the myth that women are okay with sex without orgasm. We are not! Of course sex can be pleasing even without one, and once in a while that's fine, but we do like orgasms as much as men do.

Poppykate · Answer

Is it important to you? What if we stopped you mid-sentence?

Intactman · Answer

It makes me feel better afterwards if my partner (she) has orgasmed before I cum in her. On some occasions though I have cum first but I keep going with my penis for as long as possible and if necessary make her orgasm with my fingers or tongue or both.

Animalshadow · Answer

depends on girls really. feeling closeness and emotionally and physically intimate are more important than having an orgasm for me.

dudegrt09 · Answer

yes it is very important to women, a friend of mine got slapped when he didn't give her an orgasm during intercourse, though he did give her an orgasm through oral in a taxi before they went to his hotel room...

Anonymous · Answer

This is when oral stimulation comes in to play. If she can't get off during intercourse, try to finish her off with your hands or mouth. Or before you have intercourse. Imagine you are enjoying yourself, working hard towards something... but not being able to finish. You feel incomplete and want to be satisfied. For me, it can build up tension.

Anonymous · Answer

I can enjoy it without an orgasm, it may not be as good but I enjoy it, I orgasm 99% of the time when my boyfriend and I have sex though.
If you always cum before she does and that's that, I imagine it would be frustrating. It's like she would stop you everytime you're about to cum and be like "aah.. I'm done.".
If I don't orgasm when we have sex my boyfriend always make sure I do afterwards, if the roles were reversed I know I would do the same.

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