My boyfriend only compliments my looks when I have on make up or sex is involved?

[Anonymous]

I only wear make up occasionally during the year but when I do is when my boyfriend actually compliments my looks saying I look good, great, beatiful, really pretty, etc. Other than those few occasions he only says those things right before or after sex. It makes me feel kind of bad sometimes. Especially when I wear make up he's even said "I love how you look but I like how you look natually too." Then he never compliments me when I'm just natural (unless of course for the sex factor.) Should this upset me like it does or is it not a big deal?

[alibaba42]

I was once on a train with my friend and a girl was sitting opposite us. She wasn't a bad looking girl but on the whole unremarkable and her skin was not really that nice. While we were sitting and talking the girl started putting on make up and me and my friend paid no attention to her.

eventually when her makeup was done i caually looked up in her direction and was in awe, she looked great. I was like DAMN. my friend had exactly the same reaction.

Girls look a lot better with makeup than without. Thats just a fact, unless they are naturally very beautiful in which case they can just wear a rag and not bother with the makeup and men will still be attracted to them

If you want to have good skin, wear light makeup. In fact, light make up looks better on all girls. Learn how to bring out your most beautiful facial features and use less.

Dont feel bad about it. Women have always used makeup, its jut one of the things that makes them attractive to men. Thats why you dont hear women call men beautiful LOL

[SomeGuy37]

You are rather young, and your guy is, too. Later, you learn to love, and appreciate the special, unique things about each other. Being older, I can say that I prefer no make-up, and don't mind the 'morning, just woke up look', with messy hair, and so on, because I love HER, not the momentary looks, or the clothes.
I don't want a vain, model-type, but a woman that I like being with, that likes me. No make-up required, cuddly/chubby girls accepted with a big smile!!
Find someone who REALLY cares about YOU, and not some idea of what he wants you to be!! Be confident in yourself, and know that you are worth the time, and you should have someone that REALLY loves you!

[samhradh_leannan]

It could just be that it doesn't occur to him to compliment you unless he realizes that you put a lot of effort into your appearance, and that reminds him to say something.

If this is bothering you, I would suggest discussing it with him. Tell him just what you told us, and let him know how it makes you feel. Maybe his response will be comforting. Or, worst case scenario, his response will show you that this relationship might not be the one for you. Either way, talking to HIM is the best way to go. I know it can be hard to bring this type of thing up, but communication is important for any healthy relationship.

[dragracergirl]

He's probably making a point in complimenting you because you're putting the extra effort. you're obviously attractive with or without makeup or he wouldn't be with you still. However women shouldn't get lazy and stop wearing makeup as much just because their comfortable with their relationship. I would wear it on a daily basis but suttle. That way your skin feals more comfortable to you yet makes you more attractive to him. Communication is the key. Tell him you want him to compliment you not just in the bedroom. Men need to be told once in awhile what makes us tick. Then we dont feel like just a piece of ass.

[coconutelixir]

I know what you mean, I knew a guy like that before... it does make you feel self conscious until you realize, imagine putting effort into looking good with makeup and stuff and no one notices? That's worse lol As for compliments before sex... a turned on guy is gonna act different when turned on, and everyone's beauty is enhanced 10x during intimate times so there you go. The fact that he's actually said he loves how you look naturally too means he really is overall attracted to you and all you have to offer :) Don't worry. Embrace.

[Dave20152]

Isn't it weird how logic tends to go away, when were turned on?

[Dave20152]

We're*

[coconutelixir]

@Dave20152 No not really weird... logic kills joy. It serves no biological purpose in arousal lol

[Dave20152]

But if you know something's wrong, but ignore it, aren't you letting emotion kill logic?

[coconutelixir]

@Dave20152 What do you mean knowing something is wrong? Like being attracted to someone underage? I think in arousal, emotion becomes overwhelmingly overpowering over logic... so you'd have to actively fight it, because naturally you're turned on.

[Dave20152]

This my statement being true, logic kind of goes away when ur turned on

[coconutelixir]

@Dave20152 O yea, I was agreeing with you on that. I was just saying biology is the reason for it

[MixedTwit]

I personally ally don't like being complemented all the time, I like when I put makeup on and get all dressed up for a guy to complement me bc I actually tried. But it's always cute when u look like shit and a guy still calls u beautiful so it depends how u feel about complements and if u want a guy that complements u when ur without make up then maybe u should b upset

[SuttonBrittany]

Guys are absent minded and don't pay attention to things like that, nothing more serious than that. Don't over think. :)

[AustinMan]

The message seems clear to me: wear the darn makeup every time you see him. It's part of what makes the chemistry work for him. Not saying it's fair. It's not but it's the way things are for you two.

[samhradh_leannan]

OR, find a boyfriend who is attracted to your actual face. There's always that option.

[AustinMan]

@samhradh_leannan The actual face for most men is that face with make up but I concede your point.

[RachelBrigs]

That's shitty advice.

[AustinMan]

I expected mixed results from the ladies. I was not disappointed. Men are just mortals, just like women.

[Alyssass]

He sounds like he is just complimenting how you look, which is a little bit nice because it means that he notices and he is paying attention to how you appear. That would make me feel sooo self-conscious though, like if they only said it for sex or when I was wearing a bunch of makeup.

[summiter]

I think it is time to ask him, if he says it cause he wants a great orgasm or if he means it. He should say it outside of sex if he means it. How is your sex life with him? Is he into it only for the sex or more? Do you get some great orgasms out of the deal?

[TheBootyChest]

I had an answer for you but then I finished the story and got confused on what to say. I think he compliments you when he knows you made the extra effort to make yourself look beautiful. That was the sweet part.

But the fact that he doesn't do it any other time is kinda weird.

The sex part is all about the sex. He really enjoyed it and wants to make sure you know he likes it and wants more.

[ObviouslyBored]

This. He admires the extra effort you put in your look so he compliments it. He needs to be more consistent too though. Complimenting you when you aren't wearing it as well.

[TheBootyChest]

@ObviouslyBored I know it's hard for guys to give compliments to women. Whether it's someone in a relationship or not. But it's good to know that he is doing it somewhat. Give him time to come around and compliment you more. Tell him how much you love it when he compliments you when you look natural. Sometimes men are stupid. You need to come right out and say things. I think it's against what you want to have happened, cause you want him to do it on his own but we aren't mind readers. It's not always that we don't want to do something you want, we just don't know that you want/need it.

[ObviouslyBored]

Well said

[TheBootyChest]

@ObviouslyBored thank you.

[AryaP]

Just ask him straight up does he like it when u put on make up or does he prefer natural. To me it seems like he doesn't give a fuck if ur wearing make up or not. For him to compliment you before/after sex is kind of weird but w/e dont turn into a big deal. I guess he could be trying to make u feel more comfortable/special in that moment? I don't know lol

[Maik567]

He's obviously trying to hint at you to use make up more often, but yeah he's doing it in a really assholish way.

[Insecure1636]

He is making the comments when you wear makeup because it is something out of the ordinary. Like if someone gets a haircut people likely would say nice haircut but on regularly days may not comment. For the sex part its just a guy being complimentary to keep you in the mood and because he probably does find you more attractive when you are riding his cock.

[Rensin]

I think it might be that he just wants you to know he noticed your change. Or during sex he wants to say it so you know for sure that he finds you captivating.

[aliencreature]

dude typical woman. you give them ANYTHING and they immediately come to expect it ALWAYS otherwise you are somehow oppressing them. this is why i dont ever flatter or compliment women.

[genericname85]

sex is the best opportunity to show affection and to give each other compliments and recognition. if you´d like to have it more often and outside of sex, just tell him.

[genericname85]

also if you wear makeup, a guy gives you compliments in order to praise your effort. not like you´d be ugly otherwise xD

[annoyymouse]

It sounds like he likes you both ways, but really like you make up. I don't think that's a big deal

[VampireEmpress]

it's pretty obvious why he does it. please don't let guys use you...

[EnigmaJay]

Be happy he notices when you make the effort to look better

[TheSpartan]

Women tend to look better with makeup on, so your makeup self looks better than your natural self. So, if your natural self is comparatively your least beautiful self, why would he compliment you when you are at your least attractive?

It's the same reason somebody won't tell you your car looks great when it's dirty, even if it's a nice car; comparatively, it looks better when it's clean.

[TheOneLol]

You are making a big deal for nothing.

[LordZero]

I never had a girlfriend.

[thatphucker]

You're prettiest on all fours?

[BackInGame]

*in schawrzenegger voice* dump him right now

[CapitanMurica]

Just looking for a reason to get upset huh? Lol