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Guys, how do you feel about sex with fat (Obese, not thick) girls?

So first off, I am an obese girl. I have polycystic ovarian syndrome and have an extremely hard time losing weight. That being said, I was huge at 5'7 and 310 lbs about a year ago. Right now I am down to about 240 and still losing through a lot of blood, sweat, and tears, but I am still very big and my body is definitely not what one would call "ideal". I met a guy that I really clicked with online, and I want to go meet up with him. He has seen pics and I sent him a full body clothed pic so I am not trying to "fatfish" him. The thing is though, I look very different clothed versus nude. I have cellulite, fat rolls, stretch marks, etc. and I have come to terms with them, but even though he says he is ok with what he saw, I worry it will be a different story when I take my clothes off. He is about 6'1 or 6'2 and average weight. We've discussed it, and he said he is a "face guy", but I know in the past he dated either very thin or average women (he isn't the chubby-chasing type). I am wondering if I should just go for it and meet up with him? I love sex, and I am confident during, and I don't lie there like a dead fish. Me previous partner always loved having sex with me, was very pleased, and never minded my body (even though he also didn't normally date larger women) I do not get to have sex a lot due to having a hard time finding someone I am comfortable with. I know he says he is ok with it, but I don't think he has ever been with a big girl, and I am scared to death he will be so turned off that he won't be able to get/keep a boner or something awkward like that. Guys, have you ever had sex with a woman who was obese (she had rolls, cellulite, etc)? How did her weight affect your sex life? Were you able to get turned on, even if you only had had sex with thin/average women normally?
Go for it, meet up with him
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Wait until you lose more weight so he finds you more attractive naked
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Most Helpful Girls

  • Im actually about your weight before you lost weight but a couple inches taller, and although I'm bigger I carry my weight pretty well. I went on a date with a gorgeous guy i met online a few nights ago, he's very athletic but I think he likes bigger girls. Long story short we have a second date lined up for tomorrow! Don't hold back, if he doesn't accept you now he doesn't deserve you 50lbs lighter! If you don't go you're sabotaging yourself. Focus on foreplay, It builds anticipation and gets the guy into it, if you're self conscious buy yourself some lingire to cover up anything that you may be insecure about.

    • I carry mine mostly in my chin, lower stomach, upper arms, and thighs, the rest of me isn't too bad - I agree, if he doesn't want me now then he doesn't deserve 50 lbs lighter! Thanks for that :) I like the idea of lingerie, and I always focus on foreplay ;o haha! Thanks again!

  • Girrlll if he really likes you your weight wouldn't really matter. Don't stress it if he doesn't like you then fuck him ! If it's not him it's some other guy that'll accept how the way you are fat, skinny whatever it is he'll love you no matter what ! Good luck gorgeous !

    • That's true, maybe I am just overthinking it a lot. :)

  • You'll be fine girly. From what you wrote it seems like he really likes you. Don't stress and be confident! Confidence is very attractive and he will like that about you!:) Congratulations on the weight loss by the way!

    • Thanks so much :) I will try to be as confident as possible!

Most Helpful Guys

  • I'm probably a terrible survey subject on this subject. I was married to morbidly obese for 27 years and I hated every second of it from the physical perspective. I'd get down in the 140 range if you can at all and deal with any cosmetic issues first. But remember, I'm very biased.

    • I'm working on it! Almost down 100lbs now, I plan to get to an acceptable BMI for my height. Thanks for your input.

    • Godspeed!! I admire your grit!

  • If he isn't stupid he knows whats under this clothing. And he likes it. I can't understand it, but there are people who actually do. If he didn't, he wouldn't have talked to you in first place. I know that from myself.

    • That's true, no I don't think he is stupid. I think I am just being super nervous.

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What Girls & Guys Said

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  • Go for it! Beauty is in the eye of the beholder

    • Thanks for your help!

  • Some guys are ok with fat girls. I'm not. I would never go out with a girl who is fat. Ideally, I can put my arms around a woman and my fingers can touch my opposite elbows without effort.

    If the guy knows you are fat, then don't worry too much.

    • Thank you for helping!

  • ... Obese people need to focus on their health before they go around thinking about having sex. This can also be applied to extremely anorexic people too.

  • Just do you boo.
    Go in for the kill.
    If he doesn't like your body, well then so be it.
    Show him what he's working with and leave him wanting more.

    • Thanks, it's hard, but I try to be confident :)

    • No probz darling

  • Give me a few brewskies and ill see what i wanna see

    • Lol, me too!

  • Go for it bony be worried or ashamed. If he sed he's ok with it then he likes you for who you are. Are you going to sit on his face?

    • Go for it don't be worried

    • Lol! I didn't plan to sit on his face, poor guy could suffocate! J/k! Thanks for answering!

    • He could ask you to. I know I would. Bigger girls are hot

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  • He likes YOU. Sometimes you surprise yourself when you fall for someone, someone you would have never considered. As @Bimbobambo says, he knows what a girl looks like under his clothes and if he's attracted to you, his imagination has probably done overtime.

    In my experience, some heavier girls are dead fish and others go for it. I think you should go for it, too.

    • Never thought of it from this perspective, it is totally possible to fall for someone despite them not fitting your ideal looks.

    • It's really hard to explain but attractiveness is such a weird and personal thing that you can never anticipate when someone will have just the right combination of things (that aren't your usual thing) that you find them irresistible. Part of that combination is personality, of course, but even physically you can find yourself looking at someone and thinking 'wow' while also thinking 'I never thought I'd find x attractive like *that*'.

  • Go for it and meet him. He already has an idea of what your body looks like and if a few pounds bothers him then you’re better off without him.

    Keep us updated though.

  • Tell him all this if you feeling uncomfortable, 240 pounds fat are pretty hard to miss doe lol (no offense)

    But I personally would never do it, but ask him this

    • I did tell him, he just told me to stop worrying lol! Thank you for your help!

    • Then there you go, don't worry. It'd only kill it

  • I have a fit body abd I like women like that too

  • "he isn't the chubby-chasing type"

    That's a good thing for you though right? As you're trying to lose weight, a chubby chaser might leave when you lose a bit more.

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